My friend got her girlfriend pregnant

Woah, what a jerk. And to think there are so many of them out there. They might promise love before in the relationship but when it comes to real responsibility, they chicken out!

Yes many man are like that but there are some that will stick throw till the end and be there always for the mom and baby regardless there relationship status.

I hope he becomes one of those people. If not, a lot of people will be disappointed.

so what can you do as his ex?? and what is your current boyfriend reaction if you told your ex problems??

I can give him advice but we don't see each other and we don't communicate much. I really feel no obligation towards my ex. Some things he just has to learn on his own and with a stubborn guy like him, he will have to learn them the hard way. My boyfriend completely resented how my ex looked at his baby as some sort of spawn from hell instead of an angel.

I don't have feelings for him any more. we didn't last that long as girl friend and boyfriend but we were close friends for a year but he suddenly blocked me out for his life for no apparent reason. Shows how defensive he really is and he's very secretive too. that's how I am with my exes. I'm just surprised that he is a dad and that he got her pregnant when they have a long distance relationship haha. He's not happy, he's clearly in deep trouble because of it and he's looking for solutions i hope. THe future for them will be full of difficult trials, I just hope they can get through it all and raise the child well. It's really the child that I'm worried about not him hehe

so it`s good aja.. it`s sign that the father is responsible man

Hmm, i think he is looking for a job so he can start making a living to raise his family. but I'm not sure, I don't have any updates on him.

He shouldn't let it out on the child or his girlfriend, he ought to blame himself for being such a d=ck. And it is as you say, he should learn to take responsibility.

Ah, wakeupkitty, always the fiery one. hehe, but i appreciate it. And I agree with you. First: I couldn't think of a better title LOL second: They are still in a long relationship yes, because the girl only stayed in the guys city for a few days then returned to her home and got a souvenir! Yes, I know that is an illusion. But he can change and I believe that, that is if he wakes up. Though there is low probability of that, you can not deny the possibility either. And yes, it's a cheap excuse that he's from a broken family and a shame even more that he let it affect him(even though he tries his best to deny it). But then I added that in order to inform people how broken families can twist a person so much that he'd behave irresponsibly. Plus, he is not a very close friend of mine. In fact, I only knew about it last month when he got the girl friend pregnant since february. And I am not proud of what he has done but i consider him a friend, because he needed one especially at a time when he is in big trouble though we never see each other very often. he's a very closed up guy who hardly speaks his secrets to anyone, much less to me. And I don't blame you for your reaction either. If I were in your place, i would say the same things. But you don't know what the guy has gone through so it's really easy to pre judge. And I already feel sorry for the child, that's why i can only hope that things will go well for this family.

If you are talking about a better girl who can't get herself pregnant, then I know of one imaginary girlfriend you can use LOL But really, if people want to avoid this so called accident, then they should practice safety. It takes both effort from both partners, not just the girl. If the accident happens, it's both the girl and boy's fault.

sorry, i mean, mistake made by us(i and gf)

hehe, okay.

I really hope so! I really hope that he will change this attitude for the better. Thanks for the response

No, he's not really a player. We weren't together as a couple for a long time. actually he ignored me after we became girlfriend and boyfriend. i think he was insanely jealous with another guy in class who actually became my boyfriend later on. I think he loves the girl because they have been together for almost 6 years. They have been in a long distance relationship so when the girl came to his city them couldn't stop themselves LOL

The worst is that they won't be able to stay together as family and the child will not be raised well.

he should be responsible and not being selfish

Yeah he's a jerk but I hope he evolves into a good father and husband somehow.

I don't think so. The baby is almost due. If he wanted to abort the baby he would have done it long ago.

Very well said. He knew the consequences of what he has done. If he isn't ready, he should have just avoided doing it. But he's weak against temptation, so he should make up for it.

If only they could learn becoming a dad first than learning how to do s-x. That would make things a whole lot better!