Do I need to call my boyfriend's mother a mom too?

Why not if they are open to that idea and you are comfortable about it? say it. No I don't at first again, for propriety, testing how deep the water first i might drown. But when my bf's family always tell me that I am a part of the family already so why not call their mom "mama", I did. anyway that's how I address other old ladies I knew as a respect why not with her. Nice day.

my husband and I have been married for almost two years and we already have a one year old baby boy but to tell you honestly, I am still shy to call his mother "Mommy". I don't know, I am the type of person who is really shy, as a matter of fact, I can't call my own mother and father "mommy and daddy", for the reason that I didn't grow up with them (That's another story), so it's pretty obvious that I can't also call someone else "mommy". Even when we were still boyfriend-girlfriend, I can't call his mom "Tita" and his older sisters "Ate". I don't know. I am very much accepted by his family as their in-law but i just can't express my feelings, i am too shy. I hope in the future, I can get used to calling them properly though. I hope. In your case, since they're the one telling you already, I guess it's okay for you to follow. but it's still your preference. If you prefer to call her "Tita" for now until you and your boyfriend gets married, i guess they would understand. just go with what's comfortable with you. :-)

kokomo: I think you have to follow your heart on this one. Perhaps you should feel honored that your boyfriends brothers feel so warmly and welcoming toward you as a perspective sister-in-law, but if you are not yet comfortable with referring to their mother as "mom", then you should not do so. Has the mother mentioned a desire that you call her mom? I would just tell the boyfriend and his brothers that you are not yet ready to call their mother mom; that you prefer to wait until you are married. I have been married for nearly eleven years and even though I am fond of my husband's mother, I could not call her mom. For me personally, I will only have one mother, and will not call anyone else mom.

hi, i think there is no bad or even problem once we call our boyfriend's mother a mom too,because as we can see on the side calling them a mom also a showing of respect,and for the guys,i think they are more like when there girlfriend called there mother a mom too.

Hello Kokomo! I know the feeling... Hehehe.. Before me and my husband got married I don't know how to call his mother but I'm so thankful because his mother told me to call her nanay... I think it's okey because even there Neighbor calls her nanay... Hehe... But here in our country tita is mostly used... Hehehe

For a lady that will address her boyfriend's mother as mom is quiet unacceptable because when the time comes that you and your bf don't have relationship anymore, its a shame for you. But its your choice. When you are comfortable to say it to her but you must know the consequences when your relationship will last long. It happened to me but I have no worries because I'm a guy.

This is a good question. But here usually we will called our mother-in-laws as "moms" after we get married. After all, at that time it will be much more official.

The custom of calling one's mother-in-law varies from family to family. My son's fiancee called me "Mom" the first time I saw her, but I wasn't ready for that. A wedding is planned January 1st. After that event, I'll be comfortable being her mom, if she still wants. My husband does not care to be called "dad" by any of our in-laws, although our soon-in -law insists that he's the only dad he has, as his father is deceased. That is the way my husband was raised. I always called his parents by their first names, and he did the same for my parents. He and I were already married by the time I met his parents, and I always felt as a not quite special guest in their house. I was treated well. I just wasn't ciose family.

It is nice thing that they are comfortable with you and would like to consider their mom as your own mom as well. What is their mom's view of this? Does she agree with being called mom by you? I think that it is one of the factors to be considered. I used to call my husband's mom as tita. And after we got married, I still call her the same but find it a bit awkward so I just don't call her tita anymore but I can't remember even once that I call her mom. It is hard for me to consider her as my own mom after what has happened in the past. It will really take some time I guess. Hopefully, few years from now, I will also learn to call her that way.

i believe that you should wait for the time that you are already married. i myself use tita to call my boyfriend's mom. it felt awkward to call her mom eventhough we arent married yet. what if you won't end up together in the future? more awkward isn't it?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years now and we have a 22 month old son, but, the funny thing is that I have never called his mom "Mom". Im shy, just like you and I feel like I can only call her that once me and my boyfriend, his son, is married.

Nah.. It would be fine if it's a mutual feeling.. If the mother is really close to you, and she , herself told you to do so, I think there wouldn't be hesitation at all..:D But I myself, uses Tita.. I don't want his mom to feel the beyond the limit respect..

Why are they so keen on it? You have only one mom for as far as I'm concerned. LOL If you don't feel comfortable with calling her mom you just should stick to tita.

hi friend.. you said that you shy to say mom. ok, even if THEY WANT you call theirs mom mom, you should call theirs mom mom, but even if theirs mom DOESNT WANT called mom, so you shouldnt call theirs mom mom. I never call mom, cause they never ask me about theirs mom called mom.

That would be awkward. hahaha. I can't really do that.

Actually, I never even called my mother in law anything aside from replying with "po" of "opo". I didn't feel the need to jump into that. And even when my husband and I got married, it took me about a year before I could get use to calling my mother in law as mommy.

It depends on you and your relation. If you are not comfortable then take your time and go ahead.But the family members will definitely feel happy if you try it.

I think you should call her whatever you feel comfortable with. In my country and language, earlier, a modified version of this language's word for mom was used for a mother-in-law. But times have changed. Earlier, it was expected from daughter-in-laws to respect and obey their mother-in-laws, no matter how mean or dumb they could be, and to see them as a mom. Now, I won't call my boyfriend's mom, or later, mother-in-law a mom. Because I have only one mom, and that's my own mother. We're never gonna be that close with my mother-in-law, either, she's not like a surrogate mom. But if you want to call her mom at some point, you should decide when you wanna do it. If you have your stance about it, stand up for it. It is you who should decide this, not your boyfriend, let alone his brothers! And I don't really understand why they tell you you should practice - it's not like swimming that you should practice it so you won't sink... I mean, when you feel comfortable with it, you call her mom, and that's it! Also, it does matter how long you have been together. If it is just some months, it may be too fast, actually.

Hi, In my country, if a girlfriend is sure to marry a boy, she should call the boy's parents parents. SO you should call your boyfriend's mum mum if you live here. You should be glad that they treat you as their family(sister-in-law), it's good. SO why not change "Tita" into" mum", they will be very happy for that. . Have a good day, too!

Hi! I also faced the same problem initially. I called my mother.in.law 'Aunty' till I got married to my boyfriend.The very day I got married the first thing I did to is to call her 'Mom',to my surprise the whole scene got changed to me. From the starting she was not very much in favor to our relationship and also bit unsure about accepting me as her daughter.in.law but the particular call,'mom' changed a big portion of her heart and she looked surprised too. This helped me a lot and after 12yrs of my marriage all I can say that "don't rush now and make your boyfriend understand your point". Also convince them saying that you want to start the new call after the wedding which will sound sweeter!!! .