You can't please everyone
By desertrose16
@desertrose16 (600)
United States
November 16, 2012 12:30pm CST
Your not put on earth to make every person you come in contact with happy. There are people who will criticize you no matter what you do or say. No matter how nice you are or try to be. You help one person out who is homeless, more people come up to you. You do something that a friend asks you to do and someone else does not like that. You say excuse me to someone because they are in your way, they curse at you and call you names or try to cut you down when they are no better. You can pray for them, that does not mean they will ever change their attitude towards you or anyone that tries to be nice and polite. For those who love complaining about things that really do not concern them, then they need to grow up and take a very good long look at themselves and their bad attitude towards others before they complain about anything. If a friend asks you to do something because they know they are going to be late, are you going to tell them no? Even if it is an urgent request from your significant other, so long as your not breaking the law?
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19 responses
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
17 Nov 12
All true , we cant please everyone !! we will have people that will not like us no matter what you do . I dont try to please people anymore because I have tried and I see how it goes .
People will ask you for thins and you will give them and the minute you cant they call you a liar.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Nov 12
No matter how hard I try I cannot stop trying to make others happy around me. The bad thing is my husband is just as bad as me about helping others! We help everyone and get kicked for it when were down...
@STOUTjodee (3573)
• United States
17 Nov 12
Oh, I know what you mean LovingMyBabies!
When my husband and I were both working everybody and their neighbor wanted us to "lend" them money. Since my husband got injured and I'm not able to work, they seem to still think we should do things for them. They've never paid the money back to us and we could certainly use it now, or they could pay us for helping do whatever they need help with. So some times you have to come to a point where you can't please everyone.
When my husband and I were both working everybody and their neighbor wanted us to "lend" them money. Since my husband got injured and I'm not able to work, they seem to still think we should do things for them. They've never paid the money back to us and we could certainly use it now, or they could pay us for helping do whatever they need help with. So some times you have to come to a point where you can't please everyone.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
17 Nov 12
I feel sorry to read your story. Some people just get used into this kid of
idea that you are available to help all the time and they don't care that
they are already abusing your kindness. In my case was my parents. They feel
that I am always responsible of giving them help all the time when they need.
Of course as their child I will help, but they just don't understand when
sometimes ther's nothing I could do to help specially that I have my own
family now. We don't handle the situation so we cant please everyone even
if we want to.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
17 Nov 12
Some people are impossible to please no matter what you do for them, you could run a thousand errands for them and still they wouldn't be pleased and would find one of the thousand errands done for them and criticize it. The saying is you can please some people some of the time but you can't please everyone all of the time. Or die trying. I think the only person you should be pleasing is yourself, you only get one shot at life, put yourself first, if others don't like it, then tough, it's not their life its yours!
@kristian2012 (84)
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18 Nov 12
that's true, there are really people plays as the rain in your parade. their always there to put you down.no matter what you do, they always make negative comments about you. i have also experienced encountering these kind of people. but what can i do, they're still existing here on earth, and i have to deal with them almost everyday, whether i like it or not.
i don't blame anyone for this misfortune of mine. i just take it in a different perspective. they play a significant role in my life because with them, i've learned to be strong and to give myself a respect. i have used them to prove my self to be the opposite of their misconceptions about me. they have helped me to unleash the good characteristics in me.
as regards your question, in a case to case basis, if it will not be a threat to me but rather an advantage, why not?
@oscavu (10)
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17 Nov 12
Sure enough you can't please everyone, and when that happens, be sure some of the people you please are either afraid of telling you the truth or are so good at pretending. And it may be even harder to change them and all you may be able to do is take care of your attitude towards them and this will guide your response/reaction to them. But more importantly, even in a relationship, is communication - open and honest communication with consideration of the other party's needs. So telling someone to do something because you will be late is much better than keeping them waiting while they could be doing something else. Imagine missing lunch waiting for someone who knows he/she will be late by more than two hours and even then , he/she will have eaten, see?
@leateagee (3667)
• China
17 Nov 12
True. It's too bad that we try our best to make people happy to have a better world but the fact is that it will never happen because we can not please everyone. Anyway, when we were all younger we try to please everyone to adapt or blend in. But as we grow we find out that it is not necessary because not ALL people care. We surive to fit in. Believe me its not easy. Just be yourself and don't hurt others. Life is good. 
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
It is really hard to please everybody no matter how much great things you do for them. Still there would be some who will criticize you. And for what purpose? Either they are envious of how great a person you are or they simply do not other better things to do or say.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
You can please some people at some of the time but you can never please all people at all of the time .It is but a human nature that not all will like you , favor you and will agree with you . Some will not like and love you . It is okay , don't live your life according to the conformity of others but live life according to what is right , legal and moral. Do what is desirable , what is good to your fellow and to yourself. Don't be bribe with bad things , don't live in hypocrisy , be you ..be natural and be Godly. You have no obligation to please people but you have obligation to yourself , to be pure , to be a good example to the community.
@Clickston2 (39)
• Kenya
17 Nov 12
Each individual is unique; and most issues why people criticize or don't like us stem from that. Just because you don't have the same view point as theirs; you will be bad to them! For me as long as am not violating your right will not seek to please others.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
One really cannot please everybody. Add to what you have written if one do good something, one will say one is hypocrite. If one will do something wrong, one will acusse of doing so bad. You really don't know where to position yourself. To some if you do good, for them it is just a show off however if you do something bad, for them it's really bad. Truly, one cannot please everybody. I think let us do thing to please God rather than men.
Good day!
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
17 Nov 12
yes, no one can please everyone. well that's life is desertrose. What happened to you? has someone curse you when you want to pass? Maybe you accidentally stepped on his foot, or hit by your bag? Just kidding. Anyway, yes you do what pleases you as long you dont hurt others or you don't affect them. Do what pleases you as long as your actions would not cause any catastrophe in your environment. Go girl you can do it. :)
@rockyk (159)
• India
17 Nov 12
Very true indeed. And you should also not try to please everyone. You should always aim at doing what is right and you will always be on the best track possible. If you do things to please others, you may even end up doing the wrong thing. So, our objective should be to the right thing and not to please everyone. If someone is happy with what we did, it is just the icing on the cake. If someone is unhappy with us for doing what we did, that's there problem. Not ours.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
a pleasant day to you,
indeed you are correct. we can't really please everybody. no matter how hard you try and giving your best effort, still at the end of it, your mistakes are mostly seen and not the good deeds that you have done. no matter how your best was exerted, still, what is unfinished was the one being noticed. and i guess, no one can really please everybody. and this is based on everybody's experiences.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
16 Nov 12
I used to try and please everyone around me... its to much pressure as it cant be done.
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
16 Nov 12
I agree with you...Whenever I try to please others, I just ended up hurt. Especially when they misunderstand your motives, although what you want just to make them happy. Even God can't please everyone, as a matter of fact there always people who disappointed even to God. “It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you.” Although I know that, I still think and concerned about it, I can't help it, but what can I do?
My friend give me a piece of advise. We waste a lot of time and energy trying figure out what other people want us to be and then trying to become like that. It’s not necessary to please everybody. You don’t have to please everybody in order to be happy in life. Because even God can't please everybody.
@shelamae21 (100)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
I agree.we connot please evryone,evry person has a different attitude.as long as we can do it by ourself..no need to please to someone..
