what do you do with someone who does not even wash her own plate?
By Cutie18f
@Cutie18f (9551)
Philippines
December 1, 2012 5:25pm CST
The rule of washing your own plate after eating is very simple. Yet, there is someone in the house who breaks this rule all the time. Of course, I am not washing the dishes she used for her, so the dishes would pile up until there is nothing to use in the house. This is so unacceptable and so thoughtless and careless of this person. She'd been told over and over again to simply wash her own plate but she still insists in doing it her way, and that is, to wash only when she has nothing more to use. Isn't this ridiculous? I have lost all feelings of kindness and pity for this person because of this. She simply is not helping me nor herself. I am at my wit's end now. What do you do with such a person living in your house and who does not do anything to help with anything?
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17 responses
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
1 Dec 12
What does she expect, everyone to wait on her, to wash her up items for her? She is damn lazy, and that's a nasty habit, it's not fair to you or the others. Some people can be so damn lazy. My ex had lazyitus and would leave the washing up for me to do, or throw their clothes all over the place for me to pick up, it was worse than living with a house full of orang-u-tans. I got sick of moaning at my ex, and I hated seeing my home in a mess all the time. It was just another nail in the coffin and in the end I walked out. Could you not complain to the person who owns the house if that is possible? She needs to do her share end of.
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
I can't. She has nowhere else to stay. She still can't support herself and with this kind of attitude I don't think there is anyone else who would be willing to take her in. I am the only one who is giving her this chance but she is not being grateful and being good in return.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Dec 12
sounds like my sister... Lazy, lazy. I would never let them eat in my home again.
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
1 Dec 12
Ok, I have an idea. Tell her if she is not going to wash her dishes after eating everyday, to take them into her bedroom and leave them there because you don't want to look at them sitting in the sink. I bet she'll do her dishes after a while of seeing them mess up her bedroom. At least they'll be out of your sight.
I think that's terrible of her to do and what I consider a slob. She is just expecting them to be done by you so she doesn't have to deal with it.
Or, you can do a trade off. Tell her you'll do her dishes every day if she'll dust or vacuum everyday. What a dufus she is.
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
2 Dec 12
Then let her live with the rats. She knows you're not going to do anything about it and that's why she does it. Buy her some paper plates then and throw them out..I couldn't live like that with her. I would have to do something. Try the alternative method.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
For some people, that kind of attitude would lead to a fight. After all, you can only take so much. But if you could still at least try to help her realuze AGSIN that it is something that needs to be dlne, maybe you'd be lucky making her understand compleyely. Besides, it is unsanitary to be having piles of used dishes on the dink. It atracts cockroaches and posdibly molds. If she still refuses to do that simpke tjing, let her out of the house.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
She has to know what she must do if she wants to stay in your house. What could she be busy with that she could not wash the dishes right after she's done using it?
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 12
u have such the laziest maybe in your house.. hehe 
is she your friend or family?
i'm also know people almost like yours, but she never wait until there is nothing to use.
she just like to wash at night before she get sleep, but, it still look like so dirty in my sink with all the dirty plate.
but what can i do, at least she wash it at the end of the day compare to yours. hehe
is she your friend or family?
i'm also know people almost like yours, but she never wait until there is nothing to use.
she just like to wash at night before she get sleep, but, it still look like so dirty in my sink with all the dirty plate.
but what can i do, at least she wash it at the end of the day compare to yours. hehe @swetify620 (302)
• Australia
2 Dec 12
is not easy to cope that kind of situation,we have nothing to do with her/him i think thats her weakness and even how many times you told her she is ignoring you..
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 12
She should then buy them herself and dispose of them ina sanitary manner. You cannot take responsibility for the way she lives. she must face the consequences
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 12
hi cutie good qu estion , I would give her an ultimatum either wash your dishes after each meal or find another place to live. now my hubby hated to wash to wash dishes and when I came home from the hospital I found every olate glass dish pot and pan not washed all piled up.my hubby took one lot at my face and called my mom.bless hee she came and helped me to wash all that stuff and from then on it was washed after every meal . I did it but my mom stayed as I was feeling a bit fragile yet. You cannot kick out a good husband b ut you can kick out a relative or roomer if you must. lol
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
3 Dec 12
When I was a child, each member of the family had a different color cereal bowl. Maybe something like that would work for you, a different plate for each member of the household. Any extra plates should be sealed up with the label "for use of guests ONLY".
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 12
I really could not take this mess and slothfulness so I would be through with asking her again. I would issue an ultimatum and that is if this person cannot wash her plate thus placing all in the house at a health risk then she would have to leave. That would get on my very last nerve as I hate dirt. She is encouraging insect infestation and rats into your home by being so filthy in her living habits.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
2 Dec 12
I would say to mame that person eat off that same plate. sooner or later they will come to the conclusion that they should clean up their mess.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
29 Sep 15
I had this issue with my boyfriend at first when we moved together but now we've made a rule: he cooks I was the dishes and vice-versa
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 12
A few years back when I was still living with my mother and the other three male brothers, my mom divided chores to all of us so that we would be in charge of certain things in the house. Initially I was given the task to prepare meals for the family while my youngest brother is in charge of cleaning up after meals. My youngest brother was a really lazy person and soon he complaint with my mom and resulted both the meal preparation and the cleaning up to be my responsibility. I am not upset because I have to clean up after they have their meals back then, but I was upset when I asked my youngest brother about it, he lied that he had never complaint to my mom. So he was free from all chores since then.
@habibti320 (925)
• United States
2 Dec 12
I would make up a chart of chores and have a discussion about which tasks each person is responsible for. If a person doesn't complete their assigned tasks within a certain period of time, I'd charge a small fee, like a cleaning fee. If you are doing more than your share of work, why shouldn't you be compensated for it? Also, most people are cheap, so they would rather do their task than owe you money.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
5 Dec 12
Kick her out of the house. If she is 18 years old, then it is time for her to move on. If she refused to do dishes, then be sure you are not doing anything else for her. Do not drive her anywhere, do not buy her clothes, do not pay for her cell phone, do not do her laundry. There is more to this story than her just not washing her own plate. If you are able to move out, then that is a good suggestion.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
3 Dec 12
Don't let her take her dirty plate to her room. That would bring roaches, which would spread to the rest of the house.
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