I'm having a baby girl

@leateagee (3667)
China
November 9, 2012 3:33am CST
Just a few hours ago, my husband and I went to the hospital. We found out that my baby is a girl. I am very happy. It's our first. I am excited to buy baby stuffs now and I like pink so I think all her stuff will be pink too. Well, I'll put other colors too. But i am really excited. I can't wait to play with her. When we reached home, I asked my husband if he was happy sinec he was so quiet. I got a disappointing answer, "No." He loves our baby but all the while he was expecting a baby boy. I tried to comfort him and even planned to make another one ... soon as we can hehehe. I don't know. Now I have mixed emotions. Oh my. I think I don't feel well now.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
9 Nov 12
Hi lea! Congratulations (in advance). Hope your baby comes out healthy when she enters into this world. Your emotions as an expectant mother of a baby girl comprising of excitement, apprehensions and eagerness are understandable. Please tell your hubby that you are also a girl, so he should feel happy about a baby girl. Had you not been there in this world, he would not have got married. All the best. Do take care of yourself.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 12
Hope he understands your sentiment as an expectant mother.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
20 Nov 12
He does now. He sees me a little different each day. Well it's hevay to carry our baby while i still make myself very able to do many things at work and at home.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
9 Nov 12
Thank you so much. I would certainly tell that to him. I just became quiet and emotional when he said it to me. By the way, he has apologized already.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Congrats on your baby Don't worry about your husband, I am sure his feeling will change the moment he saw the little angel smiling at him. I guess most husband wants to have a son as the first born- but the feeling will not be the same once he get the chance to hold on your baby. Just ignore him and don't get too emotional- that's bad for the baby
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
9 Nov 12
Thank you so much for the comfort. He apologized already. Well, he said it was his fault, he should have made sure it's a boy.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Congratulations! There is nothing happier than having your first born! But, I don't think that your husband's reaction was of any help. I am sorry for telling that but I think that he should be thankful whatever gender his child will be. It is a life that both of you created and he should be rejoicing with you.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
9 Nov 12
Thank you. I am excited every day to measure my tummy, feel my baby, talk to my baby and next week will be window shopping or shopping for bbay stuffs. Well, he has apologize already. I am happy, but of course partly hurt in the beginning. We are suppose to be appreciative of what God has blessed us with. I am so greatful that we were blessed early.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Nov 12
Don't worry about it all guys are pretty much that way. My husband was sad too when our first baby was a girl. He was very excited as the weeks went by and it go closer and closer to seeing her. My husband was very surprised when our daughter was 14 months old to find out our second baby was going to be a boy. He thought he was going to be a girl as well. We where excited to have one of each. Now I have to wait till my two little ones are a bit older to try for another baby. The first two wasn't planned but they are very much loved and wanted. I had fun buying for the both of them and still do.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Nov 12
That is so cute. Yes, we will definitely try another one. Thank you. We are both enjoying my big belly and the little kicks I feel. He talks to our baby when he got up, before going to work and at night before going to bed he sings and talk to her again. He is sweet. And really makes time even though our baby isn't born yet.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
17 Jan 13
Oh really. I always talk to my baby. The due date is very soon and I always tell her to help me. I also enjoy the kicks at night before I go to bed.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Nov 12
Oh yes I remember feeling both my little ones move on the inside. I miss it all of the time. Talking to her before she is born is a good thing. Babies tend to remember the sound of your voice when you talk to them before hand.
• United States
10 Nov 12
Congratulations! All babies are beautiful and she will be Daddy's little girl the moment he sets his eyes on her. Most men want a son but since it is your first you can always try again for another. By the way, the s e x of the child is determined by the male or Father not by you the Mother. Something about the genes and chromosomes but it was proven a medical fact that the male actually determines the s e x of the baby to be born. How far are you along in your pregnancy?
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
17 Jan 13
I am very very excited as teh due date is coming near. Thanks for the informative reply.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
20 Nov 12
Really? I would more about that. I am 26 weeks now. It seems still long yet so near. We are both excited though not prepared yet.
• United States
20 Nov 12
It is something to be very excited about. As to the determination of the child's s e x this is the easiest way to explain how it works. Males determine the s e x because they donate both the X and the Y chromosomes. Females on the other hand usually only donate the X chromosome. Their offspring is variable in gender of male and female because the male carries both chromosomes.
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
9 Nov 12
Congratulations on the baby. I'm sure you're very excited. I understand if you husband wanted a boy but he should just be happy to have a healthy baby. I'm sure once he sees her he'll fall in love. Besides like you said you can always try again lol. Don't let him bum you out on this joyful occasion.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
20 Nov 12
Thank you. Well, I got emotional but nowadays he has been showing his sweetness to us. I think it's anormal reaction for both of us.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
2 Feb 13
Well, a lot of times when a man has their first child, they are really wanting a boy. Many times, to carry on the family name. I know my real dad was upset since I was the first and was a girl. All I can say is find ways for your husband to be Happy and experience the girl, and know in time if it is meant to be, a boy will come along.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
15 Nov 12
congratulations Friend at how nice to have your child, whether boy or girl, then it is important to feel loved and happy. because there is no more precious thing on earth than to have your child and you love to take care of him. your husband just wanted a boy next time is never too late. easy pregnancy and I wish you much health to you baby and your family.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
3 Feb 13
Thank you so much for the encouraging and comforting words. He has already accepted whole heartedly of having a baby girl. He has been so helpful with all my needs. I am due in no time now. I am happy, excited and nervous. hehehe
@riyauro (6421)
• India
9 Nov 12
Wow congrats. It is good to know in advance what you are expecting and you can welcome the new family member with all that she requires. When we don't know it we get confused to what to buy and the colors to choose as well. I am so excited for you. I want a baby too but lets see what happens.. hahaha. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Nov 12
I was planning it to be a surprise but all the family members and friends are asking me about the gender because as early as now they want to start shopping for Christmas. I am thankful and greatful to have them so my husband and I agreed. Thank you so much.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
9 Nov 12
Yay baby girl! Congratulations on your baby and may you have a healthy pregnancy! I also can't wait to be a mom! Don't worry about your husband that much, once you guys finally held your healthy baby, it wouldn't matter if she's a girl or boy. What matters is she's healthy and a precious gift from God. You are so blessed, enjoy your new stage as a mom!
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Nov 12
True. I am doing my best to keep healthy. I am worried that if I mess up I cannot help much to my baby since she's inside. I can't wait to hold my baby. I wish you have soon too!
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Hi there. Don't worry. I think your husband will change his emotions when he sees her daughter very pretty like her mom. In fact, he might spoil your daughter soon. Don't be upset, it could affect the baby, she might also feel that her dad is disappointed because she was not a boy. Just be happy, we can't change it anymore. Anyway, like what you have said, you can always work out on a boy but soon. CONGRATULATIONS on your upcoming baby. May you please share some picture of her once she is born.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Nov 12
Thank you! Well my husband has apologized already and he's making it up to me and to our daughter. True, my feelings will affect my baby. YES, I will definitiely share. Thanks again.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Happy for you! congratulations! I hope and pray that it's me telling here that I'm having a baby too. Hubby and I been trying for almost four years now. But I know that the Lord is good and he has plans for us, plans to prosper us not only with material things but also in numbers. I'm still hoping that God will give us a second baby. :))
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Nov 12
Thank you! Well, God has His own time and His time is perfect. just be patient and continue in showering your love to your first born. Do what you can do and Father will work through you. Trust Him in you.
@xhanne009 (108)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Hooray! I have mixed emotions too when I first got pregnant. I really don't know what to feel. I'm happy, excited, nervous and a little scared that time. But as the days go by that I feel my baby is growing on my womb I feel nothing but happiness. Having a baby is one the reasons why we woman's exist. Being a mom is the happiest moment that happens to my life. Now I'm really happy leaving with my husband and our son. About your husband that got disappointed of you having a baby girl don't worry, that happens to every father. Sometimes they feel scared too. That's another responsibility to them and also to you. But be happy whatever you feel, affects your baby.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Nov 12
Oh thank you. I know I am not alone in this but I am an only child and the closests people I have are my colleagues. My other relatives are in our hometown. My husband is my strength and now our baby. He apologized already and you are right he is as nervous as I am.
@kat_2x (105)
20 Nov 12
Congratulations! Dont worry about the reaction of our husband dont think to much... remember your pregnant and stress is bad for you..color pink for baby girl is so pretty!! i like it!
@leateagee (3667)
• China
3 Feb 13
Thank you. Yeah, my husband is oay with it. Well, almost all the baby things we have now are pink but we also have other colors.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
10 Nov 12
Congratulations on the news that in your scan at the hospital you found out you are expecting a baby girl. It is so very much fun to buy pink pretty girls clothing and the toy purchasing is delightful too. I am glad that you are happy and excited about having your dear little baby daughter. It is possible that your second baby will be a baby boy. Then you will have a girl and a boy which will be perfect. I know some people have two daughters and that is really lovely as well. In early pregnancy many people don't like to call the baby it. Until a scan happens that tells the gender it can't be known if the baby is a she or a he. I like to think of my baby as being one or the other and have the gender confirmed by scan. It is a shame your husband has gender disappointment. I believe he imagined it is a boy and a gender scan can be shocking if the parent guessed and was wrong. One of my friends had a baby girl and then a baby boy exactly one year later. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy. I hope your husband soon gets to like that you are expecting a dear little baby daughter.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
17 Jan 13
He is over it aready. He is already busy preparing for the baby's coming. Actually a friend visited a few weeks ago and said that she had an experience that the scan result was a mistake ... well, it gave a smile to my husband but he said whatever the gender is, he loves his child. I am going the rest of the pregnancy. The due date is near and every one is excited.
@shaggin (72131)
• United States
10 Nov 12
Aww well congrats on the baby girl. I was so excited when my first baby was a girl. I think that its normal for your husband to be a little dissapointed but I think once the baby is born he will adore her. Little girl toys and clothes are so much funner then boy things. My second child was a boy and my husband bonded with him better but he was also 4 years older by that point.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
17 Jan 13
You are right. Now that I am nearing to the due date my husband is becoming more caring. He is also very excited and nervous. Almost every day he asks me if I feel like giving birth. hehehe. It's fun feeling my baby kick before I go to bed and from time to time in the middle of the day.
@adnileb (5276)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Congratulations my friend! Your husband was so funny acting that way. It's like a child being given a candy when he wants a chocolate. Anyways, both of you can make another soon. Just wish it's a boy.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
20 Nov 12
He is indeed funny. Now, he is also excited. Maybe that reaction was due to the fact that he has been trying to guess and wished for a boy. But he is very supportive and loving.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
Don't feel bad, and keep the positive hype about your baby girl. Soon, he'll come to his senses and will share the same joy with you. It's common for would-be fathers to desire for a baby boy. My husband also got a bit disappointed on our second baby, when we were expecting so much to have a boy due to the little signs we see on the early stages of my pregnancy. But, to our surprise, we were having another baby girl. It only took him a couple days, though, to recover, and now, he loves our baby girl so much.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
17 Jan 13
Thank you. Yes, you are right. It took him a few days. But now that the due date is near he more excited and nervous than me.
@jonnagirl (322)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
oh great! congratulations for having a blessing like that. not everyone can bear a child so you are truly blessed by having that. you know everyone are wishing for a child but not all were granted. its a great news...congrats again..
@leateagee (3667)
• China
17 Jan 13
Thank you. You are definitely right. I prayed and prayed thanking the creator for He has blest me with a child. It a big responsibility and we will do our best to be good parents.
@blogandme (379)
• Indonesia
14 Nov 12
hi.. Now we and your baby can called you with 'mom' hehe.. lot of CONGRATULATION! for your baby and your happines. Oh ya, about your husband, he just dissappoint with him wish, i guest, before your daugther born, he hope you will born a son who can be a guard of his mom (you), but God choose a daugther for you and your husband. As soon as possible, your husband will love him daugther as a parrent. Once again.. CONGRATULATION... ^_^
@leateagee (3667)
• China
17 Jan 13
Thank you. You are right. He wanted a boy to be able to be as strong as him -- a strong provider. But our baby girl will be as pretty as me and will serve her family. I like that, I am a "mommy" now.