Instead of giving me flowers.. you give me thorns! How do you think would I feel
By leeandrew
@leeandrew (1225)
Philippines
7 responses
@agbayani (17)
•
8 Nov 12
When i open my email and then i saw mylot and my friend started a new discussion...and when i read your new discussion i thought it is you who have this feeling to your hubby--thinking your hubby giving something and your expecting a flowers...but then keeping on reading your discussion......makes me realize ooh its her friend, and not my friend.
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@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
Hahaha. It's not me friend, it's someone else that you knew as well. I think she's having hard time with her hubbiness. You know some marital issues, when this issue strikes, it's really hard not to cry. I know we are not facing such issue as this co's we are newly married but I'm hoping though that God would spare us with such hurt and would tie us intact with our beloved. :))
@anggunmelati (551)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 12
Just to answer your curious, you can ask your friend directly. May be he has some thing problem that he want to share but he don't want to first. Some times some body try to some thing that can be heart his feeling. And you as his best friend have to help him. Try to reduce his problem. Just help as you can
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
I would love to do that, but I just won't. I just leave my curiosity to myself and here. I'm afraid it's too personal I mean marital stuff, so I don't want to go telling her what's up about your profile status. Some closer friends have commented on that status but she never said a word so that's just mean that she want's to keep it to herself.
Thanks for the suggestion anyway. Happy mylotting to you!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
Your friend might be having issues with his/her partner that's why she had to post that way on Facebook. Why not try reaching out to your friend. She just might need you to comfort her.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
That's what I'm thinking too. It would be the most awkward thing in the world ringing her phone just to say hi. We don't talk that much anymore, co's we seldom see each other. How I really wish I live closer so that its easier to open up. I just hope and pray that everything is alright and she is just expressing her feelings and she is now okay for whatever it is that's troubling her.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
I suppose it is not literal. I think that someone she loves and trusts has had her heart broken. When did she posted that? Our anniversary is on November 1st and instead of giving me flowers he gave me candles. He thought it was funny but seriously I do not know how will I feel that time.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
I assume too that it's not literally that someone gave her thorns instead of flowers. I guess too, if not her husband probably her kids. But this friend of mine is a very sweet and loving person and it would really surprise me if things with her and her beloved is not doing good.
It's definitely hard to get thorns when you are expecting to get a bouquet of flowers.
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
7 Nov 12
May be his/her friend has given something to hurt the other. Sometimes a simple mistakes in a deep friendship could really create problem. It can even turn to break relation. Before doing that remember that we are humans and such mistakes can happen in every ones life and we people have to adjust with it.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
Probably, but with her personality a friend would really stick with her and would do nothing to make her feel sad. We became close friend for sometime, but we are not that close anymore co's we seldom see each other or talk, but I could say that she's a very nice person and a nice friend as well.
I'm just hoping that she's okay and her family is okay too. It's really hard when the one that giving you thorns are the one you love.
@yuekim123 (161)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Maybe someone hurt her feelings, to say the least, or someone promised something to her but it was never fulfilled.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
That's what I thinking too, and I have a feeling it's about her hubbiness. Who would give her flowers anyway but her hubby, right? I might say that to hubby too when things I expected from him don't happen. It's hard to be married sometimes when you don't feel you are important to your partner anymore. :((.
Hope she's okay.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
7 Nov 12
If something wrong has happened nobody will know. Since what is wrong in the eyes of 1 person can be right in the eyes of someone else. Going on (and lying) can be right to some, telling straight away it's over, no feelings left can be wrong (after years or...) but also be right in be right. In the end I think it's the most important what is right for you. You can not please everybody. I do not know if it's right to publish this on the internet. If it comes to that I do believe many people are wrong doing such things. But I do think it's a good thing to express ones feelings. It's way better as holding it in and getting sick while pretending everything his alright.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
Couldn't agree more. There are marital issues between a husband an a wife that is just to hard to understand sometimes by people around them. The painful issue with a married couple is "cheating", that is very hard to accept with. When trust is broken its hard to put it back together. I can may be glued again through sincere effort but the scar would be forever there.
It same with me too. I rather tell my feelings to good trusted friends rather than keeping it myself and be horrible forever. Thanks for the comments!
