Lazy people makes me crazy

I think he is more than old enough to do those things. And besides, he is not in his own home, so he might as well help around and not be a burden, right? Why not ask them to help around the house since there is nobody else to do it when you are in the office. Just tell him in a subtle way.

I think that your nephew is very inconsiderate to behave that way. He should at least help you knowing that you are working and do not have a helper at home. And yes of course, thinking that he is already 28 years old, he should at least know that he should not be leaving his own mess like that. Maybe you can talk to him and ask him to do some cleaning, well of course in a nice way.

Is he visiting you or does he live with you? From what your saying he is only visiting you and then that would make him a guest in your home. It seems to me that perhaps he feels that he does not have to clean up after him self as he is a guest in your home. As for no job its hard times right now maybe he cant find work in his field. If it makes you so crazy then I would simply tell him that your not his mother or his maid and that you will no longer clean up after him that he is a grown man and can clean up after him self. Tell him that he is a guest in your home and that as a guest you expect him to at least to clean up after him self. I know that when you have people staying with you it tends to get pretty aggravating when they dont see that you are doing every thing for them with nothing in return.

Lazy people drive me nuts as well However, I have to say that I think that in this situation it isn't necessarily that your nephew is lazy. As you said, he is on vacation and when you are on vacation you do want to take a break from everything that you typically have to do. So, it simply could be that your nephew doesn't realize that you would like for him to clean up after himself while he is at your place. Of course it could also be that he is a generally lazy person, but I can't tell that for sure because I don't know your nephew.

We actually have common problem. But, in my case, those lazy people who freak me out are living with me. Meaning, not on a vacation. They don't cook. Sleep late just playing and using the computer. Get up late, late as in sleeping til lunch time. Then don't how to wash dishes, cook food, feed our pets, clean their mess, a real parasites. Sorry for the term but thats how i see them. THEM= many. So that's worst. And when they do something, they keep on complaining. I never understand why there are people like that. How can they manage to live their lives like that? Sometimes, this conclusion comes to my mind. Since they seems like a parasites, the reason why they are like that is because, they still have hosts to suck and to use. Since I'm not in the position to talk to the, I can't advice them or better nag them. But, in your case, if you think you are their HOST and you are in the position, well, better speak out.

I think he needs to respect your space at the very least and clean up after himself while he's staying with you. Its funny I know a lot of young men who act like this but they usually grow out of it by the time they are 28. Has he expressed wanting to get married someday or having kids? Does he have a girlfriend? I man that is too lazy to work and lives in a pig sty sounds like lady repellent. He should want to get a job or at least go to school. He needs to realize that his family cannot take care of him his entire life. Has anyone tried sitting down and having a serious talk with him? He obviously has spending money if he's buying all kinds of junk food. Maybe cut him off at least in part? What I think he needs is a girlfriend. I bet she'd make him clean up after himself lol. If you do try to talk to him I'd start out asking him what his goals were. If he doesn't have any goals or aspirations in life then I think he needs to find some. If he wants a girlfriend or a family someday getting his act together is also something for him to consider. I'd also maybe mention how you're concerned about how he does not take care of himself. Then maybe end the conversation about how you feel about the mess. If he does nothing all day at the very least he can clean up after himself. I hope things get better. Come back and tell us how it all works out.

Where is his common decency and respect? You can be nice about this and say nothing to him and his behavior will not change. You can say something to him about cleaning up after himself. I really don't think that him staying in your house, eating your food, using your water, electric, etc. is doing you any favors so the least he could do is clean up after himself. You are worried about him getting mad, if it were me, I would be the one that was upset and angry. My step-son was doing similar things and when I confronted him, he got angry and said exactly what you said your nephew would say "you're not my mother!" and my reply was "no, I'm not your mother, I'm not your maid, either. Clean up after yourself or go home to your mother!" He's getting a free ride. You say he's 28 years old? He should have enough common sense and respect to know he shouldn't be acting like this. It's rude, disrespectful and I would make him earn his keep. If you make this 'vacation' of his easy on him, he might just decide to stay longer than 4 days. Can you handle that?

I think its just men. I have a hard time with my boyfriend. I just ask for the clothez to be in the laundry hamper i hate them laying on the ground. I understand why my boyfriend doesnt do the dishes but that bugs me too, his mom leaves dishes in the sink as well so hes doing what his mom does. My brother used to leave pizza boxes on the kitchen counter and used to drive me crazy so one day i put it is his room and he got mad and threw it all over. Its men i swear

I would certainly tell him. And if he says that you are not his mom, you can reply that is is your house. I once told one of my grandchildren (he wwas very little) that he should not get into my things on my drawer. His father heard me and told me that with that way of thinking, they would not visit me anymore. I replied that I had not invited me, that in my house things were done my way and that he could go if he wished: no one was retaining him. He shut his big mouth and the kids were taught to behave, at least in my presence.

I hate lazy people, too. If someone is staying somewhere for a longer time, not as a guest for an afternoon, they should clean up after themselves... it's just disrespectful to those who accommodate them.

I have a sister like that. Comes to visit and leaves her dirty clothes all over the place. i cant be that way. Why are they so darn lazy?

it's so insensitive of him. why should he be? i think he must be spoiled where he is coming from, yet you have to talk to him about it. talk to him with mildness and try to show him why it is important, related or not, why he should help out in house chores.

I will not tolerate laziness around me. If you make a mess you better clean it up. It's like I used to tell my sister's step son. He's in his twenties. I'm not your mother, your wife, your lover, nor your maid. You made the mess you can clean it up. when my son and his wife lived with me she didn't think she had to do anything because as she put it "it weren't her place". She didn't think she had to help pay any bills or help with groceries. She would only cook for her and my son. When I got home from work I had to clean her mess and cook my dinner. When she washed clothes she'd wash theirs and not mine and I was buying the detergent. I finally said enough was enough. After seven months I told them they had to go. She got me so mad that I made her pack her stuff and put her out in the middle of the night. It may sound cruel, but I was working night shift and working two jobs and working 7 days a week, supporting her sorry behind. I'm not going to work and come home and clean up behind a grown man. I had to stay with my sister for awhile and take care of her two girls while her husband was in the hospital. Her girls would empty a snack cake box and leave the empty box in the cabinet. I asked them one day did the box get heavier after it was emptied. They wouldn't take out the trash until it was spilling over into the floor and you made them do it. I finally told them both that the next time I had to tell them to take the trash out they'd clean it out of their bed. I'd pulled the covers back and dump it in their bed. There is no excuse for laziness or nastiness. If I were you, I'd tell him. I wouldn't care if he did get mad. Spoiled or not he's 28, it's time to grow up.

Hello, I think everybody has to take care after him, to wash their dishes, to tidy their room or wash their clothes. Wow, no job until 28? That's really bad, people should tell him truth, maybe then he motivates to reach any of his life goals instead of being lazy and sit over someone. My little son who is 2 years old now tries to take toys where they are supposed to be after playing, "help" my wife to clean rooms. It would make me crazy too. Happy myLotting!

If he hasn't been taught that he has to do these things he may not be being intentionally lazy, he just may not think about it. But being angry is not good for you, is there anything aggressive about him, or is he quite a good tempered person? because how you deal with it must depend on his temperament. But if he is 28 he needs to learn to do these things, if you can't gently suggest to him that it would be good if he did these things, you could just try coming home, and pretend to be very tired and say you can't possibly cook dinner because you are too tired and there is too much washing up, and see if he responds to that. But try not to get too angry, as its bad for you, so just be glad he isn't staying permanently.

May I ask who is washing his dishes etc? It's simple: if someone stays at your place he/she has to live by your rules. If not kick that person out. If you do not want to clean up his mess DO NOT! If your mother (or others) don't care to do so it's there own free choice. As long as you take care of someone you will only encourage that person not to do anything! So partly you agree with that person being lazy, since no matter how angry you get or how much you complain in the end you will do that person's job anyway. So that person won't take you serious at all.

That is one bad situation. Doesn't he want the income or a job? How can he pay any of his bills if he doesn't work? He is lazy leaving the house a mess and not doing the dishes. I thank god my brother has a job at least. This is something your sister needed to address when he was younger about the cleaning up at least, yes she spoiled him that way. What do you mean he is on vacation? He doesn't work or have a job so he is always on vacation, right? He is just staying with you temporarily or for good?

There is no way to disagree with this, I don't like people who are so lazy. I hope he can find the way to look a certain job. Life will not be the same thing if you get old without any accomplishments in life. Have a great day!

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