Fake compliments?
By subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
India
November 10, 2012 8:18am CST
Hey guys, how do u consider fake compliments? Do u say fake compliments to others? I know not every one speak truth and fake it just to make us happy. I can figure it our when people give me fake compliments and i accept it sportingly and with a smile.
What are your thoughts regarding this? Have u ever given any fake compliments? Do u have any funny incidents regarding this? Please do share with all of us!
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16 responses
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Nah! I am a very honest person in terms of saying compliments and comments. Even If i tend to hurt some feelings, I am pretty confident that saying the truth is better than lies.
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@hexeduser22 (7419)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
It takes some guts to say the things you want to say. I commend you on that one but of course sometimes we need to be sensitive with the people around us.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
@kenshin2143-
Thanks a ton for your response. Well it is great to hear that u are very much honest when it comes to complementing and commenting others. I know when we speak truth we might hurt the feelings of others but then it is always better to speak out the truth then to say lies and impress the other person. I am pretty sure u will gain a lot when u are truthful and straightforward in your views and opinions.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
Fake compliments? Wow, that's something insincere. I guess we only say compliments if we mean them. If we don't mean them that's telling white lies. Not to hurt other people's feelings. I don't care much about the compliments. Here in myLot, I guess all compliments are true. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
Yes, it's better to hurt others in telling the truth than to hurt them when they found out we lied to them. Honesty matters to most people. I better receive a straightforward compliment than lies. Thanks for the comment. Happy mylotting.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
22 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response again. Yes i completely support u on this. Many people in a bid to keep things normal tell lies and they never realize the fact that when the truth will be finally out how much it is gonna hurt the other person. Yes no doubt it is impossible to be honest and truthful all the time but then we can try out level best to be honest wherever we are required to. This will not create any doubts or any pressure in our mind. Happy Mylotting!
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well yes u are very much correct, we should compliment others only if it deserves such thing from us otherwise it would fall into the category of lies and fake compliments. Of course if we speak truth then it might hurt others but then we wont have the guilt inside us that we had spoken lies just to appease others and gain their sympathy and attention.
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@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
Fake compliments are bad anyway and I never intended to do that to others for I do not want also that they will do fake compliments with me either. I'll just ignore those fake compliments besides it is just an irritation with me instead of being overwhelmed.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well glad to know that u have always paid deaf ears to the compliments. If we are not able to tolerate the fake compliments given to us then we should also never give fake compliments to others. It is indeed irritating to hear people saying fake things as they might seem sweet for the time being but are of no use for us in the long run. Its better to be clear clean and blunt when we are conversing with others.
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@damanpreetsingh (192)
• India
12 Nov 12
hi ! normally do not go around complimenting people. but if really like some thing about my friends or family, I do not hesitate speaking about it. also I have no problem with people who fake compliment each other. that is because I know lots of people who do things to get compliments, so its fine to go ahead and keep them happy. but of course I hate people who compliment people in a sarcastic way
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well i find no logic in complimenting when our mind soul and conscience is not supporting us in doing so. I know it is very hard to stop people from saying fake compliments but then we should ignore such people as they will never mend their ways. We should be honest while conversing and should not give any second thoughts when we are presenting our views in front of someone that should be our real self.
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@Sindelle (824)
• United States
11 Nov 12
I do not hand out fake compliments. If I gave out fake compliments then nobody would take me seriously. Also if someone doesn't look all that great or didn't do the greatest job then the last thing I need to be doing in reinforcing that sort of behavior.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well yes u are absolutely right, it seems very odd when we are giving fake comments or compliments as our conscience never supports us in doing so. We feel uncomfortable for the time being that we had to take the help of lies and fake words to appease someone. I think we are doing a foolish job of faking in front of someone and rather we should be honest and straightforward and speak whatever we feel while conversing with others.
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@prasadditya1975 (21)
•
11 Nov 12
Yes.It happens in everyday in our life .Specially in work place or in social circle.
Foe example if somebody wore a new dress and asking us how was the look. Their we cant say its bad,though it looks very odd from outside.
Specially in social networking sites when somebody put his status like "since long days i am suffering from fever" i get to see 100 liking buttons on that.What else can get funnier than this? One more , somebody lost his wife by reading this line 1000 liking buttons are hit.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well yes u are absolutely right this does happen at our work place also. We are bound to say such compliments in order to appease others for the time being otherwise we would be a matter of bad taste for others. Yes even on social networking sites it is very humorous to see likes on some status that looks odd from outside. People have to become sensible in such matters and be honest as much as possible.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
i do not remember any funny incidents that was caused to me, hence i am not able to share anything personal experience. there are of course these things that do happen, i believe that it is but normal for people to give compliments and they can be fake in order to receive a compliment as well.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well yes u are absolutely right. There is absolutely no issues if your are not able to get reminded of any such funny incidents that has happened with u. i think it is indeed normal to see people faking compliments may be they must be having some intentions behind saying such sweet words. We should always appreciate the ones which are deserving and not on the ones that our soul does not intend to do.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
I don't like compliments because it's hard to tell whose telling the truth and who is insulting.
Not all compliments are to praise, but some compliments are mere flattery to insult.
I am not use to say praises to a everyone but I know how to acknowledge a good deeds and honor the honorable ones.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Yes u are very much correct, it is sometimes very hard to accept the compliments which are flattery in nature and it seems as if they are oiling us. I am that kind of person who loves honest criticism and compliments. We all have the right to speak our heart out and be honest straightforward and truthful while conversing with others no matter even if it might be hard for others to accept.
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@hexeduser22 (7419)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
I speak my mind. I may not be that straight forward but I do say things in the most appropriate time. I don't say anything if I know I wont say anything good at all.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well glad to hear that u have been very much straightforward in your life as much as complimenting others is concerned. i know it takes a lot of guts to be truthful and straightforward in life but then with such a behavior we are able to keep intact our integrity and self respect. Just be speaking fake things we might bring a smile on someone's face temporary period but it will never help in the long run. Its always better to be honest while conversing.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
11 Nov 12
There are some cases that I know a person is not sincere with the positives remarks or compliments that are given to me. But honestly I would rather tolerate this fake compliment since I am still hearing the positive remarks rather than always hearing the offensive remarks then you will be embarass afterwards. Worst case if that person is saying negative remarks in front of you with other people. There are some cases that I hate it when being complimented just because they need something, especially on sales.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well i can understand your response and even i agree to you on this that it is better to get accustomed to the fake compliments than to hear negative criticism from others that might hurt our feelings deeply. I know in some cases we have to get used to such situations and it is always better to either ignore such compliments or else smile the moment u hear such compliments.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Nov 12
yes , people give fake compliments , as long as they are not harmful and not for any purpose its okay, no need to care. But some do it , for some purpose .we should be aware of such things and people.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Yes u are absolutely right, we do give fake compliments at times depending on the circumstances and situations in our life. As long as the complements are not harmful and as long as our complements are appeasing we should not feel guilty of anything. Besides that we should always be aware of such people who are always giving us fake compliments as such compliments will never help us in any way.
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
10 Nov 12
Hi subhojit!
Wouldn't it be nice if we say what the other people wanted to hear? Well, I was always reminded by my mother that if I have nothing good to say, better shut my mouth. So I always keep it in my mind but it does not necessarily mean that we have to prevent ourselves from saying some words, compliments perhaps to make other people happy. My job requires me to have a little of this skill. I am dealing with people in my everyday work.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well yes u are absolutely right, since your job requires to have some of this skill i think u must be understanding the intent of this discussion. i know at times our small compliments might bring a smile on someone's face and i think that is OK but then when people overemphasize and give fake compliments that it is very much annoying. But i think other than that we should be honest and truthful while speaking.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well yes u are absolutely right, there is not issue in complimenting others unless and until they are not offensive or sounds too fake. We should be direct and clear in our thoughts and opinions so that later on we do not regret what we had said. We should have that guts to compliment what is present in front of our eyes and never take the help of fake compliments in our life.
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@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
11 Nov 12
Hello :) i never gave any fake compliments to anyone. I just don't like such lies. Haha..whenever someone give me fake compliment i just ignore it
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well glad to hear that u always ignore fake compliments and we should always have such a habit of ignoring the fake things being said by others. I know they might seem sweet and ornamental words but they wont help us in the long run. What is the value of complimenting when u do not want to do such thing from within. That is the reason why i ignore such compliments too and great that u avoid giving fake compliments to others too.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
10 Nov 12
There is no definitive way to tell how sincere a person is. It would naturally depend on the person concerned and also how well you know them.
It should be possible once you get to know someone well enough to discern the sincerety from the imitation statements.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Yes u are right but i had always denounced the very thing of fake complements. Whats the point in complementing someone when he is not interested to speak such things from within. Sometimes we have to fake it depending on the type of situations we are facing but we should try to keep it as simple clear and truthful so that we do not regret that we had spoken lies in front of someone.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
10 Nov 12
It is very true that some people give false compliments. I also like you can make out the false compliments ..and i as well like you take it very sportingly.. I think it is better that way..I prefer not to compliment if it is not true so if i give a compliment it is for sure genuine. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well yes i easily catch it when i get to hear anyone giving fake complements. i think many people feel that by giving fake compliments they can impress the other person but then we should not forget that we are taking the help of lies which is not a good thing. We should be clear in our vision and views and be honest truthful and straightforward as much as forward at least we wont be able to sell our honesty to others.
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