Looking for love

I know so many who throw themselves at men, and in the end they get railroaded and keep in this cycle. I have never been one like this, I sit back and wait. I like being by myself, and independent. Now if someone came alone,and really caught me off guard I would jump at it, but wouldnt throw my entire life down the toilet. I have one friend who would move across the country for a man, she dated a guy for 2 weeks and now pregenent and hes long gone. I think people like this have a lot of issues in life they need to fix, and they try to fix it by bringing someone else in.

I have been happily divorced for almost 20 years. I am independent and self-supporting. I would absolutely love it if 'love' found me, but I can assure you that I wouldn't seek a companion. The idea of having someone to grow old with, is long since gone, but it would be nice to have someone to share an occasional cup of coffee.

I never looked for love. I never thought it was for me. Then my ex came along. I thought I was in love but it wasn't love for him. He disappeared. I had a dear friemd show me my worth and just when I said and Meant I want to find love, the man of my dreams found me. I thought he would be leaving me but he didn't! Now I am truly happy.

I am happily single! I have never been married and never want to be! I grew up thinking and being told that was the way it was! After years of thinking that and looking for love,I said no more! I have been hurt to many times and must of the time I end up with losers! I think I thought these guys were not that bad when I should of turned around and walked the other way! I have discovered men are not meant to be in my life! They are way to much work! They can't or won't try to understand me! I can't deal with select hearing! I have been taken advantage of! I don't really know how to work on a relationship and I turn into my mother which is not good! I have looked for love and not for love. I have been in love but I know I never will be again! Even if a guy would come in my life I am going to say no. It would turn my life upside down! I don't want that and I am sure he wouldn't want his life to revolved around me,which would be what I want! So it isn't going to happen!

I am not looking for love, but if the right one comes along- that would be a bonus for me. I have been through the most painful experience when it comes to love and I don't think I can cope up with another pain. So, love or looking for someone is not my priority at this time. I am not closing any possibilities- let it come and time will tell Congrats on your happy married life

I prefer to let love find me. So where is he? I really have never looked for love. Or I sure looked for it in all the wrong places.

I want love find me but many of my friends are telling me to stop the old ways of finding love and I need to work for it. I am happy that you found the person that will complete you. I hope that relationship last and you will get strong despite the odds that life brings. As I said, I hope love will find me or just give me a sign if I need to work on something to find my future other half. I love being single but I get worry when I grow old and still single. I do not want to live alone, forever alone. I want someone to take care of me and of course I want an offspring.

I am very happy for you. If it happens to me so be it....but I am not really looking. I have lived by myself so long I am not sure I would be able to change things where I could actually give of myself to someone. I have habits and do things I don't want to give up. Maybe if the right person did come along that would change. I don't know for sure.....but I am very happy for you!

I'm very glad you've found the right person! I'm not looking and if love knocked on my door I probably would not answer. I had a fairly long, unhappy marriage preceded by a string of bad relationships--my fault because I always pick the wrong type of guy. I don't know why and until I do and can correct that defect I'm not interested in a relationship. In fact, life is so great without a love relationship that I can't believe it's something I ever wanted so badly! I have my children, my dogs, my interests and my siblings and extended family. I'm very happy. I'm glad you are, too! Everyone has different needs or it would be a boring world.

That's great to know about the success of your relationship, my friend. I wish you all the best and hope that marriage will be stay forever.

I'm no longer looking for love because I have found it in the form of my husband. But before then, I used to actively look for love that I end up meeting the wrong ones. Good thing I was so cautious to not let any of it progress any further whenever I see the red flags. After a while, I just got tired and decided to concentrate on my career and accepted a work abroad. Little did I realize that that's where I will meet my husband. After 6 long years of being single, he's right there and the right one for me as well. So in my opinion, love is like the wind, you can't catch it, you can't see it, but when it's there you will feel it without any hint of warning. Just be ready to enjoy its presence, take care of it and who knows, it might not leave you at all. (Well, of course, the presence of the wind literally might not be good all the time, lol!)

Yes true, We need to have a man to complete our life, Happy and contented. I have been through the same path, i was the one looking atfirst and then end up broken hearted, then i learned to love my self more. I was single for awhile, but I was also open to new friends and know them until I met my man,I am not married yet but we are happy.He finds me special for being independent and someone he can count on.

i been looking for love before but like you i always got hurt then i let love finds me im not looking for love then theres a man who come and offering his love now im happy the relation i have with him now is very strong im not married yet but oneday and im praying that it will lead to happy ending

I'm a person that accept someone love, and then develop my feelings to accept it and love them back. In that way, I will not an unrequited love. But now I think that that just a naive thinking of mind.

Well I am done waiting. I let it find me but nothing came. It's time now to take action and take it to my hands and find that elusive love.

I've never looked for love to complete me. I'm an entity in myself. Occasionally, I'll share (parts of) my life with someone, but I'm content with my rich interior life.

after today with what has happened here with my daughter, I am done with all of it.. Just tired.. very tired. You give, you love, you hurt... that is all it has been for me. I have tried to not love and it comes knocking.. I am tired.. I feel all I am is a burden .. so so so tired.. Advice is, take care of you, because no one truly will love you the way you need to be loved.

I had a brief moment in my live when I was looking.. It didnt turn out.. I think it is better when I am just doing what I need to do.. And one day hopefully someone will just enter my life.. But not anytime soon; I am not emotionally ready.. I have my own things that I need to focus on.. I do not need to add to my load.. Congratulations to you; I am so happy that you found the right man for you

I let the love finds me. I don't look for love anymore. If I feel it was the right person, then I go along with the flow. Good day!

Hi Jodee 1st of all, congrats for being happily married .As they always say,it's a TIME FACTOR which decides all course of our life.Though its always advisable to get married still fate equally plays a great role in our life.sometime when we search for something desperately in life, we don't get that easily or some people end up with bitter experience also.But good that, you followed your instinct and it's like ONCE BITTEN TWICE NOT SHY KIND OF. But when we stop searching that ,that ultimately falls in our kitty.I guess same happened with you too.ALL THE LUCK.. CHEERS...)