Such like this, don't know why!

Yes that's right. anger, frustrations and loneliness are normal feelings and these feelings are abruptly expressed brought about the situation. That's why they always say don't decide or speak if you are angry or depressed because in your mind these emotions are on top the reasoning and logic feelings are covered. So settle down and take a deep breath and you will finally get the right answer and best decision ever. Good for you

Dear Mhaixcs , Its is a very good quality that you have there are not much people out there who are honest and understanding you should not worry about this it is good and you know what they say goodness has a price so maybe this is your Price , Those people who do bad with you do even better with them if you want them to realise that they have done something wrong other wise you can just ignore them :) Happy Mylotting .

Hi friend, it is really hard to understand other people, we must have a good insight to understand all our friends, people will change based on the situation. Don't be sensitive, be casual and take every thing normal to enjoy your life

Hi mhaiXC'S! It's really hard to please people because we have different attitudes.But we have to learn to be flexible so that we can easily adapt any kinds of people.We don't have to change ourselves to please others.Let them realize your worth .In the end its not between you and them but its between God and You.Cheers.

I am a very understanding person also and if anyone ever needs anything then they can come to me. I will usually do anything for anyone if they need it or ask me? You sound like you are a really good person and you sound like you are a really good friend to people that are your friends. Have you ever had the situation where you had friends who took advantage of you and you still would bend over backwards for them?

Thats trial of life

Believe me, I know exactly what you are going through and how it feels. I have been taken advantage of many times because of my kindness and my being too understanding to people around me. My girlfriend and good friends would even scold me for being such a guy. I am one who almost cannot say no to any request, as long as I see that I can do it. At times I take the toll for the things I do for others and it has dragged me down a lot. I believe that it also has to do with the way we see things. For example, for me, I choose to do good even if I'm being treated differently because I believe that it is what defines a person, his reaction towards incidents directly or indirectly related to him/her. I cannot tell you to live life differently, just this, as long as you drag no person down and live with goodwill respect, you are doing just fine by me.

I consider myself to be understanding also, I always try to see things from others points of view and more times than enough, like you, I've been made a fool or taken advantage of for this. I was always the person everyone talked to and I would listen, or they would vent and tell me everything that was going on with them. Then when I would have a problem or want to talk, people didn't have time to listen to me or tell me it was nothing. At one point, I stopped listening to everyone else's problems and started taking care of my own. You will get to the point where you can be understanding without having to listen to people. Just watch, you don't want to end up being someone else's whipping post.

There's nothing wrong with being very understanding, but sometimes we need to be on our toes, being careful when dealing with people so that we can avoid being tricked or cheated or even used. But I also believe that no matter how vigilant we are, there's always a possibility of meeting someone who will 'fool' us. And I agree with you that if a person has deceived us, let's just learn from what happened, try to avoid it from happening again, and if we could, try to understand why the person did it. Getting even is only stooping down to their level.

Hi mhXCs, when i work as a frontline person we were force are understand people why they behave such way so we could give the best service to them. After many years i understand people why they behave such way, one word, "Attention". So now i put my priority first because everyone have 24hrs a day and everyone have their own responsibility

Being too understanding can lead to heartaches, because not all people are understanding. I've been facing issues of this matter lately and I can't see why all people aren't understanding as I am. It's as if they hurt my feelings but don't have a clue, so I'm not stooping to their level either. For the menatime I'm avoiding them which they don't know because they don't come see/talk to me anyway. When they do they will blame me for not keeping in touch. Hello, it works both ways!

Thanks for opening this topic. For me, being understanding takes a lot of patience. I wont consider myself understanding or i wont think it that way. I knew i was understanding because of the comments of others. But the point here is, just be yourself. You don't need to be understanding all of the time, because a lot of people might take advantage of that trait of yours. Place a thin line between being understanding and being Critical.

You absolutely having no problems. All you have is a small under-current of expectations that others should recognize your presence/help/service and praise you. Just keep one thing in mind... It is always the small things that you do for others, that takes up a big place in their heart. Not many people know how to appreciate or compliment, but slowly, they will learn to understand that they are more comfortable with you and are a bit incomplete in your absence.. People coming again and again to you itself is an indication that they are dependent on you either monitorily or emotionally.. Be happy..because you have every reason TO BE.

we meet a lot of things everyday. some may make you sad, mad or depressed. But if you look from other aspect, things may be different. From your words, I can see that you are an understanding woman.