If your partner cheated on you, would you take them back?

There are a lot of reasons why you should not take someone who cheated on you. I have seen and experienced this myself. On many occasions, this could only prove or give the party that was cheated on a problem, more pain and hurts as they or she/he struggle to understand and forgive that person who cheated. The thing is, once a person you trust cheated on you and has put you on a very difficult situation... When a person cheats on you, as per what i have experienced, i could never, or i have never seen the person as he was, before the deceit and the trickery and the lies. everything the person does is subject to my scrutiny, and intentions are questioned. The thing is that we only have to look in their eye and know they are up to more lies and lies. the way we see them, is no longer the same.

i have that feeling too. u just loose the trust on him. in your case, u already married with him. personally i don't how to make u feel good about this. what happen to me is just we still not married that time. even i give him second chance, the feeling is not the same as before. i still have this feeling that telling me that he will do that again. look like u already have kids. maybe u just need to think of your kids good now

I think it depends a lot on the person who's cheating. Is he a serial cheat or was is just a one-time thing in his moment of weakness? If he's a serial cheat and a player, I would definitely leave him but if it's just a one-time thing done in a moment of weakness, then I will forgive him and take him back. Some psychologists believe that cheating is good for a marriage because it's like a wake up call. You may be taking your partner for granted and he feels that he needs to get your attention back and so he cheats. Cheating also happens in good marriages. But then the only person who can decide whether to forgive is you. If you decide to forgive then you should also try not to remember the cheating and start everything over anew. There's nothing you can do to change the past. What's important is what you want to happen in the future. If you still want a future with your husband then you must forget the past. That is true forgiveness.

Yes, it will be very hard to trust someone we love so much who cheated on us. I know that it is still possible but I think that it will take time and so much effort to achieve. If my partner cheated on me, meaning he really had a relationship with other woman, I will forgive him in time but will never take him back. I am very particular with this before I entered into a relationship.

I agree. I could never see him as the same person, if he cheated on me. I would lose the trust that I had, because he was disrespecting me, he was selfish, he didn't think of my feelings... and I couldn't forgive that.

no. if he had done it once he will probably do it again. guard your heart, you should be wise enough not to let anyone hurt you twice. you deserve someone better. someone who can give you love and respect the way you really deserve.

I do not think that I could trust him again if he cheated on me. Once a cheater always a cheater is my old saying. He would have to mature and grow up alot if he cheated on me once and wanted to get back together. There would have to be proof of his maturity too. Still even if that happened I don't know if I could trust him in certain sitations. Sounds bad but true.

I guess it all depends but seems to me that if a man really loves you he wouldn't cheat on you. And if the woman doesn't really love her man and isn't fulfilling certain needs then I think the man might cheat. I don't really know. But in this day and age it's scary thinking your husband could cheat without you knowing it and then you could catch something you don't want.

If I truly loved my oartner I would take them meback even if i caught them cheating, If there is a a chance for the relationshio then I owe this person a a second chance. we all deserve at least that/

My first husband did.. we tried it for years, 3 times again. In the end I had it. An old fox his fur may get grey but his habits will stay (dutch saying). My ex boyfriend did the same. I kicked him out as I was pregnant of my youngest. That is 7 years ago. Now suddenly he (dumped by family, friends, etc) he wants to be with me and I am the greatest blah blah.. No thanks EX = EXIT he will never change and I build a new life.

once the trust is broken it would never be the same as before. most people would do the same thing like you do. it's also for the own good of your child or for you.

Hi friend, if we did the same mistake of betraying them then there is no difference between then and us, so we must always be loyal to our spouse, as well as we will lose our trust if we come to know that they cheated us. It is really hard to forget them if we are in real and sincere love, so we may give second chance to them, but this ,kind of persons are untrustworthy

I don't exactly know the answer of this question. It's quite difficult, but this time my heart says yes depends upon the situation. I would take him back if he cheated me and the girl he was with is not related to me. I would take him back if he'll do the repentance, meaning he will never do it again, but if he can't give me an assurance of that then it's better for us to be separated. Here in our country, we don't have a divorce so I think I would make myself ready to live a life with alone but of course not lonely. I have my family, my brothers,sisters,nephews,nieces and mom. It's really hard to mend a broken trust but if both are trying specially the one who broke it: it can be mended again!

I could never take back a man who cheated on me. The trust is all gone and it would be very hard to regain. The trust issues would just make the relationship a roller coaster ride to hell. I don't think I could ever trust him again. And because of that, every single petty fight would erupt and would bring back to things he has done. I applaud you for trying to save the relatioship, I don't think I could be as strong as you.

I think, could give him another chance, but the trust will never be the same. I mean, once tainted, scorn for life.

I would not take him back, no. The trust would be gone and there would be no getting it back. Once trust is lost there is no marriage anymore. There would be no point in trying to fix things. There would forever be thoughts in the back of my mind of what if he is doing it again?

For me, having partner in life not just about love but also about trust. So even I still love my partner, I will not give her second chance if she betrayed me ......

In most cases, it is very really very difficult to regain what was once lost, like trust and respect. Once the heart breaks, scars will always be left which will never be erased. I have gone through the same experience as you. My spouse cheated on me twice, and in both instances I forgave him and tried to make everything work. However, no matter how we tried, it ended into a separation, not divorce because we don't have that in my country. It used to hurt but I have gone over it. He is trying to win me back but, no thanks. It's over and done with.

no, no , no...... never ever. I have always believed there was no excuse for cheating.

I would like to think that I would --- but in all honesty, it would be awfully hard to take somebody back after that. I applaud you for trying. I don't know how I could ever trust that person again.