How do you know when you are in love?

Thanks for your response. Yes of course I want to know if he loves me too and I know men love differently than women - something I have learned during my life. I have been hurt so many times and don't want that to happen again, so I am afraid to think I love someone. He does the nicest things for me even little things but I know he does them because he knows it makes me happy. And I do love the way he wants me to be happy, something nobody else has ever done for me.

thengreen4rhome do nice things back to further a nd enlarge this thing called love as it grows and deepens if you do good things f or him it will just make that love more perfect than ever do it from your heart though and not becasuse you thihk yuo have to.perfect love is so wonderful.

Hatley's right---even though it may sound a little like 'he scratches your back, so you scratch his.' It's the same logic as 'giving to my Fellowship (Church)': they provide a building (and heating/air-condition) where we meet to hear the Gospel (some of which they themselves bring, some from other Fellows), to discuss some Scripture & to share a meal or two (which they usually bring as well)---they scratch our back ... So it 'makes sense' to "donate" at least what we would pay for the food, comfort & teachings they give---so we scratch theirs ... Then they trust us more-&-more to give a fraction of our 'wages' to them, and are naturally aware that the more of our 'wages' we can save, the more we'll be able to give to them---so they scratch our back more, so we scratch theirs more, etc. Back to you and your man: the more you tie your lives together (by doing more-&-more things for each other), the more time you'll have available to spend with each other! That's the truth of love---it's just time you devote to each other.

do you trust him , respect him, liike to talk to him,forget what happen before and enjoy feeling love and talk with him as you have with us. if he loves you enough he will u nderstand and make you feel safe with him.

Thanks for your response. I understand what you are saying and I do have strong feelings for him and I know he does for me. But I still wonder if LOVE is real.

but if he trulyoves you and you say you love him it m akes things even better as two share love and it grows,you will see that you will not be hurt.talk to 'him about your fears as I think he will show you they are gro undless.trust,'respect and good communication are needed with deep love too.

Thanks for your response. I am just so afraid to be hurt. So I guess not knowing is my minds way of saying I am in love but just afraid I will be hurt again. And he is such a great guy I don't want to ruin what we have by saying I am in love with him.

no dont do that as he is not the ones that did hurt you,all men are not alike and do not think he will hurt you think he does love you and love him back too. hpe you have a wonderful life together.

Thanks for your response. My feelings and emotions are what scare me. Sometimes I can't wait to see him and other times I think I just need to cut him loose before I get hurt.

real love yo u will know it and I think you do but yo u are scared settle gown and give him your heart as he gives you his you will find that love is real as I found as you grow older together you will find it deepens and become more wonderful yet.i had a long lovely marriage and am a widow now for many year and still miss him and still love him.

Thanks for your response. I understand you saying you don't believe in love and I wonder sometimes if I truly believe in it. I know I have strong feelings toward him but love is supposed to be forever, so I am just not sure.

Thanks for your response. I am so happy knowing that I have this wonderful man. He calls me in the middle of the day just to say hi when he has a break from work. He does nice things that wouldn't mean much to others but mean something to me because they are just little silly things.

Thanks for your response. I know I only want him by my side. I really do trust him like I have never trusted anyone (I am not a trusting person). I could live without him but I sure wouldn't like it.

Thanks for the response. I feel you are correct about being secure with someone and feeling they are perfect for you. I have just been hurt so many times before I don't want that to happen again.

Thanks for your response. I get what you are saying. I think some of my recent relationships were based on lust because I felt I just couldn't be without the person and didn't trust them when we were apart. I trust this man and know he is thinking about me when we are apart and I think about him, but I just love to sit and talk to him and be near him, not just jump his bones.

Thanks for your response. That is so true. If it were not for this man's personality I am not sure I would have ever looked twice at him. Everyone likes him. That alone means something to me.

Thanks for your response. I know love is risky for sure. I don't want to rush it, we've been together less than a year, about 10 months. So I will see how things go.