How to discipline a Child???
By Mary Ann
@therealmaryyy (3162)
Philippines
November 16, 2012 8:32pm CST
Any EFFECTIVE suggestions on how to discipline a 6 year old kid????
8 responses
@rockyk (159)
• India
17 Nov 12
The first thing that you should know is that your child needs love. But he or she also needs limits. So, set your limits for the child but with love and firmness. A child doesn't know what is right or wrong. You do. So, you got to teach him or her what is good and what is bad. So, if he is insisting on something, you are the best person to decide. If you think it is not good for him, then you should tell him why you cannot buy it and why it is not good for him or when he can have it. Of course, in a language that the child understands.
There are so many things involved in child discipline. So, it also totally depends on the situation as well.
@therealmaryyy (3162)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
i am so in love with my son!!! hahaha. he is the person that makes me 'laugh' and he surprises me most of the time. it is bittersweet to be a single mom.
but the thing is, we only have each other. though he is surrounded by my parents, relatives and my friends.. he knows that his mom will always be there for him...
when it comes to discipline, its just hard. but i'm trying to be firm and consistent.
@rockyk (159)
• India
17 Nov 12
Sounds like you are doing a great job as a Mom. I know when you love your kids so much it is of course hard to say no to anything they want. But then just by being firm and consistent in your reactions (which you are already doing), you can really teach your son a lot and make sure that he turns out to be as wonderful a parent as you are.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
I think it should start on knowing who your child really is. What are his likes and dislikes? And I think from there, you can customize the way you treat your child. Remember that no two persons are exactly alike even if they were even twins.
A 6 year old child more than a toddler and less than a teenager. You should be able to learn to give your kid a little freedom on doing certain things on his own. Explain as much as you can why can't do certain things and what are the repercussions if he will not obey you. Compromise with your child if you seem to be not agreeing on something. An open communication with your child is the best way on how you can instill discipline on him.
Effective communication between parents and children is not always easy to achieve. Children and adults have different communication styles and different ways of responding during a conversation. In addition, timing and atmosphere may determine how successful communication will be. Parents should make time to talk with their children in a quiet, unhurried manner.
@therealmaryyy (3162)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
communication is the key.
what i like is mostly what he likes... we're both stubborn. hahaha
but i make it to a point, that whenever i scold him.. i talk to him in the room and discuss to him why i screamed, shouted or scolded him.
the kids needs answers. whenever they ask,, parents should answer.
it'd be hard if they get answers from the people outside the house or even a stranger. it'd be best if parents knows how or the right way to answer their child's questions.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
That is right. As much as possible, we want our kids to learn so much from us. It may be difficult sometimes to answer all their questions, but it is our duty to be there for them whenever they need us.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
19 Nov 12
Hi friend, teaching Discipline to kid is really a great challenge. Some parents are forcing their kid to do some good thing and activities to discipline them. But we must avoid forcing them and teaching the good things with kind manner. Don't beat or blame your kids, guide them with your love and affection. Little kids have a lot of grasping power and they have the ability to learn things easily, if we teach them in a good way, surely they will learn the lesson easily and never forget about it.
Childhood days are the days which is handled with full of love, care and affection. We must give our full love and affection to our kids and guide them with our kindness. Forcing activity never give a good result to us, with our forcing activity child may get some hatred with us and keep distance from the parents, so avoid forcing your kid to teach the good things to them.
Parents are the role model to the kids and mostly kids will follow the parents activities, if you want to teach a good thing to your kid, just do it by your own and made your kid to watch it, children's having a great observation and they will grasp the things easily, if we do the good thing continuously, it will register in the child mind and they will follow the same thing. It is the best way to teach good things to your kid. Be a good role model to your children.
6years is really not a great age to teach a lot of things, so teach her gradually and guide her with your love and affection. I have 5 year old son and always teach a lot of things practically with my activities
@therealmaryyy (3162)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
I am aware that their are really times that i am forcing my child to do things which i think that is good and would be good for him.. the most difficult part is constantly explaining to them the goodness to the things that they need to do right. but i am aware too that they need to make mistakes and learn things their way..
it is truly difficult to be a parent at the same time very rewarding..
we just want them to be good, responsible and humble..
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
You know your child better so I am sure you know how to discipline your child. It is important to be consistent about discipline. When I am disciplining kids here at home I always stick to the rules and consequences because if I don't kids aren't like to either. When I said NO as in No! no matter what they do or even they cried it's still NO. Be careful not to make unrealistic threats of punishment like ("Slam that door and you'll never watch TV again!") in anger, since not following through could weaken all your threats.
@therealmaryyy (3162)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
i admit, i'm soooo dumb and poor with my consistency. but with rules, when i say no it is really no. but kids.. they are kids.
we argue about watching tv, playing outside the house and studying!!!!!!!!!! geeezzz
@sasheme (2)
•
17 Nov 12
Well, parents know their kid best, they know what makes him/her shudder. All I can say is that, be consistent about rules and get everyone else around him/her follow your principles in rearing him/her. Have an eye-to-eye contact and make him feel guilty at his first offences so that he would understand the right from wrong.
I've a cousin who always gets pampered by our grandpa, while being constantly disciplined by his dad; it didn't turned out well. Because he thinks he can get away with living his life as is.
Also, have the kid get tested for disorders, like ADHD.
If this doesn't help, I think further details can help alot.
@therealmaryyy (3162)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
Thanks.
Yeap, we went to the doctor and have him check if he has ADHD but he responses well with the doctor. so it turned negative. thank God.
my problem is when i let him feel pampered and i give him the attention, i think that i'm giving him the idea of him being spoiled.
i want to take care of him. i'm his mom.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
19 Nov 12
First find out why discipline is needed. Then make sure the child knows that for every action there is a reaction in life. Then take away something that is important to the child. Remember each child is different and what works for one may not work for another. my choice was time out, until I had a child the totally enjoyed her time out. I then had to step back and rethink the situation. I finally had to admit that she was much smarter than I was, the result was we were both unhappy for most of her childhood. Her adult life has not been much better. She could always beat the system, but life has a way of paying back. Most call this Karma. As a parent do what you can with kindness and the knowledge that you are doing the best you can.
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
I have dealt with kids for a long time because I'd been tutoring them and I know that some of them, boys most especially, can really wear your nerves and your patience. I notice that those who do not get just a little spanking from their parents grow up to be naughty and difficult.
Telling stories is one very effective way of teaching your child manners. Make it a point to tell a story to your child everyday. Tell him stories about being compassionate and being sensitive. Develop the habit of listening in him by telling or reading him a story every night before he goes to bed.
