A friend with big dream, but not practical
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
November 19, 2012 8:49pm CST
Maybe he is spoiled, and maybe he only go for the bigger fish only. This friend of mine, who barely work through his adult life. He is over dependent on his mom to give him money. He tried to have his own online site, trying to be like Mark Zuckerberg, but it wasn't success. He tried to invest the money into stock market, but he didn't make money from it, instead of the opposite. He talked about big dream, big money, I think he is a smart person, but he just unwilling to go out there and work. Sometimes, my other friend, or I gave him advice, he wasn't like it at all. He thought we trying to criticize him, or make him look bad. Oh well, I did my part as a friend, listen or not, that is his life. I don't want everyone to be the same, but sometimes, you have to work and gain the real time experience, then you can have your big dream.
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11 responses
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
hi,
that is true that we need to work in a field to fully understand how business will work,and there are some people like your friend who doesn't like to receive an advice from their friends because as what you said they usually feel they criticizing them.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
23 Nov 12
I completely agree with you. Unfortunately we aren't all able to hit it big like Mrk Zuckerberg or we would do it. Most of us have to go out into the world and work and make a living. It's nice to have goals and dreams but we definitely have to be realistic in our expectation. Being billionaires isn't what is going to make us happy. Many individuals who are rich are depressed and there life is so messed up. So we have to make sure we don't lose sight of what is really important in our lives.
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
21 Nov 12
Oh yes, some folks think they can find an easy way to make it big, but what is needed is lots of hard work. (Unless one's parents or grandparents, etc, did the hard working! and passed on an inheritance, which of course many parents wish they could do, but is it really the best for learning in life?)
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
21 Nov 12
Hi king, I know what you are saying...there are some people
out there who thinks that their big break in life is going
to fall from the sky, right into theie laps...And they are
just not ambitious enough to work for what they want..
I guess they have never heard the saying, 'NO TICKET OF SHIRT"...
@rockyk (159)
• India
21 Nov 12
If anyone wants to succeed at anything, they need to start small. But if your friend is not willing to work hard, then he has a big problem. I think more than that it is his mother who is spoiling him. If she continues to hand him the money, then he is surely not going to try hard. As far as your advising him is concerned, try your best but maybe a direct approach is not appropriate here. What you and your other friend should try doing is having a discussion about succeeding at things and how it should be done with this problem friend just listening to it. Maybe you can get something into his head.
@glenng01 (71)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
I think your friend is uncomfortable or anxious about having a job. Having a job means having your own boss who does nothing but boss you around, having no control over your time, and having limited monthly income just good enough to get you through everyday life. Thus, I think that what your friend wants is the opposite of all of this where you can only find by working online.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
21 Nov 12
Some people expect to receive success on a plate served up to them without lifting a finger, others think they will get rich overnight without having to work for it! It's all well and good having big dreams but in order to fulfill them we have to work to achieve them, we can't just lie back on our laurels and expect to get success at whatever we do. It's like anything in life you get out what you put in, if you are prepared to work hard for something you will get it, if you don't put the time and effort into it how are you expected to succeed? I think your friend needs to be far more realistic!
@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
21 Nov 12
There is so much that you can do for someone. At least you've tried to help him see the light and see that what he's doing isn't doing him any good. Now, it's up to him to think about it.
You cannot force him to see things the way you do. Let him make his own mistakes and learn from it. He will eventually come to realize sooner or later. Sooner is better because later would mean that he'll grow older and will not have achieved anything at all with his life.
@MsControversy (446)
• United States
20 Nov 12
I agree that sometimes you have to start at the bottom to make it to the top, speaking metaphorically as far as a company or a career goes, but sometimes people's dreams are bigger than a cubicle and a crabby boss. I think as a friend that you should be supportive. At least he's not just completely mooching off of his mom and being a bum, he is at least trying to make some things happen for him. Good Luck!!
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
21 Nov 12
Yes, sometimes we can just do so much even for a friend. In the end they will just be the one to decide it is his life anyway and there is nothing you can do. And having been supported by the family, well who will want to work for what. when you can have everything at your left and right hands. But that's not forever, people will get tired of giving him. Oh well, different folks with different strokes.
