When your girl chat with boys on Facebook and hides it to you, is she cheating?

Hi! How does it amounts to cheating I can not understand. Your friend has per personal life and she is free to chat with anyone. If she already has a boy friend that does not mean she would stop chatting with any other guy. To tell about her conversation or interaction with the other guy to her existing boy friend is her personal choice and she can not be forced to reval everything.

I think we all have private life and as far as one is sharing room, it doesn't mean she has to share each and everything to your friend. I think she just wants some privacy i guess. It is not bad. maybe their chat is on the verge or such that they are falling in love and then that is why she does not want to disclose it now to your friend that maybe she take wrong meaning and spoil their friendship. I mean your friend should not bother at all. I don't see it as cheating at all my friend. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead..

ya that sounds like there is more going on then she tell her. if she wasn't hiding any thing then there wouldn't be a need to delet her conversation with that guy. there is free software out there that your friend can get that tracks every thing that is typed on the computer and what site it was typed on. i had used it with one of my ex-girlfriends. we had made a pack that we would save out passwords on the cmputer for our facebooks. it wasn't until she changed her password that i download a software to find out what she was tring to hide. i dont remember what it was call, but it helped me out a great deal. to my surprise she was saying bad things about me to some other guy and was flirting with that person. i confronted her about it, but she said loved me and that there wasn't anything going on. i ended up printing all the conversation that the software had recorded and showed it to her. at that point she came clean about it. i end that relationship and worned that guy that she was chatting with about it. told him that if she did it to me that theres no reason that she wouldn't do it to him.

I don't approve to it as long as the girl hides.This my personal experience.My ex-girl friend went on to talk to a guy in facebook.She told me that she used to talk,but I never got to know about what they talked and when they talked.But later I found that she used to talk in webcam for hours with him and also she started to spend time with him in his home.It is then that she cheated me to go with that guy.I don't condemn a partner talking to others though facebook,but it is the conscience to cheat is the one to regret if we have we have been open minded to allow her to talk to every guy freely.

a conversation like that means only one thing. She's cheating on him.

In this case I think it is a cheating or sneaking,but meanwhile I also think that people fall in love but still need to give their partner some private space,things will come to a bad ending if it is too tight,right? But if that girl's heart do not lay on your friends so may be let her go is a good ending,next will be the best!

I have conversation with people here every day and on Facebook , I dont ave to hide because its not that kinda a chat . people normally hide when they are doing something they know is wrong so yes I would classified it as cheating . Some people are very deceiving and I think that girl is a cheater . I would just open my Facebook account and talk to who ever in front of my boyfriend because its just a normal clean conversation .

I doubt there will be an update anytime soon, if at all. For starters this was his first post, Second, about 80% of the time these threads occur they get advice they don't want to hear and ignore it. Then maybe a few months down the road they update it with us being right and the chick cheating on them outright.

I'm sorry to say but I believe she is cheating! Why would she secretly have a conversation to some other guy and not very open to his boyfriend? Then she is up to something. Of course the boyfriend will react.

When a person chats with someone and hides it from you then it means that it is something top secret. The person is worried that, whether it will be seen by a third party this is the reason why she deletes it. Any way the parent should have a eye it so that she do not goes to a wrong path. I felt that this is not charting but she is not ready to reveal it to anybody.

Hi friend, trust is important in every relationship, your friend must trust his girl friend as well as she must be an open book to him and don't hide anything to him if she is in real love. The message mentioned by you is really make some doubts, as you mentioned she is hiding about her chat messages to your friend, may be she is interested with that new guy.

I think it is not the proper to talk over fb. It needs to have it personally. What do you think?

Nowaday, a lot of girls join hiring social website, that is truth. I often so. There are many reasons to do that. But my main reason is I do not want other persons disturbing. Because I do not have a mount of time to chat with others. When your friends known you joining but you do not want chat with them, they will be sad. And what do you think ?

No. You should not think like that. She may did this for her privacy from other guys and secrecy from parents and relatives. If she is trying to hide these things only from her boyfriend, we can consider it as cheating.

Cheating for not telling who the guy she is chatting with? It could be a girl, you know. Even if it's a guy, some people can develop a unique relationship between friends which are not the same feelings as they have with their partners that could be the reason the girl feels if she shares it with her man, he would not understand or misunderstand. It won't go anywhere if the boyfriend keeps on assuming. Best way is to ask why he feels like she's hiding something from him. It seems both of them are insecures, so they must communicate for peace of mind.

from what the girl did, i think it's cheating..because in the first place, why would you add someone you didn't know and make some conversations like that..then just delete your conversation to leave no traces on what you talked..for me, if you're not hiding something, you shouldn't delete it.. but still, both must still talk about it..maybe they have problems on their relationship that your friend didn't noticed..

We all have our privacy,we can talk with who we like,if it is not affect the relationship with her boyfriend, that is ok. But is she continue keep ambiguous relationship with the other man,I think she's cheating to her boyfriend.

From what I read, the girl is clearly cheating her boyfriend. Yes, she has a privacy but to me this in not privacy anymore because she is clearly hiding something. She's either a flirt or already having a relationship with the other guy. She's a two timer, believe me. I won't trust a girl like that. Have a good day. Ciao!

They should really talk about it. We can't assume on anything. And we can't even judge the girl outright. Probably there are issues between them that they have to settle, or maybe there are details which you actually don't know yet. There is always a reason for everything. If they love each other, they will have to talk and of course, trust each other. :)

in a word, i can't bear it