Hunches, hunches, hunches...
By sharksfin
@sharksfin (1091)
Philippines
November 5, 2012 3:41am CST
How many here will admit that more often, we ask questions but will not believe the answer given because we already have a preconceived answer to our own question? This usually happens between partners (boy and girl relationship). Girls tend to ask questions not to really get an answer from their partners but to insist that what they had in mind is not just a hunch but the truth.
Many girls are really suspicious esp those with long line of experiences with men who keep lying or giving excuses because they don't want further discussion so they rather just give an answer that seems acceptable. Only, girls don't easily bite at that anymore these days. They're more in touch with their intuition and would choose to believe that their intuition is more honest to them than their dudes.
This isn't a good sign, though, because it's just a proof that there's lack of trust. On the other hand, it's hard to just blame the girls for doubting and investigating more because men are really prone to finding the easiest way out. In stead of just saying they went to play video games with friends, they'd say they stayed late in the office...stuffs. I wish men will just be real transparent, though. And women, on the other hand, should learn to accept the truth without getting furious so men won't be hesitant in telling the truth next time. Guess, relationship is simply that hard. What d'ya think?
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
5 Nov 12
I think it works the other way round. Women are telling something or asking something which is not really a question at all. At least they do not need to hear an answer. They just want someone to confirm it's ok. If not plenty of them do it anyway. Men always seem to think if a woman is telling something they want an answer or advice which is in many cases not the case at all. Men will seldom ask a question since they think they are superior, know more, know it better even if they don't. They just want a listening ear for their (so called) worries, fears or the way others neglect them or treat them. It has nothing to do with not trusting te other one. This besides of the fact that even if you ask a question it does not mean you have to listen to the answer and follow this "advice". In the end everybody is responsible for his/her own deeds/choices. There are also people who just like to hear different point of views starting with their partner first. BTW there are also partners man - man or woman - woman, not only man - woman. Every relationship is hard no matter if it's between partners, parents and children, siblings, co-workers, neighbours, etc.
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@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
Communication is indeed very important. But in some instances some women can be too trusting and it makes the guy want to repeat their mistakes thinking they can get away with it. Also, if a woman is not communicative of what she really wants in a relationship then the guy might just do what he wants to do as if he is a single man.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
5 Nov 12
I fortunately haven't had an experience like this - I trust my boyfriend 100% and our relationship is just as perfect as it could be. I agree that if there's a suspicious, menacing hunch, it's there for a reason. Either because the girl can't trust the guy enough (and hence isn't ready for a relationship), or because the guy is indeed deceiving the girl. In the first instance, they could have a talk and the girl could go to a psychologist, but if it doesn't work, they should break up, because4 trust is the basis of the relationship. And in the latter case, the girl should leave the guy, because if he's having bad secrets or he lied to her, she just might not be that important for him at all.
