Have you ever felt tired of being nice?

I agree with you. And like you mentioned all the characteristics a person can have and cause you to not want to be nice to them. My husband daily does things that irk me and I'm tired of being nice to him. It's like since he is considered the head of the family I should respect him and basically do what he says. I'm starting to lose all regard for that with him. He isn't trying to do anything to help me or to make my life easier so why should I treat him like he's royalty. He's always concerned about himself and what he wants. He never asks me what I would like to do but instead he goes out and does what he wants whenever he wants and I have to stay home with our daughter.

I guess we just have to pray real hard that we may be able to overcome this phase in our lives. We should not lose hope, but of course, we should be prepared for the worse. Just hang on a little longer....

Yeah I completely understand what you mean. We have a daughter together. And I don't want her to suffer with divorced parents but honestly we are both at our last straw. I do not think we will be able to make it past September of next year. That is when our lease of our new place is up. I understand what you mean about not wanting to burden your parents. Right now I'm striving to save any extra income I have so that I will only have to rely on myself. I know that I do not want to stay in this relationship but I also don't want to be in a position where I have to depend on others. That would be real stressful on everyone involved. I want to be able to take care of myself and my daughter. I just feel plan tired of being the only one doing all the work. I don't feel that it is fair.

Thanks! That really does help me a lot. I feel like I need to print your comment and hang it on my wall for those days when things get really bad. I will strive to remember what you said. And to start looking for ways to make me happy. I do need to do things for myself. I plan to save and save. I'm hoping that when this lease is up I will be able to make that fresh start for myself. I'm tired of all that he puts me through. I'm just really frustrated about our whole situation. I hope that my financial situation will improve. I really do need it too. That is one big area that would help me a great deal.

I hope that in time your situation will improve. It is very hard to find a job. I have been trying to find a full time job actively for about three months now. I hope that you will be able to start working on the things that you need too. My life as well is falling apart around me but I have to hang in there and like you said take care of myself. You strive to do the same and I want the best for you as well.

I'm glad I was able to help you. I can't really help myself much now but I feel better for having helped you. And I definitely know what you mean about finances. I can't find a job and I'm doing everything I can - almost - to get money. But there are things I need to do that I'm not. Procrastination. I hope you make it Dominique, I really do. Be good to yourself. I thought I was being good to myself but in retrospect I wasn't paying attention to my life. I was busy having fun. By the time I took a look at my life it was falling apart around me. Again, good luck!

I agree with you. Right now I'm just trying to work hard to take care of my daughter and save money. I'm tired of everything else. I hope though that I will be able to get my focus back on track. I'm tired of focusing solely on my husband and what he wants to do.It's time that this changes.

Sorry to hear that others treat you badly. I agree the things that you mentioned aren't hard to do. I think that people just stop caring about doing those things. They are so focused on what they need to do and how they should get it done that they stop thinking of others. It is sad to see this happen more and more. Thank you for your kind thoughts. I appreciate it. I hope that things improve as well. I'm just getting tired of it all. I'm though starting to do the things I enjoy doing. I had stop doing those things for along time now because my husband would always complain. It's ok for him to do what he wants, when he wants to but when I do things it's always it cost to much gas, or something to where I can't do it. But I'm done will all that right now. I will do the things I like again.

Yeah it is good to help others when we have the ability to. There are always individuals who have worse situations than we do. We should be nice and show a genuine interest in such individuals. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Thanks for your help. I appreciate your help. I agree with you I've tried my best and feel that if things are going to change he is the one who should be striving to make those changes. I'm really tired from all of the stress and frustration over these last few years. He is starting to make me out to be the bad person in front of others when in reality I know who and what he is like. I'm just too overwhelmed with it all. I'm trying to find a full time job because I really do need one. He doesn't care to do anything to help me out or to support me in my goals. It's always about him and what he wants to do. He just bought a small business account. Now that is a good thing but he knows that I would like to start going to college. But instead all he wants to do is keep investing money into his business. He is just a very selfish person.

OOPS..sent too soon...Dominique, if your friends are annoying you with suggestions you don't want, I don't think you are under any obligation to spend time with them..You do have to take care of yourselves first...that is the right thing to do too..

Sorry to hear that your family does. That can be tiresome. I have felt that way previously with regard to my mother. It always seems as if she is the one often times asking me for money even though I don't have any. If I don't have it then she gets upset with me as if I'm the parent and I should be helping her all the time. I often wonder if she mistakes my employment for a nurse or something. Thanks. I continue to take things one day at a time. Sometimes that is all we really can do. So I guess i'm hanging in there if i look at things that way.

Thanks! I really appreciate your thoughts. Unfortunately people do take advantage of being nice. My husband has been able to get away with doing this for some time now. I will continue to be myself and strive to reach the goals that I have for myself. I know that I have a very busy schedule and I resent that about my husband because he doesn't help me out in any way. But he is able to go and go as he pleases. He has clean clothes, meals prepared for him, house in order, etc etc but he lives his life as if I'm his mother and not his wife. He expects me to do everything but he doesn't try to help me out in any regard. I hope that a full time for me will come along.

Thanks for your help! I appreciate everyone's thoughts and their personal experiences. I'm really tired of fixing things. My husband doesn't want to do anything. And it has been a couple of years of me trying to make this work. And now I have reached a point where I'm too tired to keep trying.

I really do feel that I need some rest and not all this stress. My stress level is way overloaded. I will probably start to have problems with my blood pressure sooner than I think. I'm trying to take things easy but it is very hard. There are so many things that I have to get done. I have the responsibility of raising my daughter, taking care of the house, and working part time. I also know that I really need to find a full time job. I need to start saving more for whatever will happen to our relation as well as to plan to go to college. There are so many things on my plate that I at times can't think straight. I just know I'm tired of all the stress in my marriage and I just want that to be over and done with. I would love to be able to just move on with my life. I want to take care of myself and my daughter. I don't want to deal with my husband anymore. And I'm quit frankly tired of talking with people who are close to us about it because they aren't in my shoes and they think that I should just be "submissive" to everything he says and does.

It is normal for us to want others to see the best about us. No one really likes to show their flaws. Yeah it is important for us to make a decision. And like you said we want to do our best to stick to it. We will be happy that we did.