It is hard to leave my kids...
By Ifamous
@ifa225 (14461)
Indonesia
November 11, 2012 5:32am CST
when I want to go to my office
my youngest daughter will cry and tears running on her face without any sound
she just can't speak and her voice is lost
most of the time I reject some opportunity because I can't bear to see her crying
How to leave your crying kids when you are going to the office?
7 responses
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 12
thank God i never had this kind of experience. i'm a teacher so i also need to go to office (school), but the headmaster kindly allow me to bring my daughter with me. i started teaching in this school whdn my daughter was about one year old. i did this (bring my daughter to school) for about three years. and when she was four, she began her academic year in a kindergarten. it doesnt mean i never bring my daughter to school anymore. i still bring her till today. she studies at her school from 7.30 to 11 a.m, while i'm teaching from 7am to 3pm. i should pick her up and bring her to my school till lunch time. then i take her home and let her under my mother in law's nurture. why i should bring my daughter to school cos nobody is at home to take care of her. my parents in law both are also teachers, my husband is an employee. i dont have a housemaid or baby sitter cos it's difficult to find one. fortunately my school is near with my house so i can go home for a while to ask my mother in law to take care of my daughter. my mother in law usually goes home earlier than me. fyi, i live with my parents in law.
i wont be able to hold my feeling if i have an experience like yours. i love my daughter so much and i couldng stand to see her crying everytime i go for work. maybe you need to be more patient for some times till she is mature enough to understand about your activity. and today, if you are ready to go to work, ask your husband or someone else to take her to somewhere so she doesnt see her mother leaving for working..
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 12
what about your daughter improvement recite Holy AlQuran?? is it better??
maybe she can learn together when you recite Holy Al Quran and she follow what you are doing maybe..
or maybe there are another TPA (special place for learning Al Quran) and she can learn with many kids..maybe it`s best way for her for loving read AlQuran..
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 12
you're right..then life is about choice and every choice has consequence. if she chooses to go to work then she must see this everyday. she earns money from the job. and if she chooses to stay at home not to make her child cries in the morning, she wouldnt earn money as the consequence. about choosing, i have it too in my life. i see that my daughter has difficulty in reading qur'an, it makes my eyes open that she needs her mom beside her longer than before. then i decide to quit from my job in an English education institution. i will resign from that institution in January. i will only have one job. it gives consequence my monthly money will be decreased. but it's ok. i beieve in God power. lol.
so mrs Ifa should choose which is the best for her situation..i wish her good luck..:)
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
It is really hard to leave the house when you see that your kid is crying so hard and would not let go of your hand. But what can we do? We need to earn for the family. We just need to tell our kids the importance of going to work and assure them that we will be able to give them quality time as soon as we get home.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
14 Nov 12
don`t rely on shvoong and mylot..
but if you have 25 active referral in shvoong and 50 active referral in mylot (when in mylot, each of your active referal donate you $0.05 and 50 active referral it means you get $2.5 everyday, you can count it in one month $75..it`s only from your referral)
so just shvoong and mylot as the additional income my friend..not the first income..
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 12
It is really difficult to see our loving child crying.
I remembered many years ago when my son was 3 and 1/2 years old.
I have to go to work and I send him to the nursery nearby, about
6 houses away from my house. My mum tell him not to cry, and said
if he needs her, it will be just 6 houses away. My mum managed to
convinced him at last :)
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 12
welcome back my friend..
it`s long time you go to jungle..
welcome to the city..
we miss you..
back to your respond
it`s the choice..it`s hard but maybe it`s the best choice for that situation...
just pray to God for getting a gold hearted when you should take the hard choice..
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
11 Nov 12
hi , i was like your daughter when i was young, i never understood ,why i used to do so, till date. may its a feeling of insecurity or something when parents go far from us. But we cannot express that, in that tender age, so cry a lot, as we ourselves don't know for what we are crying. I really don't know what can be done. 
@watchamacallitz (1171)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
I had this problem when my son turned eight months old since he is quite aware of what's happening around him. It is really hard but hey, I have to work to support him. This would only be at first, your kid will soon get used to it. Just give her time but make sure that if it's your rest day, spend quality time with her.
My son, now 23 months old, will even kiss and bid me good bye even before i leave for work. She'll soon be like that to you too.
