Wise up when you're in a relationship.

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There's always this problem when you're in a relationship. You gotta always consider the other person when making decisions. You can't think for yourself anymore. So, every time you have to decide even small things, you have to think of what would your partner say -- if they're gonna agree or disagree -- before you can finally end up to a decision. And, most often, this causes lotsa pain because it requires sacrifice on your end. You make choices not solely based on what you really want, rather, what the other person wants. You want to stay out late after work, but you gotta consider your partner...etc etc etc. Many decisions -- small and big -- are affected by whether it's gonna be ok or not to your partner. If you know your partner enough, it's that easy to decide. What hurts the most, though, is when you keep considering them but they don't even consider you. You sacrifice a lot. You give a lot and they're not even willing to do the same. You expect and ask them to visit you and you agreed to meet up or whatever. Their friends will invite them to have a drink or whatever and they easily can just go and forget about your agreement. You wait forever until they remember that they are to meet you and it's too late. Then, they come to you expecting there shouldn't be anything wrong with that because they didn't even do anything wrong. That is nothing wrong to them. As long as they don't cheat or do the big sins, they're still fine. But, "not considering feelings" isn't wrong enough. *sigh* There's really no solution to this but communication. However, this doesn't work much if the guy isn't really so much into you than he is into the many other things he enjoys doing. It's important to weigh things. If you wanna do something for them, if you are to sacrifice for them, you gotta tell yourself that those are precious things you are giving away that have a bigger possibility can never be returned. Just give without expectation. Sacrifice without waiting for anything in return. Another thing is, if you sense that they're really not so much into you, then, might as well don't waste so much time, energy, effort, resources on them so you won't end up feeling sorry for yourself that you have all and are receiving nothing or little. There are so many guys out there who might be so interested in you and willing to give more than you can only they're left sitting in one corner because you're busy attending to a guy who doesn't even give so much a damn on whatever your needs are. I know that girls are really emotional and all compared to guys and that is why, girls are to wise up when in a relationship to avoid getting so damaged later on. Your suggestions?