The watcher
By AkamaruKei
@AkamaruKei (5219)
Malaysia
November 25, 2012 9:29pm CST
I have a grandma which like to watch what my family do and listen what we talking. She always act busy in the dining room if we family talking there and follow us everywhere we go. Sometime when i watch television at midnight in living room she can wake up after 2 hour sleeping because she want to watch what activity we do. But when some people also watch what she do she say that person always watch her. I cannot do my activity if someone always watch me. If she want to watch she can watch but do not comment anything about what i do. I not hate her just i feel not comfortable with this situation.
11 responses
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 12
Yes, some elderly people are like that. Perhaps they are concerned.
I agree with you as long as they do not comment and criticise, or
interfere with what we do. Everybody do not like to be watched. A
friend of mine said that even the CCTV is annoying for her, she
felt that there is intruders to her privacy!
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 12
Yeah when she watch me i feel like cctv camera always watch what i do. I cannot do and finish my work if people watch me and comment about what i do.
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@ethnicbilly (160)
• Indonesia
26 Nov 12
I am really curious that your grandma pay a lot of attention to your activity. You should pay attention back to your grandma of course with a good manner. Every body don't like if we gave them too much attention. Maybe you should give her a little attention that she likes and then you can ask her about what was she did to you.
@ethnicbilly (160)
• Indonesia
26 Nov 12
That's sounds good:) don't be angry. I mean that you have a power now, four person (you, your sister, mum, and dad) against one (grandma). You have the power to think collectively how to solve the problem. You can make a plan, not merely discuss thing that you don't like from your grandma, but the answer to resolve the problem.
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 12
We dont want to hurt older person heart that why we not tell to her.
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 12
I dont know if she really pay attention or she want report what we do to someone especially my mum. Not only me feel uncomfortable with that situation my dad, my mum and my sister also feel like that especially my dad he always report to us about my grandma like to watch him.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Do you communicate with her? I guess she's following all of you around for you to involve her in your discussion. Maybe you don't give her attention that's why she's reaching out to you. Maybe it would be better if you'll ignore her watching you and just try to talk to her. Let her know that you know she's there. Talk to her for awhile. If she follows you again maybe she's acting like a child now.With her age she's not getting any younger. My grandma passed away 41 days ago. You're lucky you still have her.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Watching over someone won't hurt them. Let her watch you. Maybe she's enjoying seeing you. She wants to remember god memories maybe. I hope you will let her enjoy her last few years with her. My grandma passed away at the age of 87. The last time I saw her was two years ago. I regret that I haven't visited her from then. Just treasure your grandma. Give her some attention and show your love to her. :)
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 12
I dont know if she have that hobby when she is younger but from what we see she started watching people in age 60 years above. We just ignore her if she watch because we dont want to hurt older people heart.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
Some grandmas are really a bit nosy. And ironically, they wouldn't want anybody meddling with her own affairs. They are old and someyimes a handful. You just need to be patient.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
26 Nov 12
she's cute but really that's very uncomfortable. Not to offend you but does your grandma has still good memory? Maybe she is just curious. Is she new in the house? This is cute. I could imagine her following you and looking at whatever you do.
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 12
She still healthy. Right now she is 75 years old. I dont know if she have good memory but when we send information to her she look not understand. She not new in my house she always live at my parents house and like to watching television as hobby. Sometime she visit her other son at village but she almost live at my parent house.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
27 Nov 12
Ohh.. but she is still talking, you know telling stories about the past and all. Maybe she is just curious.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
5 Dec 12
If you don't want your grandma around, there are two things you can do. One, move her out. Two, you move out. Perhaps, you can suggest that your Grandma write down or record her life story. Take an interest in her. She probably just wants to stay involved in her family. So, find a way that she can be involved and kept busy so that she isn't just following her family around. Buy her a tape recorder, and ask her questions about her life. You will probably learn a lot from her. You will learn wisdom and patience. Otherwise, make sure she goes to a senior citizen center and has her own life to live.
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 12
I dont want to do that to my grandma. It look like i hate my grandma if i do what you suggest. I dont want to put my grandma in senior citizen center.
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 12
My mother in law stays with me, I am all right with that.
The only thing that I felt annoying is whenever I am in the
kitchen doing something like washing my cup or dishes, she will
asked me "What are you doing?" Obviously I am just washing the
cup or plates. She will look at how I work and pass remarks like
I use too much dish washing liquid etc. She keep asking that every
time she sees me in the kitchen ....
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 12
Ohh your situation like that. If my sister in kitchen my grandma also in kitchen and cook to. That make my sister cannot cook. If nobody in the kitchen she will watch television. I dont know what in mind some older people.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
27 Nov 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about your granny. Some elder persons are in this sort, they are interested in spreading rumors and watching other persons activities in their old age, as they don't have any other work. On the other hand some elders are always good, they know about their responsibilities and guide youngsters in a good way. Don't care about your granny, it is really hard to change this kind of persons activities and mentalities, do your work without bothering about her
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 12
Yeah what you say is true. Some older people have a habit like to watch people activity some guide youngster to be good person. I not care if she want to watch as long she not comment or disturb me.
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 12
I dont know what in her mind. Maybe she is bored or dont know what to do that why her hobby like to watch people.
@nguyenloan (184)
• Vietnam
26 Nov 12
If someone watch what activity I do, I will feel not comfortable. I hate it. So I don't watch anyone when they do their activity.
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 12
Yeah you are right! I never watch other people what they do. What we feel if other people also watch what we do.
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 12
Maybe she lonely after my grandpa past away in year 1995. I dont know.
