The Martyrs: The life less followed by soldiers legal wives.

@Magz1989 (271)
Philippines
November 16, 2012 2:27am CST
Hello guys! A good friend of mine who is also a wife of a soldier advice me that i should follow the older Soldier wives for being loving, caring, understanding, doing everything the husband needs for they have only limited time and that I should be happy that my husband still come back to me. So, in direct terms: I should be a martyr wife like them, that I should accept that no matter how many mistresses my husband have, it is still okay for I am the legal one (the married one). So, that the our relationship will last long and that was the secret that many of them have followed. WHOA... I said" I will not be like that, I can't take that my husband have many other mistress for the reason that he is a soldier, that he is far from me and that because he is just a man. We had swear to GOD four (4) years ago that we will always love each other and we are one, not having another branch. What do you think guys, isn't that okay that your husband may have many girls as long as he will always come back to you?
3 responses
Jenny1015
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
That is one thing I hate hearing-- that it is okay for a married man to fool around for as long as he comes home to his legal wife. It is absolutely senseless to be married and yet allow these men to just go around and do anything they want. My husband and I had an argument with that same topic. And he made it an excuse because GUYS ARE GUYS, and they can do whatever they want and nothing bad will happen nor the society would not judge them. Arggh! yeah, right!
courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
16 Nov 12
I don't agree with that. If someone really loves you, they don't need anyone else but you. Just because they're a soldier and away all the time doesn't give them the right to sleep with whoever they want. My boyfriend of 2 and half years is in the army and I expect him to still be faithful to me even though we're not married and he's in Korea and I'm in Florida. Of course I will do the same for him and I'll wait patiently for him to come home. But I just don't think anyone has the right to have many relationships, even while married. It doesn't matter that you are the one he comes home to if he's going around seeing a bunch of women when he made a vow when he got married.
41Combedale
@41CombedaleRoad (5954)
• Greece
16 Nov 12
Whoever gave you that advice was not a brave person. She wanted to keep her husband at any cost. A promise of love should hold strong whatever situations we endure, in fact we need a true partner when we experience danger. I hate this 'just a man' business, does it mean a man is less than a woman and should be accepted as a naughty child without responsibilities? If soldiers need lots of women then they should not tie themselves down with one, or expect that one to be tied to them regardless. We often see the poor wife supporting the unfaithful but celebrated husband on the news. I think they just want to keep the security of having a wealthy and famous husband. That is why I think your friend is not a brave person. It is hard to stand alone but a wife must also be true to herself, especially when her husband is not true to her.