In casual dating which turns you more: Physical Appearance? or Attitude?
@heaytheblogger (2876)
Philippines
November 29, 2012 12:06am CST
Dating is in a way a good casual practice of meeting new people, it’s always a good way to socialize with other people’s culture, beliefs, and customs.
When dating and meeting a stranger totally first impressions come along with us most especially that we are meeting a person whom is first a stranger to us. While on the hunt of dating, we always get the ding to look and feel good. We dress up in the best and presentable way so that we can build good lasting impression to the person we are dating.
Although we dare to wear outfits that are presentable, we always keep in mind to put on proper etiquette such as knowing basic table manners, talking basic small decent conversations, sharing interests and etc. With it we can somehow make our date attracted to us, giving the impression that he or she turns more on your or not.
So that question is that when you go out on a date, which characteristic turns you on? Would it be physical appearance? Or the attitude? In my case, I go for both because it goes to show that the person you are dating far is way both attractive physically and emotionally.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
You could be easily swept off your feet with a very attractive person, but still I would go with the personality. I would like to feel the "connection" and not be magnetized just by the looks.
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@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Thanks for your reply. Yes, "connection" is much important 
regardless if the person you are dating is not the physically attractive but if that person has a kind heart then probably physical appearance will come second on your quest for that date.
regardless if the person you are dating is not the physically attractive but if that person has a kind heart then probably physical appearance will come second on your quest for that date.
@StLouisMetroTutoring (678)
• St. Peters, Missouri
29 Nov 12
Interesting question! Thanks for asking.
For me, it's changed over the years. When I was your age, it was almost purely physical. I look back now and think, "What WERE you thinking?!"
Now I try to become friends with anyone I date before actually dating. If it's online, we chat for several weeks, or longer, before meeting. If in-person, we tend to have at least one common interest - wherever we met. We talk a lot about this and get familiar with each others company without dating. When I finally do start dating someone, I'm so drawn to their personality that I then find them physically appealing as well, no matter what they look like.
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@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Thanks for you reply. I must say, people go over physical appearance however, it is also good that you should tag along good conversations as what you said, you can become good friends at the end of the day.
Have a great day! 
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@Shavkat (139937)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
In a relationship, a formal way to get to know each other is having a formal date to a restaurant. This is a traditional way, but for some it is not the same thing. Some people indulge to informal dating game, it is not my thing. But I prefer to have a date in an outdoor activities like hiking or skiing to some place. There is no inhibition to show the real you as a person.
@habibti320 (925)
• United States
30 Nov 12
Definitely attitude. Although really, I think that attitude can make or break a guy's appearance. If he has a good personality, I start to see him as being more attractive.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Thanks for your response, i agree attitude is also an important attribute when it comes to dating aside from the appearance because it can make or break the agenda.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
29 Nov 12
This depends of the type of dating. the word dating nowadays i quite scary. I used to say I have a date with a friend. and some thing it in other way around. Taken that this is just a normal dating as in. I would often enjoy a good conversation with a person who is gentleman and not too aggressive. I am usually shy and to overcome my shyness I talk a lot. LOL, yes it is quite odd to be talkative when shy. anyway, odd is odd. I like the guy whom who knows how to listen. and wants to share too, but wait for his turn to share. I mean I have dated a guy who took all the floor by himself. and that's a total turn off, me and my naughty thoughts... hmmm.. you are like that... "I ordered the most expensive meal. LOL" he did not ask another day of date again. So maybe I like the attitude and smell too. I like to smell the smell. LOL
@Cetz912 (65)
• Indonesia
17 Dec 12
I focused more on Attitude, Physical appearance tend to deceive our eyes :P
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
In some cases, yes looks and be deceiving...
thank for your response.
@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
You know people have come to dress the way they think. So, the way they look is they way they behave. Although this is not based on a statistical research I believe this things are true. And if I'm given a chance to choose with which attribute is important, I would choose Physical Appearance.
Why? Physical appearance is unchangeable. But Attitude does. So if you get someone who has got a good looking face but a bad attitude, you can spend time to help her change. But when this person has a good attitude but does not look well, you can never do something about it but stare at her face and say " I love you no matter what".
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Nov 12
First of all I would only date (make that appointment) with someone I would find attractive. What is attractive to me depends on the person but attitude surely is important to me. I can't stand people humilating other, bad table manners, unshaved, who do not take care of them and only talking about how great they are. I don't care about a fancy restaurant or high incomes but there are eitquettes I do find important. Once I saw someone I did chat with on his cam ... eating, chewing.. it was the most disgusting thing I ever saw. It also was the end of the chat-friendship.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Hello, thanks for sharing your views about the subject.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
29 Nov 12
I think it's both... but if I had to choose, I'd say attitude. I get attracted to a person because of an overall charisma, and I wouldn't be turned on by someone, for example, who seems conceited or bratty or just plain sour. And I'm attracted to fun or mysteriously calm or just plain nice people, and I can see whether someone is like this or that from the first minute of talking.
@prashsweet15 (91)
• India
29 Nov 12
I think it is 20 % appearence and 80 % of attitude .The date has to be a bit presentable togo ahead .Life has many ups and downs , we cannot judge a person by appearences alone .
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Very true, we really can't judge a person based on his/her appearance. it's how he/she carries himself/herself with the said agenda.
@Lovegreen (376)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
I would go for both also but it has to be natural. Putting the best foot forward can be so stressing that a person can become so unnatural in his movements.
A good date for me is someone who is just being himself, not trying to act or appear at one's best to try to make a good impression.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
This sounds interesting... yes, putting up yourself and just be real and natural can be an effective dating assumption.
Thanks for your response.
@swetify620 (302)
• Australia
29 Nov 12
both is important but if the person you are dating for if for you is not presentable its ok as long as she/he have a good attitude,why?it is because even how intelligent you are or how famous you are your attitude that you carry from now and then is the same,i mean you can't change it.while the physical appearance,you can change it by trying everyday how to do it in right way....hope it make sense,have a good day
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Thanks for your response.
We all have different views when it comes to dating.
We all have different views when it comes to dating.
@betty1989 (751)
• China
29 Nov 12
When I go out on a date, I will dress up myself. Appearance is the first thing we judge by the strangers and then comes behavior. Everyone wants tp leave a good impression on strangers, including me. At least now, I will dress up myself and go on a date. It is real me. I do not need to pretend to be what what. Besides attitude is also very important as this care about how you look on this date.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
We all have different preference on the subject, and at the end of the day, it's up to us on which we should decide to choose on such events. Thanks for your response.
@faradays (5)
• Kenya
5 Dec 12
i generally go for attitude, but this is through experience. An average looking gal with a great attitude beats all because i am generally more comfortable and less self-conscious with an average looking date and generally a great positive attitude moves things along
