I don't understand...

In my experience, positive thinking doesn't work for most people. This is because I think that we have to learn when we are doing the wrong things for ourselves - karma just won't allow it to work. As a therapist I have had many, many people telling me that they are positive but things still go wrong. I have noticed that if they reassess their positions and work out what is needed, then things can change. I think that there is a lesson in everything that we encounter in life and it is a matter of working it all out. Sometimes this is easier than at other times.. _Derek

You have to work to were you want to be. Sometimes very hard to get there! Plain and simple! If I had the ambition and positive thinking I would strive to go to the place I want to be! That is to be rich and not have to worry about money again as long as I live! I don't have that so I am staying where I am. On the poor side with my share of bills and never being able to take vacations and not have to worry about money! So I am lazy and negative. I will stay this way unless I win the lottery!

I know what you're saying, but, they say it's true. I guess it's kind of like taking a bad situation and looking at the good that's in it, if you know what I mean. It really sounds ridiculous sometimes but I'll try to give you an example. Say you lost your electricity because you couldn't pay your bill. Ok, now you're in the dark so you light some candles. You end up talking most of the night away because there is nothing else to do, but the conversation helps you get closer with your hubby and kids because you're actually all talking together. See what I mean? It's a matter of thinking positive about the bad situation you're in and making the most out of it. Didn't you just get a whole bunch of money from some lawsuit or something? Is it all gone already?

The thing is you look things negatively. You see yourself as broke, your husband must be thankful that your still together. Being positive will not bring you bring you places. It will just make you appreciate life even in hard times.

Yeah I understand what you mean. Perhaps because a person doesn't give up when they are positive they are more likely to reach their goals. Or that when we are positive we have a better outlook on our life. It can be really hard though especially when we don't see our life situation changing when we are positive or someone else in our life is that way.

I am poor and broke too, but I am positive. I don't know how to explain this in verbatim but this is it. I feel contentment and happiness with my work and the students and the people around me. I am not happy being broke and poor, that's why I work, but I don't see "money" is number 1 of my happiness, it is maybe 3 in my list. Number 1 in my list is myself, how I feel at the moment, am I happy with what I am doing, do I feel contentment to my achievement? Do I consider an act as achievement? How will I improve on myself more? so on... Am I contented to what I do now? and answer so far is YES, there are hustles and problems but they are solvable so far. number 2 People around me. These are my family, friends and my beau. hoare they now? are they okay and happy, too. if Yes, then I am okay with it again still "positive and happy thoughts" number 3 Money As long as I have coffee and toothpaste, I don't worry and I don't get frantic on anything. AT home when we have no coffee or toothpaste, I really annoyed. For me that's the bottom line of the word "poorness" I am overly poor already by that. because that's the least item a poor person would probably buy. (ONLY MY THOUGHT) Yes, is it not normal... I don't know if it normal or not. but yes even if I am broke and poor, if I am happy with myself, and people around me, Money is just superficial, money is just there. Money can be worked out if I have no money, I can work and earn it, for spending. It is replaceable. But relationship and self concept if I lose them, then everything is worthless. Negative...

But is he happy?

It's like a lifestyle choice, when you choose to see things positively, you don't let troubles bother you so much instead you go on living despite the condition you are in. So, in your case, while you might see yourself living in a sad state, your boyfriend on the other hand could just be thankful and glad because he has you and has many other reasons to continue living, and that gets you places, right?

It could always be worse! And being positive is good for the spirit! If you are down in the dumps all the time that's no fun either. Sounds to me like he's a good guy trying to make it in a world that is kinda messed up....you are a lucky girl.

What I've noticed is that even though my husband tends to be the one in our family with the power of positive thinking and I'm the one that is always worrying about everything. It really hasn't made a difference in his life in as much as where he is in comparison to where I am. However, where it has made a difference is that he is physically healthier than I am because he doesn't have the same level of stress related tension in his life as I have in my life.

For a battery to work you need a positive and a negative terminal. That way the electricity can flow and power your appliance. It's the same with you and your husband. He is positive and you are negative, thus the love can flow between you and power your future together. Sounds reasonable to me.

I'm glad you asked that! I've wondered the same thing and now I know the answer. But the way it's always been put to me is "Think positive and positive things will happen to you". Not in my world. Saying it like that makes it sound like something else. But after reading all the responses you got I understand it better now. Although, the only thing that will make me happy at this point is if I can just get enough money to survive. So I might as well stay negative because it's really not going to change anything actually.

"Positibe thinking gets you places or better situations" which needs your move. Just thinking wont change anything. If you are a meterialist, you will agree with me.

yes, positive thinking can not get you anywhere. But if you are positive to life, you will there is true beauty anywhere even you are broke and poor. Things will be better, you can smile and embrace life deeply if you hold a positive thinking to life. Does your husband seem more happier than you?

Hi, Positive thinking helps you to be better able to cope with the challenges and hard times when they happen. Thinking positively can make those times easier to handle, it doesn't necessarily change the situation. No one ever said life would be easy. We all have hard situations. My faith in the Lord, strong family and positive attitude gives me strength.

I guess this is the glass-half-empty, glass-half-full analogy. While both you and your husband are in the same situation, he sees it as a positive, while you look at it half empty. I think this misunderstanding of yours come from the pessimist in you (which is also in me). People around me keep saying, be positive. But how could I do it if all I see is the negativity.

Well, Positive thinking is really good and really effective and it will REALLY take you to places and good situations. But Positive think will not work alone. It will only work if you will partner it with ACTION. Actually, Positive thinking only removes fear of doing things that are new to you, its more of a shield than a miracle or a power to take you somewhere. Stay Positive and do it right whatever you are trying to do and eventually, you'll succeed. Happy MyLotting~!!

Women are great influence, remember? So even though your husband is trying to be positive at all times, the fact still remains that he is worrying about you not being okay. Supporting each other would be a big help for both of you. Have a nice day!

I think it's more your inner self, not so much the world around us. I mean my friend is very negative about her money issues, and deep down she blames everyone but herself, she is still in those situations, and just get in it worse (she doesnt think I am going to be out of this soon, or proactive about it), whereas I think although, I am struggling to feed myself, I can get out of it, and thinking of ways to make money to even help (such as MyLot).

the only way is just be positive in all things. and just trust your partner. try dat!!