What will you do when a powerful man told you that you are wrong?
By HuaZhao
@HuaZhao (457)
China
November 20, 2012 12:53am CST
I have one friend who is more powerful than me and very successful. He gave me many useful suggestions and pointed out my faults. But sometimes, he told me wrong when I thought it was right. I am very confused about that. Need I change myself to follow his suggestions? But I think my view is right too, at least it is ok for me. For example, in his eyes, the society is very complicated and he gave me some suggestions to deal with the society. But for me, I think that is ok, I treat everyone well and try my best to help the people who need help and also I improve myself everyday. I like simple life and I like to concentrate to the things I like and I think which can benefit not only myself but others. What's your ideas? My dear mylotters, I need your advice.
7 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
I think that when one tell us that we are wrong, we should assess ourselves and think hard if what we did or say was really wrong. We do not have to just nod on those powerful people. They are humans, too, and they can commit a mistake. If you know you are right then fight for it. You can listen to suggestions but it doesn't mean that you need to follow them.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
Do not let yourself be intimidated by others no matter how intelligent they maybe. People view things differently. You may either have the same points of view or sometimes you might have opposing views. Nevertheless, if you know that you are right, stand for it.
@murkie (1103)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
hello huazhao.
just because he is successful doesn't mean he is always right. since you look up to the man, i say you HEAR out what he says, and then LISTEN to yourself.
there's no way of telling which is wrong and which is right at that stage. you know what you want and what you can do. so consider other people's opinions. and then weight them against yours which would be a better option. if youare still doubtful, then talk to somebody else.
@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
20 Nov 12
When we seek advice or find ways to change ourself by searching out what we want to learn, does not mean we have to follow it to the letter. What we do is incorporate it into our life, make it fit into what we like and don't like.
What others feel is the right thing to do isn't always the right thing for everyone to do. We make compromises in our way of life to fit in.
@Shavkat (140119)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
If you think that you are in the position of not doing wrong against other people. Then no need to accept the subjective intentions from other people. You are entitled to be right in everything you do.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
20 Nov 12
i think u need to be yourself, why u need to copy someone.
the society around u maybe different with your friends, so sometime not all he do that u can apply.
maybe u can take his word and change a little bit so that it more suitable with your situation
@graysky (132)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
do the things that you think is right for you.he has different views in life that is way different from yours.you dont have to change your own point of view just to follow him.his life is his life and yours is yours.whatever you do,you are the one who will deal with it in the end not him.do what makes you happy.you dont have to change yourself in order to fit his standards.
@gunsing (142)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 12
one thing I can say: be yourself. that's the key.
it's true that we need advice from people with more experience, more knowledge, more senior and so on, but still we are what we are.
I'm not sure about "powerful man", but if you're in training session, of course you must follow what you're trained for; if he's your counselor, then of course you must follow his words and so on.
from what we learn from life then we can create our views, our values, our opinions etc. that make us what we are.
