I want my parents to divorce

If I were in your situation I would still try my best for them to work out their relationship. Having a divorce is not so easy and if ever they don't love each other anymore, they can just separate their ways without having a divorce. I will try to talk to them about my feelings towards their relationship. Let them understand that they are not young anymore for them to think just for themselves. Why not trying to talk to the both of them, maybe you can somehow help them open their eyes and mind that you exist and what's happening to them hurts you. Best of luck to you and to your parents as well. They were lovers before and I think they will always be. They just have to figure out if they are still willing to pursue the relationship or not anymore.

For you to think that the best solution for your current situation is for them to get a divorce means that you are fed up and have lost hope. I could not blame you for feeling that way coz I know how hurtful it might be for you to see them always fighting with each other. The love and harmony within the family is gone and at this time, it seems impossible for them to make amends. When couples reach to a point where there is constant bickering, no more love, respect and understanding, I think they should really call it quits. They are causing trauma on their children most especially if their children are very young. Catholic Church does not allow divorce. I am a Catholic. But if things couldn't be patched up, why stay in a relationship when there is more hurt and pain than love?

Hi! You should act as a bridge between bridging gap between your mother and father and make them realize that they have a responsibility towards you, as they are your parents and have given birth to you. By the way each and every couple fights due to so many reasons and there is nothing abnormal in your parent's case. All the best.

Ouch! That's a bad idea, my friend. But looking back with the behavior of your father, is not really good. Because he is irresponsible father and husband with your mother. If there are marriage counselor in your area. You must try to bring your father and mother into psychologist or those marriage counselor to find out what is the problem and advice your parents to be responsible enough.

How unhappy you must be. I understand. But your father is addicted to Mahjong and will not stop until he gets help. He has been playing for so long it would be very difficult for him to stop without some kind of help. There must be much tension between your parents and in your house. Could you and your brother move out? The only other thing I can suggest is that you seek counseling for yourself. This is the only thing that you can do if they will not separate. Going to a counselor will help you greatly. Trust me. I know it. I feel your mother is afraid of life without your father, even though things are so bad. At least she knows what to expect. If she were to separate from him that is the unknown for her. People fear the unknown and will stay with what they know regardless of how bad it is. I believe it is fear that keeps her with him. You and your brother should go together and get counseling to help you cope with this. I can see it's causing great pain and turmoil in you. Living that way will make you sick. Physically and emotionally ill. If that happens how will you be able to take care of your mother if she needs you? Please, seek help for yourself. I don't think you can help your parents but you must help yourself.

Hi friend, sad to know about your father's activity, there is nothing wrong in your mother's blaming activity as she suffered a lot with her hubby, your wish is also a correct choice, better to get divorce then living with this kind of irresponsible husband and having quarrels every day.

I know my daughter always wanted me and her dad to split up, we never got along. When we did finally split up, she was upset but she understood it was for the best after a couple years. Maybe your parents still love each other or are staying together for reasons that aren't clear to you. Not a lot you can do, one day they will do what they think is best for them.

I am sorry to hear that. I know your situation is so difficult. The gambling is a really bad habit because not only the money is lost, but also the family and friends. I can understand why your mom doesn't want to be nice to your father because he has such a bad habit. I hope he will quit it soon. Hopefully you and other family can help him. Otherwise it is bad for the whole family.

hi Why not persuade your parents to get to family counseling and make a stab at making their marriage work. then if it does not help would be the time to think seriously about divorce.try to love them and to talk to them separately too as it might be a divorce might be the best way to go yet.

It must be really hard to see your parents in such turnmoil.. When two people join in marriage there is a bond that is created.. Vows that are made to each other.. In relationships there are good times and bad.. They might be in one of those bad slumps that seems to be dragging on.. I think consuling is a good idea; individual, marriage, and possibly as group.. It might help being in an eviroment where everyone can express their opinions and feelings.. Divorce is not always the answer; even if their relationship is over; their bond will be forever.. They had you and your brother.. There will be family events that you would like both of your parents to attend; and there are the hoildays.. The relationship doesnt end; just changes.. I have been through a divorce.. At least for me there was a lot of questions about how it became so bad.. There is always two sides to every story; and everyone plays a part within it.. I took my vows so seriously it took lots of convincing, and professional help for me to over come my issues of breaking my vow.. As an outsider looking it; it was simple I needed a divorce.. But being the insider looking out; it seemed impossible.. I felt like I was living a lie.. I promised myself, my ex, God and the rest of the world that I was going to be with him regardless of what we were facing.. I didnt just want to throw away the good times that we had.. We had a son together; and I was worried about how it would effect him.. There were a lot of different things that I was weighing in on.. I would tell them how you feel.. But in reality it is their descion and they have to figure out what they are going to do.. I would try to stay out of their fights; do not take either side.. If you have an opinion keep it to yourself or talk to someone else about it.. Regardless of what it may be about if you agree with one and not the other it will cause resentment.. I know that you are only trying to help; but it can make it worst.. I understand that you are an adult... Still you need to remember in your parents eyes you will always be their child; it doesnt matter how old you get...

Me too! I want my parents to divorce! But sad to say, our country does not allow divorce! Grrrrrrr! I see my mom SUFFER too much and I can't take it anymore! I am suffering too much. We are suffering too much. My mom is so MARTYR and very religious! Oh my gosh! I don't understand why they don't allow divorce here in our country. Oh my! I understand why. Majority are 80% are Catholic. No wonder why women suffered too much

Yeah I'm sure that you aren't the only one who feels that way. Sorry to hear their relationship isn't working out well. It is sad to see these things happen. But couples do often drift apart and end up just being like roommates. I hope that things will improve for our parents and that they can fix their marriage.

I too want my parents to divorce when they get into a very bad argument like what they had years ago that got me and my brother into the middle of it. I never outright said it to them, but you know, the children suffers the most when their parents fight. My mom expressed that she wants to separate with my father because of things I can't disclose. Still it's a fleeting thought, wanting my parents divorced. But, you know, it's better to be in a broken family that is happy than in a family that is complete and sporting a happy facade but is broken on the inside.

When parents are not acting like a couple anymore, the children are also suffering. People always say that parents should stay for the sake of their children. But being a product of a broken family, I probably would have done the same as what you're trying to do now when I was a grown up the time my parents separated. If parents are not happy, then children are too. Children should not only think of themselves but also of their parents sake especially us who are already grown up. I'd rather see my parents separated and happy than see them together yet unhappy. Since your father is the problem, I suggest that you convince your mother and help her decide on what's best for all of you. Your mother probably may also be thinking of separation yet is worried about the effects it will have on her children. Having her children on her side supporting her in whatever decision she may have, is a good motivation to do the best for the family. I'm not saying that we should take the side of only one parents, after all our father will always be our father and family will always be together, although not in one household. Stay in touch with your father and tell him that you will still be there for him. Good luck!

Coming from a divorced home,it's not easy.My parents divorced when I was 8.It is very hard on the kids.I have been married for 35 years and it is not always easy.But that's life.I didn't want my kids to go through what I went through.They are now grown and my husband and I get along pretty good.We both have our ways as anyone does.My youngest daughter I think wants up to split up.Not sure why.She had a good childhood,but she doesn't like us.She hasn't spoke to us since last christmas.Well me anyway.My husband has tried to talk to her a few times.She is mad at me for something,don't know what..I don't think she like either one of us,really.But it's hard for me to believe that my own child would want us split up.And as marriage what you think is normal is not normal to others.Maybe they have their own way of communicating.Divorce is hard.If anything try to talk to them and see if something else is going on between them.Maybe they have something to say but are afraid to say..Good luck

That's so sad to hear. Usually no children ever want to happen this, but if your are preferring then the problem seems more worst. But still you can work on it and let them solve the problem and you even can take part or help them to overcome this hard times. They will definitely have some good moments in their life when you were not born , may be that's why they are still together in spite of all the fights ,they are some where attached. Why don't you dig out that. You can change their mind.

I understand this, but its their decision not yours. I know its hard to see them this way. But it will get better Im sure.

Why not suggest to them to go to a legal counsel so that they will be given a good counseling by the professionals for them to know what to do with their married life. I think that idea is ridiculous because as a child do you want to see your parents are parting or been separated? is divorce really the last resort to fix your family relationship? For you still have a choice on how to turn out right your family matters. Try to consult your problem to a guidance counselor and to make a broader view. And divorce is expensive, hope you know it by now.

I don't know what have to say my friend. That's very complicated for me. And I think that's situation can make a son became upset and try to find another life outside her home. In my country, no one may play mahjong or something game like that. It is forbidden in my country. So, The father can keep their money to their family.

Maybe they don't have so much thing to talk about. Playing Mahjong is just a hobby of your father. You can tell him that he can play Mahjong without money, just for pleasure. Anyway, your idea is not that proper. Have a nice day!