it's time to stop hurting myself

Hi soulsearcher109, I have been reading your post recently, I felt sad about whats happening to you and your partner or should i say EX? Anyway life is too short to burden your self to mend things that cannot be mended, You have tried and given a second chance,however when your not really meant to be, better say GOODBYE and say HELLO to everyone that comes around... Stay positive and happy. Being happy is not all about having someone beside you,as what i have said on some post BE HAPPY even your single and when you do, you will never know when someone comes again and say HI... :) may be sooner than you expect it to be.... Cheers...

hi In relationship we all know that it consist by two person to build a good relation ship. But if only one person that gives sacrifices or only one person that is hurting i think its time to let go of one another.

Although it is nice to have a partner, it is even nicer to have peace of mind. When it comes to love, you don't need anyone to help you do badly. Love should not hurt. Being alone and being healthy and whole is not such a bad state, I'm all for finding your calm.

Dear.. its time to move on with your life. You will find someone better for yourself. You dont need to take abuse from anyone.

love is not only form by i person love build and share by two its a relationship with the partner talk to him about what you feel

I am so sorry you went through that with your boyfriend. My ex treated me the same way. He physically and emotionally abused me for almost our entire relationship of 7 yrs. I finally gained the courage to leave him after giving him chance after chance to change when i had my son about a yr ago. I didn't want my son around that. Im glad u gained the courage to leave him and start a new you. It made me a happier and stronger person. It is hard to move on and find the true you again after being through all that but it is possible. I am proof. I moved out of state away from him and now i found someone who i like and want to be with who treats me amazing so far. If u ever need to talk u can always message me. I will always have a special place in my heart for women who have been bullied in anyway by their significant other.

This is one reason I don't date anymore! I have been mentally abused in relationships in the past! I then become like my mom was and try to be prefect because I feel (sometimes told) I can't do anything right in the relationship! I also feel or told everything wrong in the relationship is my fault! So I stay single! You my friend need to get out! You deserve better then this jackazz!

you are correct on what you are doing. you need to give some respect and pick some pieces of yourself to form it whole again. he does not deserve to be loved dearly if he kept on hurting you. what is the use of preserving a one way relationship when one pair is kept on wrecking it. so hard like that. anyway, he is not the only in the whole world. just pray for the right man to fall into his knees for your love. you deserve someone who will taking care of you and will respect and accept your for being you. so go girl :)

This is the real woman ! Loving too much , hurting very much and now taking a stand ! I am so impressed ! Hope all women can be like you ,so no more sad women around. You are so brave , you know when to stop and say Not anymore. What a very admirable trait ! Wish i can be like you also ! It is a very right moved , while sanity and self respect within you time to decide and to wave hands. So wrong to give up when you already loss your sanity and no respect to yourself so impossible to fix yourself then. Don't worry lady , many fishes in the ocean , am sure the best is waiting . Do not chase for it , wait for it in God's time it will come. For now , rejoice , enjoy life and be productive. Goodluck !

Hi there! Though goodbye seem a sad word, I believe in your case its in a positive side. Good that you're trying to make a stand to move out of the relationship. I mean, if its not doing you any good, get out, no matter how it hurts, because if you continue on with it, it would only hurt you more. For my personal point of view, relationships, be it love, friendship or any other types of relationships, it should always help you grow. Help you grow emotionally, spiritually and mentally. It should hone your personality. You should be able to learn from it. And best of all, you should be a better person. You are making the right decision, get out. Live happy.

the least you can do :)

love your self first before loving someone else.. it`s not healthy for a relationship that has lots of abuse going on emotionally spiritually and physically,, know your worth and the guy will respect you as he sees that you respect your self.. if your partner truly loves you he will bring out the best in you.. though there are really rough times and there is no such a perfect relationship love and respect will keep you going..^_^

then stop hurting yourself. Yes why stick and spend your time much on this jerk. Go on,you are young, wild and free (just kidding the two words). You can still find better man. You can find a man and not half man. Stop! and yes right now before you lose everything you have. Go girl you can do it!

That's the hardest part of loving someone, no matter what he does you just can't hate him. But if you know that it's not healthy anymore, you gotta move forward. It's not right that you're staying in a relationship wherein you're the only who's making effort.

It's good you've realized that your relationship isn't worth the pain its causing you. This for me is the first step. I mean, I've known of some people who are hurting physically and emotionally but still can't accept the fact that their relationship isn't healthy anymore. Well, I guess the next step for you is to move on.

We can only take so much. It is unhealthy to remain in a relationship when there is no more love between them or if only one is working for it. It always takes two to make a relationship. Move on and pray for a peace of mind and heart. Someone much better is there for you.

If you are not happy anymore with your relationship then better let go.. the important thing in loving someone is you need to be happy and contented in life, otherwise it's useless, even if there is love it won't really work.. better step a LITTLE FORWARD, maybe you can find the happiness your looking for,,

love others love self first,that is the point to make you how to love others,i've read your text and i think you should let of him,you need time to rest then time will wash anything

I believe that for you to be able to really love someone, you have to learn to love yourself first. If his relationship doesn't bring out the best in you and your partner anymore, then maybe it's better if you will end this sooner before you guys end up hurting each other even more.

I believe we are the only one who can control ourselves.If a relationship is not happy anymore then we will not sacrifice but let go of it.Don't lost control of yourself because of only one person but you have to move on and find better one.