My brother follows me wherever I go!
By alberello
@alberello (4752)
Italy
November 4, 2012 4:01pm CST
Dear friends Mylotters.
As I've said before, between me and my brother unfortunately we have not good relations, this because of his arrogant and overbearing behavior towards me.
This afternoon, my mom wanted to go downtown to see a show of dancing. Last I decided to go with her, so as not to remain alone in the house with my brother.
Me and her, we went by public transport. Once you arrive on the site and have found the exact address, entered the room that unfortunately the show was just finished.
My mother began to speak with the staff of the place and suddenly the phone rings. He was my brother!
I replied, thinking wanted to ask me something, but he was already in the vicinity of the building, he wanted reach us immediately. I think because he did not know what else to do.
We left the building and saw him out, so once again we spent a Sunday afternoon all three together, me 37, him 26, with the "mommy"!
My brother follows me wherever I go!
These things make me nervous!
However, I am sincere. If my brother changed attitude of arrogance towards me. No matter the past, he would always be welcome!
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16 responses
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
4 Nov 12
Hi friend... I think you already know the answer... It appears to me that both of you love each other.. And you could make the best brothers... It is only that you've some differences... Will those differences be diminished on their own? No! You need to talk to him and explain to him, how his arrogance puts you off... That'll settle the thing, once and forever... And as I said, you'll be the best brothers.... Good Luck!
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@alberello (4752)
• Italy
5 Nov 12
Well, my hope, that never fade is always to succeed in a not too distant future, to have a relationship with my brother at par, or from man to man!
I emphasize, however, that both me and him, even though we have problems of a different nature. I'm ready to dialogue, now it's up to him to listen to me.
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@franseman (516)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
I agree! But you really need a good talk first. Finding out what each of you want from each other. Also you have to make clear that you want your own life as well. Your own firends and interests for example.
Wish all the luck!!!!
@bandrm (4)
•
5 Nov 12
Do not worry about the fact that your brother following you wherever you go, you may want to accompany you for being believed that you will need and either wants to accompany you being his brother and wants Atzla you on your way and but i fajaa follow me, because he emulated me
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@alberello (4752)
• Italy
5 Nov 12
Without a doubt, I like the older brother I give the example model as a person.
But because of my illness, in the course of 26 years of living with my younger brother, I was not able to do so.
Perhaps it is not too late yet. Share?
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
We couldn't get rid of some sibling rivalry sometimes. But that is just normal among siblings. It just that one has to give way so that whatever you are fighting about would not get out of proportion. I could also feel a sense of insecurity sometimes- like my mom might be favoring either my sister or brother. But i try not to hold any grudge against them. I don't want is to grow old fighting over small stuff. Since I am the eldest, I give way.
As with your brother, better not mind him. He must be immature. Just let him be and do your own thing as well.
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@alberello (4752)
• Italy
5 Nov 12
Well, he's still immature, despite his height of 26 years, it seems to me a fact!
But he must not be allowed in any way to be missing me respect. Can not take advantage of my weakness as I am not able to make myself respected. This is the point that I want to focus!
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
5 Nov 12
You have told you are physical inability and you are not employed. what about your brother? how much has he studied? Is he employed? perhaps he is also not able to spend time otherwise usefully,. it is better to like him rather than disliking him.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
6 Nov 12
Well, he is suffering from mental disorders, especially depression. He studied in high school, but never entered the world of work. Laziness to do, even in small matters is also in my opinion one of his pathology.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
6 Nov 12
SORRY I HAVE WRONG LANGUAGE! I Rewrite all in English!
beenice2
Well while I have some serious problems to have a brother who behaves like mine!
That thou hast also been able to read in my discussion
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
5 Nov 12
here both the brothers are living in the same place. Italy. they are in their native place. oNly two brothers. each should like the other.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
5 Nov 12
I catch the key information"me 37, him 26..."
So can I guess that may be your brother is not arrogant,may be he just don't know how to get along with you as you older more than 10 years with him,may be he is nervous but pretend be cooled,and may be that"cool" make you have the feeling that he is a arrogant man.
Above are all my conclusion,no offense,have a good day,my friend.
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@alberello (4752)
• Italy
5 Nov 12
Well, as I have shown in the previous comment, I admit that, even though both of a different nature, my brother and me we have some problems.
Focusing attention on him, I notice that in fact he is frustrated, he also outside the home, it is not able to make his case against the other.
For this reason, his unconventional behavior in the house towards me perhaps it is also an outlet for his trouble.
That said I do not like people in any way overbearing and arrogant!
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@shaggin (72288)
• United States
5 Nov 12
Well hopefully your brothers attitude will change for the better and he will stop being so arrogant towards yiu so you two can get along better. It sounds like you had a nice time while you were out even though your brother tagged along. I have had problems in the past with my sister so I understand.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
6 Nov 12
Well, since you're there already gone through, then you know what it means not to have, unfortunately, a good relationship with your brother / sister.
The times will pass, I hope he changes its registry, that way of doing and reasoning. However, I should also do something more in order to be respected.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
5 Nov 12
It good that you are willing to welcome him back if he changes is attitude , you are willing to put the past behind . I believe one day his attitude toward you will change and you will be in friendship again .
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
6 Nov 12
Well, I hope deeply that what you've written, it took place, possibly as soon as possible. Of years have already passed many. Now, really there is no more time to wait. This at least for me that I have 37 years!
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
5 Nov 12
Well, I do not reject all dialogue, even just to reach an agreement.
But his task is to listen to me and especially to accept at least one person to be well educated.
However, I still seem distant times when that speech can be achieved
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
5 Nov 12
that is good because he likes you a lot and he wants to be with you for sure all the time and keep noticing
@prashu228 (37521)
• India
5 Nov 12
If he is changing his attitude you should welcome him, after all he is you brother, cant ignore the fact. I don't understand why were you nervous?
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
5 Nov 12
Well, I talked about the fact that he does not respect me. This more than anything is the crucial point that creates conflict between him and me.
I, not knowing react try to escape, in short, to avoid him, but he follows me wherever I go. This is because with me, he is favored over its own advantage.
There is much to say, but perhaps you can understand why this attitude pisses me off?
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
5 Nov 12
I think you should allow him and not feel nervous. I don't get why you feel nervous. can you explain me why you feel nervous when your brother is around you? being arrogant and overbearing should not make you nervous until an unless he is going to harm you some how. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead 
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
6 Nov 12
Well, excuse me for saying so, but my brother is only trying to hurt me! Would not know what awaits him!
But his way of making arrogant and overbearing that bothers me, not because of his presence. If he behaves properly, there would be no problem.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
5 Nov 12
I see it as he cares alot for you. My brother looks after me alot here. Sometimes I feel alittle to much. But I know its because he loves and cares for me. Im sure its the same with your brother there. Have a super week there. I plan on having one here.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
6 Nov 12
Well, you must still consider the fact that between me and my brother there are 11 years apart. And there are many!
Until my brother was a small child, things seemed to be going well. Then growing began to fail "sinning" a little presumptuous.
I think that boy has not yet found the right way to go in his life.
@anggunmelati (551)
• Indonesia
5 Nov 12
If I spent my time in nice place, I always together with my family. I have one brother. He younger than me. Some time we never talk cause we have misunderstanding about something and we get fight. but that was not too long. We will back again. My friend, Do you know how what can make it happen? Cause we always remember what we have to do together when we were child.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
6 Nov 12
Well, you know. I have no hesitation at all in the past for what it was. This is because the past does not come back, so useless strategies of "revenge," they what they are?
I forgive such a condition, he has to change his attitude towards me!
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
I is really an inspiring fact to know that you are willing to disregard the things happened in the past between you and your brother. Nowadays, it is pretty hard to find someone who will judge a person on his/her past life.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
5 Nov 12
Well, me and my brother, I have always behaved gentle and polite. Unfortunately, there are almost never reciprocated!
Many tell me that it's time that I react to this situation. That said, if my brother in one way or another changed attitude towards me, has absolutely no importance how he has behaved in the past! I'm ready to forget everything and above all have a relationship to the same man to man (because me at 37 that he at 26, we were still both men!)
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