Have you ever been volunteered by someone else?

It is the other way around. I am an organiser of sorts, planning the whole thing be it a picnic, a party, or whatever. To make it a perfect 'do' I distribute responsibilities to whoever is capable of handling them, overseeing everything and invariably the event is always a thumping success. However, I remember one such event. It was my niece's wedding and my brother wanted me to plan the whole thing. There were not less than 20 who volunteered. We have a system where the bride to be has her last bath after a ritual that is performed on the previous day of the wedding. It is a grand occasion for the bride to be. The mother of the bride chaperons her to the bathroom and what do you think the one who was responsible for keeping hot water for the bath forgot to do it. You can imagine the pandemonium that followed.! It was a ritual after all and such mistakes are unpardonable! My niece still talks about it!! In your case it was more like - "Give an inch they take a yard" or some such thing I bet. If you enjoyed the chore that's all that matters.

I get volunteered-- all the time, by the other half and my boys, since I don't have a "real job". Yeah, riiiight... I guess working 40 hours a week or more isn't a JOB unless you are outside the home working rather than online. Oh, Well! They generally ask me to research things for them-- which is time consuming, frequently. Of course I do get article ideas out of it, frequently, but that's not the point. I just can't seem to get any of them to understand that we won't get any savings, at this point, unless we all work equally-- and being volunteered like this reduces my work capacity, sometimes significantly, as with the current unrest here and abroad. Since the other half and I have effectively NOTHING now-- the business is closing 31 December-- saving is important. But it's also important to keep everyone informed, and since I have internet and they don't, this has become my "second job". It annoys me sometimes, but it's a tough call as to what to do about it, since they are also working as hard as possible, to get as much done in this last month or so of regular business operations and get bills paid ahead, and other stuff. But it would be nice to be ASKED-- by email from Ryan's cell phone, or on the phone-- if I have TIME. MEN.

Many times looking back at things, there are times I know I was volunteered to help with someone and sometimes not being told til almost the last minute. The big thing now is due to having the issues with my leg, etc. having people afraid to ask me to help out with something, or those that forget and want me to help out with things that would require hrs. of standing as well. But when you are volunteered and it is something you know you can help with and get it done on time it makes for a Great feeling for sure.

My damn ex was forever volunteering me for stuff, without even asking me, that is what really angered me, he would offer my car to their friends, i.e. I had to do the chauffering, driving people I didn't even know. Then I got volunteered me to work at the animal centre, as much as I love animals I had 4 cats at home I didn't want to spend my time looking after more for free and doing all the dirty work. The list goes on. It was like I didn't have a voice, and yet my partner would get angry if I took umbrage and refused to be the gopher.

I started to say at my job I was often volunteered for things but it has happened at many of my jobs. At the telephone company my friend, Vicki, was forever delegating people to do things. And at the answering service I was ask by my boss to write a piece in the company newsletter about an upcoming activity. A friend I worked with asked me to help him write a paper he had to write in college. I helped him write it and typed it up for him. He got an A. And my last job I was asked to help on different committees. One my closest friend got me into. I didn't want to do it, was in the throws of trouble at home, but I did and it went okay. It is never as bad as you think it is going to be.

Yes! I think I was in 2nd year high school. The level coordinator were looking for candidates for the Ms. United Nation's Day that time. Some were really into such pageants and unfortunately, I am not the type who would be ramping in front of a lot of people. There were several Latin American countries that were not filled up that time. Without my knowledge, one of my close friends signed in my name coz she was part of the pageant and wanted somebody close to hr to join her. And so, I became the representative of one of the countries. I was hesitant to join, but, I couldn't just back out.

I tended to volunteer myself for more than I really wanted to do. Oh, yeah, now I remember, I was volunteered to make a bunch of costumes for a play, by a friend who was directing it, and it was beyond what I had time and energy for. She ended up doing it herself because it just did not fit with my life at that time.

oh that is quite common... I mean this sure happens a lot of tiems, when we have trainings, or presentation some of my officemates or groupmates would volunteer me!! ha ha oh well i think that is sure okay but i was just not comfortable to do some things i am not okay with.

The closest to this I have ever experienced was when my mom told me I'm going to Boston with the orchestra in highschool. Well, it didn't end well. I frightened her by rebelling during the trip! There was no more pushing me into what I didn't want anymore. To this day I am not sorry I did what I did! so in a nutshell No one volunteers me.

I used to be volunteered all the time, but I don't so much anymore.

Hi jen, my daughters classmate always does ask me to be with them when they have program activities in school like dancing. Just like last October they join a dance competition with so much to do with their costumes and they ask me to do their hair and some body painting. They also expecting me to be their photograper to take them pictures and videos while dancing. It is very delighted that they always ask me instead of their mom.

Happy Thanksgiving, Jen. My sons especially my youngest were always good at volunteering me for something. It usually had something to do w/cooking,lol.He was real good about inviting his friends. He'd come in & say so & so has nowhere to go on a holiday & i'd say well tell him to come over here & he'd say i already have.

my kids used to volunteer me to make cookies for school functions and sometimes just to the kids in the neighborhood to come by and get me to make them. thats been 30yrs ago. i did a lot of bakeing haveing 4 kids at the time, had a great recipe for peanutbutter cookies. dont know what happened to it and cant seem to do it right any more but i think i enjoyed it anyway hope you had a wonderful thanksgiving with your new little Jen.

Yes, it happens every time we have this cluster performance at work. They will volunteer me without even asking first. And then I would learn I have to because no one would. I will accept and most of the time I enjoy and it ends me thanking them.

Oh yes, I can definitley relate to this! I have 4 daughters and they have all done their share of volunteering me to do all sorts of stuff over the years. Everything from sewing projects to babysitting and giving rides etc etc. A few times I had to back out of these unauthorized volunteer jobs. Like the time my oldest daughter volunteered me to write out invitations to some benefit dinner, claiming that I was good with caligraphy! I am not. Years ago, I did have a caligraphy set and I played around with it and got "ok" with it. But that was years ago and I no longer had the pens. And I really had to put my foot down when one of my daughters felt it was a good idea to offer her friends a place to stay every time they got "kicked out" of their parent's home. If they were not welcome to stay at the parent's then there was usually a good reason for it.

Mine isn't as interesting as yours. I was baking for the Farmers' Market and my husband was talking about my cooking and the next thing I know, I'm baking between bake dates. But that was OK. He brought the food to work and the guys paid him.

A friend volunteered me to tutor someone. I was not happy about that. No,I didn't do it.

I have often been volumteered by someone else to do something. It would be nice to be asked first before my services are promised all around.

Bounced right out to the car saying... When I was just starting out in my career, I sort of developed a reputation for a 'go-getter'. Since we worked in teams back then, we'd have regular team building events which the company paid for at expensive resorts. I remember one of the Directors of the company kept volunteering me as in projects and activities because she heard about my 'rep'.

I once volunteered to help with a group of older people who met once a week to listen to speakers or just to socialise. At the first meeting I went to the woman who was in charge and had encouraged me to join her told everyone that she was resigning and I was taking over! It was a shock but with help from the minister (it was a church led meeting) I did take the responsibility and I actually loved doing it. I know that volunteering can become a burden at times but generally speaking I think we get out more than we put in.