To stay calm

rubyroy: I think you really have to pick your battles. I think it would be really sad to be in a situation where you are all alone. I can not imagine life without someone to talk to. I sincerely hope that you do not feel that you are alone and defenseless. If so, please feel free to add me to your friends list and email me. I will be your sounding board. I think that I do a fairly good job of remaining calm. I generally say what I have to say and let it go. Some things are just not important enough for me to argue or stress out over. I have an advantage of knowing that I always have someone in my corner and cannot be defeated, even when the aggressor thinks that he or she has won. I have a husband who supports me in all that I endeavor to do. I have famiy and friends who love me just as I am, but most importantly, I have my God who I know will never leave me. I have only known one person who could remain absolutely calm in any situation. That was my mother. She never let anyone get to her and she never had a negative word to say about anyone. She had the faith and patience of a saint. Though she passed on these things to me in some measure, I unfortunately inherited my father's short temper, and as a consequence, have to struggle with controlling my tongue and temper on rare occasions. Most often this occurs when I feel like someone else is being mistreated.

staying calm and collected takes real effort but is the only true and tested way to solve stressful situations. the only other way, responding and reacting to the situation could worsen your stress.

I know some but unfortunately I am living in stressful situation where people are putting me down and didn't treated me well. I am now in depression.

I have gone through a lot since I was in my teens. Basically, I would just spare my parents from all my troubles. I have always tried to solve things on my own. Even in my marriage, there would certainly be a lot of issues that has almost crumbled my world, but, I try to just mask it off, for the reason of not wanting to explain to people. I manage to make myself feel alright. I have to.

I think those saints and relief believer could be calm and peaceful in the most adverse situation, most of us can't, especially me.haha:)

yes being calm and praying is the best thing u can do if u feel empty inside

I used to be like that...calm in an abusive situation but eventually after I grew up and dealt with it every day in a different way, I started standing up for myself and it eventually escalated to where I couldn't deal with it any longer. I guess what I used to do as a kid, was always think that it would be over soon and if I lived another day, it was a good thing, thinking that one day I would grow up and not have to deal with abuse anymore. I remember with my parents and my ex, I would always sing a comforting song in my head or think of something that would take my mind off of what was being said or done.

hi, to stay calm or peace of mind,i will just remain silent and will go out without anyone,i want to be alone,so thankful because i have many friends and my family always be there for me no matter what happen.when i defeated i will just accept it and realize it.

Thinking calm is a very good ability. I would be happy if I could do it... Well it's not that difficult as many people believes. Before acting stop and count to 10. This works! Also try to relax, listen to a music after work to avoid being to stressed. If we could stay calm we could save a lot of energy and make better decisions. Well I hope I will be a person with such nature.

Yes, yes, I definitely agree with you. "Calm" is one of the easiest word to say, but is actually one of the hardest thing to do. I must be honest that I cannot promise to practice it all the time. But right now, I'm learning the art of staying calm one step at a time. I really salute those who have the gift of staying ultimately calm regardless of the adversity and the situation.