i am much closer to my mom more than my father, what about you?
By missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
Philippines
November 2, 2012 2:43am CST
so i can say that i am much closer to my mom as to parent - children relationship rather having an intimate feelings with my papa. it is because, papa is always travelling for his works. i so remember that he came home to us his family only once a year until many years is coming and passing, he got home every weekly. papa is very strict parent to all of us. he liked us to excel always in class and to be on the top list from the honoured students. somewhat he is to be respected of course but we are afraid of him for being a stern father to us. that made us feels like we cannot breath for we are being guarded of his wills most of the time. we hate that but of course we all knew that it was being done because it was his ways to train us to become successful in life. and now, we came to know that we love him so even of his shortcomings to us his children. this holiday is being dedicated to our deceased father and so.
turning into our mother's good qualities. generally, mother always have a soft heart spot to her kids. she tended our needs and do the best she can to have a good life. she is even a forgiving mother as cannot be avoided to commit mistakes all of the time... so thanks for her.
so what about, from your parents, you are close with whom? thanks
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16 responses
@olivetree27 (495)
• Greece
13 Nov 12
Since, my parents separated when I'm still in my mother's womb. I'm close to my mother the most. I do talk to my dad but perhaps even if they're together, I will still be closer to my mom because my mother is caring and always give what I want. Not that I grew up being spoiled, she's also strict sometimes but she can understand me and always want to amke sure that I'm happy.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
good that you are happy even your mother used to raised you alone. i guess the love of the mother is very different compared with others maybe because they carried us and bear us after nine months. so the feeling of love is very different. so thanks for joining :)
@watchamacallitz (1171)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
When my parents separated, I became closer to my father than my mom since she got herself a new husband and I really didn't like the thought of that. But now, everything seems to get back to what we use to be before though i still am closer to my dad.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
i am really fond of seeing such scenario of father and child pondering and showing affection of love because although we knew that our father do loved us he was not kinda showy and were too shy to show to him-so i guess you are lucky enough .. so flourish it more along with your parents
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
3 Nov 12
In most of the times I had seen that, a girl loves her dad the most than a mother and along with it a boy loves her mom a lot than others and I am very glad to tell you that I love both of them a lot and I find there there is something more piece of love to my mother. I don't know why is it so. I don't know the exact reason for it.
@anggunmelati (551)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 12
I love my father. And I love my mother too. Both of them are nice to me. They always help me when I got trouble in my life. Some times, I got angry by my father and some time I got angry by my mother but I still love them both. My mother always teach me everything that I have to know to get success in my life
@Avazhang (22)
• China
3 Nov 12
Hi,Jahn,this is a good topic.For me,I am also closer to my mum than my father.
I think the reason is that my father is not good at expressing love to me.Moreover,in my childhood,my father was always going out to make money,so we do not have many chances to talk to each other.On the contrary,I stayed with mum all the time,going shopping together,eating together,watching TV togeher,etc.
Sometimes,I do feel it is necessary to talk to my father,just to share good things,to make him langh,to get him to me closer,just like me and mum,etc.You know,we have grown up,but our parents become old day by day.Something we should do now.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
most of the fathers do that, i mean they are the who shouldered the responsibility of feeding the family and buying the needs of each even nowadays it is practical that both parents should held each others hand to help one another as they established their family. but along with this reason of the father have to work, the relationship between the two parties, the kids and the father will be at risk. but if the father do not work at all, what else will gonna happened. so i guess sometimes we should understand them because what they is just for our own good so that we something to eat and educate us as they spend us to schools.. so thanks for joining :)
@Thiruneesh (107)
• India
3 Nov 12
Generally girls are close with mom and boys are close with father. i close with my father and my son.
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
2 Nov 12
I think i am a bit closer to my mother than my father , but i am close with them both. It is almost equal with them both how close i am to them. My mom has always been my best friend as well as a m strict helpful mother. I am 40 yrs old and still call myself daddy's little girl. My dad has always been there for the kids helped us punished us not too badly or strict , but in a way that we needed. Both my parents were there for us kids. Yes there was me and my 2 siblings. I can tho however talk to my mom about things better than my dad but my dad is always there for me. So I'd say i'm closer to my mom than my dad , but it is so close it is almost equal. I always had great parents.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
good for you and you are lucky to be consider that you are close to both of your parents. well to add, parents have different qualities and that make them distinguish from another parents specially. well, if you want a thing either you love to approach your mother or your father; depends whom you feels like to approach too. so thanks for joining here:)
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
2 Nov 12
I think that as a a female i had a closer bond with my mother than i did with my father. there are certain cirumatances that bring us these stages in our lives. they may turn around but are for te most part classified that way.@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
hello sender...
one factor too why daughters is much closer to mommy's. but excluding that, one factor that may affect is emotional factor where mom's have affection with their children and much tolerating with us. on the other hand, father's were used to be like that as well. everyone's attitude would bring the closeness to the children-parent relationship in the house for a purpose. thanks
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
I think it is but normal for any child to be close to her/his mother. I should say I was fine with both my mother and father. But I remember they were not into physically showing their love to us, not much hugs and kisses, but they were always there for us, giving us what we needed so we could survive. My parents were loving parents but weren't so big on the kisses and hugging.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
my mom used to kissed us when we are much younger but as we grow older, no more kissing because we were already shy. until now, my mother never failed to understand us her children no matter what. she is an ever supportive mother of all times. so thanks for joining :)
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
2 Nov 12
Well, I still have a father and mother, both alive. And just for this fact, I already feel lucky. I had friends who had lost both parents at a much younger age than mine.
However, as I already mentioned in my other threads, is there not a good feeling between me and my parents. Or rather, for the most part this happens with my father. With him, my brother and I practically have broken all relations with him.
Of course, the basis of all there are also reasons why we two are "guilty" of this breakdown in the relationship with the father, that's clear!
So where is my mother, at least in my case, fortunately relations are good.
I personally also help her with housework, and when I can, even economically.
I still think that both me and my brother, we are still in time to wish us well even from our dear father!
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
my friend, it is apparent to you that personally you and your brother have something to do with the breaches so try to abridge it. well, good for you that you are contributing something in your house in terms of money and doing household chores.
thanks
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
I can say that I'm more closer now to my Dad. Time really will tell when things will go to their right perspective. I lost my Mom at age 13 and one thing I can remember is that I was closer to her for everything she do - she cooks for my favorite food, bring me to sleep and stuff like that. I really missed those days and I can say that the "closer" thing depends on the one who is present on that specific period of time. Thanks
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
oh sorry to hear that. but do not worry, your mom wanted you to bring in your life the best in you and she succeed upon seeing you right now. oh yes, agree. you can ask them depends on a situation because parents have different characteristics whether mother or father is tolerable on what your begging to have or not. so as knowing that, yourself will know whom you approach. but for me, i always asked with my mom even before when my papa is still with us. thanks
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
I am closer with my mom now than to my father because my mom is always there when i need her. My father when i was young was very busy working in the field and we can only see him at night, even though my mom was working too but she made sure to have a enough time to take care of me and my siblings. Aside from my husband, my mom can understand who i feel and never let me down. She taught a lot of things in life like cooking, sewing and planting. I made a lot of mistakes in the past but my mom understand everything and never judge me. Now that i am married i am very thankful because she still guiding and helping me to maintain a good relationship with my husband.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
hello bhebs...
father is the pillar and must be the one to work to feed the family as our tradition told us so. that is why your father was at farm always. and so nice of your mom that she spent enough time to teach things in life that is worthwhile to abide with for it can be used in actual presentation of life. and see how far you have gone in life with your family now. so thanks for joining :)
@riyauro (6421)
• India
2 Nov 12
I am close to both my parents and I love them equally. My dad was always with us as he was working in our town. I have seen that my hubby and his siblings are not close to the father because of the same reason as yours. he was abroad and the mother also could not control the kids. she spoilt them totally..yeah true. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
wow, you are lucky to consider pertaining to that thing. i guess not all of the children which close to their family and having a child like you who loves her parents equally. i guess, it happened because no affection had been made between the father or mother to a child. my mother used to spoiled us but in a meaningful way and exact terms of disciplining us even we were too hard headed. that is why, all the merits were having right now in our lives are credited to her, three-fourth of it. thanks
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Nov 12
My mom passed away a year ago. My dad is still with us. But I was always much closer to my mom than my dad. Im still not very close to my dad. he live in las vegas usa and Im here in mexico. He calls several times a week. But are relationship has always been just so so.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
like me... we have our different reasons or alike one why we are much closer to our mother compared with our father. well, my father was a strict man. he punished us every time we committed mistakes. he used to spanked us and he did not wanted us to spent our times outside the house. during our high school period, our routine were just house - school, school - house until we reached in college when there were activities to be held at night. he permitted us to go. thanks
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
2 Nov 12
I am not too close to either of my parents. Maybe because my dad is like yours, who's always away for work when I was growing up and my mom would also leave us with our nanny because she's got to go to work. My dad was in the mideast then when the gulf war exploded so for a time he wasn't able to send some allowance and its my mom's salary that made us see it thru. So, I think I'm closer to my siblings because I became the second mother. But my parents made sure that all of us wouldn't want for anything especially for our studies.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
my mother goes to work too but she tends our needs so to ponder us. but in your case, even they are not always present and not able to mingle with because they are working, at least, they are securing your future. and look at you now, you had grown into a successful young woman and you must be happy with that.
thanks
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
well, when i can see kids who lovingly clinging to their father asking of something, i am fond of looking that scene because my father used to be sweeter to us when he is drank. maybe he cannot express what he felt when not under the spirit of liquor. well, i just asked, never tried that thing with my father, what if we used to do that? i guess i would be happy so. but even that, we knew he wanted the best we can have in life upon growing up
