How do you calm yourself?

I calm myself, by dropping everything and taking a long walk. It really helps me calm down here. Problems is, i do it once per day. Take care there.

Hi there! For me, I do take deep breaths to calm me down. It actually works. Plus you get this calming feeling instantly. This always works for me. And of course it would help a lot to go somewhere quiet to calm down your nerves :)

I use to argue with people a lot when I see thing are not going the right way. But now, I keep my cool since I know that getting mad and reacting right away will only make matters worst. I just usually take a deep a breath and remind myself to relax. Nothing can be resolve by fighting fire with fire. But when there is a need where I really need to argue, then I will let that person talk until he or she is done and after which that is the time when I talk and explain.

I guess we could never escape these kind of people. I've dealt with a few in my life, and I've always ended up just stressing myself. It's hard for me to cool down, and be calm after I've been riled up. I always have the feeling of saying the last word, or making everybody see it my way. But this usually help the situation. I find that stepping back, and just rationalizing it, and even seeing it from the other person's point of view (even though they are egotistic, conceited, arrogant) is sometimes the only way to calm down. HNY arystine!

As much as possible I try to calm down however there are instances in life where your patience are tested. I have experienced this several times and when I really felt it too heavy I leave the house and spend time somewhere to cool off. In times when it is too much to bear I go to church, pray and unburden all my emotions by talking to the Lord. For lesser intensity cases I just lock myself in a room, listen to music and read an entertaining book.

I am a quiet person by nature. If I do get mad or upset with something or someone, I would just like keeping it to myself until the bad feeling goes away. But if same things keep on happening, then the only way to do it is to just let it out. I, too have problems with my brother in law. He tends to be a blabber mouth, know-it-all person. Some days I would just let it pass but there was one incident wherein I really could not just let myself to shrug it off. I was just asking him if he could pipe down coz I was online with my boss via Skype and was in the middle of an online collaboration with another co-worker. Instead of him to make his voice a bit lower, he snapped back at me! It made me real mad and so instead of the usual shrugging off about such incident, I raised my voice and told him he should at least just do what I was asking him. It is not a big thing for him not to do it, besides, it is our house. When I came inside the house, I just had a glass of water to regain my composure. Good thing I had my Skype in mute when I excused myself from the meeting or they would have heard our exchange of words!

My FIL is like this. Always very judgemental and condiscending and it is many times hard to be around him. He can complain about my diabetes while his blood sugars on average are higher than mine all the time and while he is eating a big piece of cake. So personally for me I have to stay away and pray one day he wakes up and changes before something happens. Also saying an extra prayer seems to help calm me down as well.

Music always seems to help. Reading a book, taking a long soak in the tub and walking helps a lot. sometimes I just drive without having anywhere to go since driving seems to calm me too, but if I'm too mad, I shouldn't drive! Then I might get angrienr at some people and go to jail for having a case of road rage.

It is a good question about how to calm yourself after feeling angry. I think that we need to think about it whether it is necessary to get angry and let it burst out. If we can calm down and think about the result of bursting out our anger, we will better control ourselves not to lose anger. Only when we are calm can we deal with things and people in a moderate and proper way. To be impulsive is devil to us. Calm down and take care, arystine.

hi, when i am angry i sometimes calm my self by breathing deeply outside of the house or even out of the office,sometimes if i can not go out i will just keep my eyes close for minutes,i avoid to be angry because it will ruin my whole day and will only stress me.

I know the type you mean. At least you're respectful not to go too far when he is your in-law. Its good to come here and have some solace but I do hope you don't need that solace too often. I just like to lisen to music or something when I get too upset.

Usually when Im in the same situation as yours, I go to my room and just be in silence. Afterwards, I talk to my friends that I can contact thru email (however, I don't talk about my situation) and make myself busy in internet until I'm tired. Then, after I regain my composure, I pray and lift everything to God. have a nice day!

I have a neighbor who is always so negative. He doesn't like living in our neighborhood but says he can't afford to move. I am going to have to tell him; "Talk to the hand" because I don't want to hear his complaining anymore. I think if I do say something to him, then it just might be feel better, rather than just listen to him rant. I calm myself by realizing that I enjoy where I live. The other neighbors are quiet and polite. I look for the positive and am learning not to be overwhelmed when someone rants and vents. It is their problem not mine. I can indeed have a HAPPY day!

I calm myself by praying.And surely, god will help you out.

By breathing, by changing thoughts and choosing to not think about what was upseting me before, by watching something funny, by remembering something funny. They say we are the only ones to control our thoughts and emotions, that is true but it so hard but if we try, in a matter of minutes we could be in a whole other level of conscience.

I just loaded myself with something to vent out the bad feelings. I will rather take it as a spice in my life. Cheer up!

I just breath deeply and close my eyes for a moment. Then I am calm again