When Love Suffocates or not enough?

@grace147 (223)
Philippines
November 15, 2012 11:13pm CST
"I'am sick of your love?, "I'm tried of waiting for you to give love", or "I don't need your love anymore" - these are some of the famous lines we hear or saw on movies - but this is reality. Is there a measuring cup on how much love to give to the person you care the most in this planet. Is it a crime to love you more? or it is more cruel to love you less? How do we know we already give love that suffocates him or her when in fact we just want the person we love to be happy and be taken cared of. Either way perhaps to love less or to love more - it will end up his or her bags being packed up and ready to go.
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6 responses
• Greece
17 Nov 12
Too much can be suffocating. But how do we know if we're giving too much love? sometimes, too much show of love and affection might turn into obsession. We don't have to limit the love, we can limit the attention and try to give our love ones a little space for themselves. After all, we need our own time and space as well. In order to have time for other important works and people around us like our family. We can have a sort of balance and divide our time. I believe we can love a lot of thins and people, not just in the same level and that is a helpful way to avoid being obsess to a person and suffocate them. But be careful not to forget time for her. That's the most important thing. If that didn't work, it means you really have to pack your bag (don't wait for him/her to do it) and go somewhere else.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
hi olivetree27, we have the same question - how can we detect if we are giving too much love already? and when can we say its enough love we are giving? Love truly is an amazing feeling that each day feeling it is a learning process and that makes us grow. thank you for the response.
@graysky (132)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
there is no measurement in love,we feel it.right from the bottom of our heart.the problem is that,sometimes or oftentimes,we dont know how to handle it.the power of it is so strong that we cant even help it,dont know how to act accordingly.sometimes we get too possessive because of the fear of losing that love.sometimes we get hold of our love because of the fear being abused,we choose not to show how much we love our partner because we are afraid that he/she will take advantage of it and hurt us.when you love someone love show it,let him feel how much you love him and that means trusting him your feelings without any doubts and resentment.afraid that it will not be recriprocated?dont be,love dont count or measure,if the love is true and real it will be given back to you.love unconditionally!...
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Your are indeed very true. There are times that we thought because we love we just give what we have in order for the person to be happy but only to find out that the kind of love we have been giving already suffocates them yet all the intention is love and happiness.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
16 Nov 12
Love and maintain a relationship takes a lot of work and effort. In order to keep the relationship going and try to keep both parties happy it's important to talk openly. When both individuals are willing to keep working at it and making adjustments where needed they can find happiness. It's just most of the time people become to tired to keep trying and working on the relationship. Hope that you aren't in a relationship that is either of those two choices.
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
16 Nov 12
I am no expert when it comes to love, but I think I know enough of it, enough to have a really amazing relationship with my husband. For me, I believe that true love, whether it is between couples or family or friends, brings out the best in each person in that relationship. It inspires them to be better persons and to even be someone that their love one can rely on. Otherwise, if it starts to make a person feel trapped or suffocated, maybe it isn't real love afterall. Just my opinion.
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Hi Raine38, I believe nobody is expert about Love. I think Love is main core is acceptance and understanding between each other. Thank you for the sharing.
@Shavkat (140102)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Breaking up to someone is so hard to do, mix emotions will be felt along the process. Personally speaking, it is better to end the relationship. If you think that you are not growing with such affection.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
16 Nov 12
All that is over is sickening and suffocating. No measuring cup can quantify. Sometimes you have given everything but you get nothing in return, such frustrating and disappointing. It is not a crime to love you more, but it is going to be a crime when you started suffocating the person with such affection. and being obsessed with this person.
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
hi Mavic123456, thank you for the response. Truly indeed Love works in mysterious ways. Its a continous learning between two people sharing.