Some people don't like disagreement, what is that?
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
November 21, 2012 3:39pm CST
I don't know if ever know someone like this, or some people just want to the dominant one. I knew a friend, who always try to be smart, to discuss with people about politics, or new technology. So, once I went out to lunch with him, and we discuss about this new Windows phone from Nokia, and I express that I don't like it at all. Then he start shake his head, and express a bit of anger. He told me that Windows will beat the Apple in the near future, because Apple Corp is without Steve Jobs right now, etc...... I thought he was up for open discussion, but I guess not. That is not a learning at all.
Also, my part - time job manager, this lady she thinks that she always right. If someone express their own opinion which is different than hers, she will criticize you hard. So, no one ever really want to talk to her or tell her the truth. She said whatever she wants, we just nod our heads.
I just couldn't understand these people. What do they think they are?
7 responses
@spicymary (558)
• Romania
21 Nov 12
Some people know how to debate and explain different arguments without taking it personally. Discussing politics with somebody who doesn't agree with you can be interesting.
@Janurmas (642)
• Indonesia
18 Jan 13
I have ever faced a person like this when we were in a meeting. He always insisted that his opinion is the best among those opinions. He insisted that we will get succeed in achieving certain activity by applying his idea. How i deal with this kind of person is by what research and proof that he can show to us to proof that his opinion and idea can bring our success in an effort. We found that he could not show the real proof and he could not show the make sense reasons to us. He got to be ashamed himself.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
Hi king, I know few people who are like that. All that matter to them are their own views and opinions. They are actually close to what others would say. You don't dare play sports with them because they hate to be the loser. I have attended a meeting before and one of the attendees has this kind of attitude. She would insist her opinions and when others do not agree with her, she will not stop talking and repeating this over and over again and would really be angry if the others still won't agree. What I do not like about her is that, like you said, if you do not have the same opinion as her, she will criticize you as if you are a stupid person and do not really know what you are talking about. And of course, that it is her that is right. And one time, she even talked about personal and confidential things about the person that shouldn't be talked about during a meeting. Well, she resort to that thing for you to stop disagreeing with her. I think that this kind of people are close minded, perfectionist and aren't professional. It won't be wise to debate with them.
@cgicale (137)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Hi kingparker,
Yes this is so true, I know a few people like these too. They are the type of know-them-all people. They have super high confidence with themselves and thinks that they are always right. What they say is always correct. I really hate people like this. They would give their ideas and opinions expecting us to accept it. They will do everything to prove that they are right HA!I really love it when someones challenges them and shows that they are wrong at times.
@DaveGee1 (11)
• United States
2 Dec 12
King, it can be very frustrating speaking with someone who seems to only want to prove that they're right all the time. Sometimes people hold their ground on their opinions so much that you don't even want to speak with them because of how they talk.
I wanted to note that spicymry, above, made an excellent point. People can talk about things like politics without taking it personally, and it can be a very rich and interesting conversation.
I think that many difficult issues can be talked about, but it's HOW you talk about these issues that determines what kind of conversation you're going to have.
If I express my opinion about how I don't like the windows phone the conversation can take a more positive turn if the other person, respected my opinion, and then shared his or her difference of opinion.
Here is what I would personally do in a similar situation.
Whenever someone expresses their opinion like what you've written, I would say something like this
"Oh, so you don't think that Apple will last? Tell me more about that."
Listen to them and ask questions out of curiosity. This shows that you are listening respectfully and you encourage them to do the same for you.
You can then express your own opinion
" So you think windows will be the future, and that may be true, but when I used the windows phone, I didn't like it because..."
Nothing is guaranteed, some people will not want to listen to other opinions and you can't force them. Hopefully, you can encourage a new way of talking about issues with your friends.
@arreolabryan (856)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Some people just think highly of themselves. They can't be wrong but the more times they will know they are wrong the lower to the ground they can become.