Help me 2 make her realize my love 4 her..
By Raj
@rajendraingale (289)
Estado De Mexico, Mexico
December 2, 2012 6:16am CST
hello friends,
my name is raj and i am from india, presently working in Bahrain. Couple of days before when i was in india, I was in love with a girl where i was working ..after some days she came to know about it. But shez says we can just be frens, I was ready for that but now shez least bothered about replyin my msgs or even sayin hi on facebuk.
guys what should i do to make her realize that how much i care for her n how much i love her..
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9 responses
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
2 Dec 12
Maybe it is a message that you should give her sometime. and you know the more you push yourself too much, the more she will turn her back at you and the more you will be having a hard time telling her your pure intentions to her. Give her some spaces until .. she misses you and she will be the one to make the move.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
2 Dec 12
hello mavic,
Thanks for the suggetions,I tried doing that too. N i really dont push myself in doin some things which would bother her or would disturb her..its just that i send her a msg saying hi hw u doin n take care ,nothin more than that....I've wrote poems for her and she appreciates it ..I wish somethin might happen and she realizez that im the one whoz gonna make her feel special till the end of time..
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
2 Dec 12
such a romantic man. but give her time and space. Let her miss your his messages like hi, how are you, take care.. and let her miss your poems. If she does, then she's yours. If not, maybe you are not really meant for each other.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
3 Dec 12
hello mavic,
is there something which i should do for some days and after dat when i stop doin it , she would miss me too much..
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
We should not expect that every person that we feel strongly about can reciprocate the feelings we have for them. Some just really ends up as friends. But you can try to show her your sincerity and maybe she might think that you are really worth loving.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
I see.... so why not end her a card or a bouquet of flowers? Girls always love those.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
3 Dec 12
hi jenny,
ya dats true..but atleast we can try something so that she should feel special ..
can you suggest me somethin. And its difficult coz im in a different country and shez in india..so suggest me something which would make her feel special..pls..
you know jenny there are guys who would just prapose a girl for the sake of it..but i meant it and she knows it too, but the fact is she does not want to look at me in that perspective..
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
4 Dec 12
Well,
Sending a card is k..but wwhat if her parents get it..and flowers is also a good option..but im lookin for something which would be different and a bit suitable for the situation, I mean to say...sending her flowers with choclates..
jenny consider urself in this situation and then tell me what would you expect from a boy whoz crazy for you..?
wating..
@Tamosree1993 (1525)
• India
2 Dec 12
Hello rajendraingale,
I think at first you don't try it. At first you try to become a best friends. Then she realize it naturally.
Best of luck.
@Tamosree1993 (1525)
• India
5 Dec 12
Do you have a common friend with you and her?
If yes then he could help you.
Otherwise wait some times.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
5 Dec 12
As a matter of fact, We have a common friend and she knows about this..According to her she says that there's no point in telling her unless she realizes it..
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
3 Dec 12
hello fren,
I've tried n i keep tryin to be her best fren but tell me how would you feel when ur not even responded for you simple msgs like hello how you doin and normal things..doesn't it makes you feel left out and ignored..
It hurts a lot when someone does that..
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
4 Dec 12
Hi friend, welcome to mylot. Sad to hear about your situation, as you mentioned she is not interested with you, then there is no use in your love. Continuing your friendship is her own choice, as you mentioned she is not interested in replying your messages, so i think she is not interested in your friendship, as you already proposed her, so she thought that still you are in same thought, so trying to avoid you. Don't worry, concentrate with other things and divert your self. We don't get real love by forcing.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
4 Dec 12
I am also from India. Some Indian girls are very conservative and give importance to tradition, may be your lover is in this sort, she is interested in her parents guidance to select her life partner, so she is ignoring your love. Do you know any of her good friend? ask their help to know about her mind
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
4 Dec 12
hello fren,
thanks for the advice,and even i agree with you that u can't force someone to fall in love with you, but least we can do something which makes her feel that shez too special in someones life..
what would you suggest..what can i do .. and that to when shez in india n im in a different country...
waitin.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
4 Dec 12
First of all, you can't make someone fall in love with you. And someone can not make you fall in love with you. Being in love needs to be mutual, meaning BOTH of you need to be in love with each other. Otherwise, you are only hoping and not really in a relationship of love. So, be more patient with her. Take your time with her. Sounds like you only just met her. It takes time, sometimes months and even years to build a solid, trusted relationship that is truly build on true love. If she is really worth it, do caring things for her while you wait til you see if she really does fall in love with you.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
5 Dec 12
Thank you so much for the suggestion,
And i agree with you about love being mutual, And yes i've met her for a short span of time, but in that much time i'ws just admiring her a lot, came to know how she is and every thing.
And yes it does takes some time.. so im just wondering what else should i do to in general to make her realize that i care for her and she's special for me.
Being in a different country, it makes me difficult to decide what to do..
What would you expect from a guy if you consider yourself in her situation..?
@Jals14 (42)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
Try befriending her first. It would make her realize how much you are interested in her not just merely as a girlfriend, but a friend whom you'd always be there for.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
15 Dec 12
hi jals,
im trying the same..just trying to be casual fren first..but the thing is that when she doesn't respond , i feel like im disturbing or bothering her..initially i use to say hi hello to her every day on facebuk as im in a diff country now, and she neva use to repond to that..but now as u see most of suggestion given says that u should give her some space..and i did that..m just waiting that she misses my hello hi's and one fine day she greets me first..atleast it would be a nice start for a conversation...I always ask her to take care of herself..shez the cutest barbie doll i've ever met in my life..so i make sure to keep her in my prayers so that she should be smiling always..
@al1979ex (125)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
you can make her realize how much you care and love her by going back. you know how hard it is for her to love you back if you're away? even though the maybe she likes you too, she could not commit because she knows you will not be there for her.
give her time.. but still try to send her messages not obliging her to answer, still show that you care. good luck man..
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
4 Dec 12
Thanks fren,
I dont mind if shez not replyin for my msgs..at times i consider she being busy with some other stuffs..but then i feel that she must be thinkin about me later sometime so atleast that time she can reply for my msgs..
And to be honest, i wont be able to go back just to show her how much i love her, coz my job is also important buddy..and even if im not goin to be over there, doesn't mean my love would be less and i would be less careful..
now im thinkin of sendin her the sketch which i made for her..
what do you think..?
@artemeis (4194)
• China
2 Dec 12
Like any relationship, it all starts with a casual friendship where one gets to know one another better before making a decision to where they should head with each other.
I don't think there's anything wrong with her hesitations and I would be patient with no high false expectations. So like a salesman trying to sell his wares, you will need to try convincing her with your ingenuity and sincerity that you are the best choice. And like a salesman, you will need to move on if she's unwilling to buy.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
3 Dec 12
hi fren,
I agree therez anythin wrong with what shez doin..but the only thing i expect is that shouldn't we try to know each other..understand each other our likes and dislikes..and then we can think about it..but it doesn't help..coz she just pretends to be fren i guess....
@Pen_Pal777 (245)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
relax, give her more space,sometimes girls find it annoying if we men always stalk them or tell them or always show them what we feel especially if love is not a priority for them at this point in time, she might need a little privacy man...just keep your distance..she might be into something and she does't want to be disturbed. and posting comments like "HI" or "HELLO", sometimes wouldn't help either.because the more you try to show her and make your advances the more she will turn away from you. she already said you can just be friends, that's nice, everything starts from there. just focus on your job, be a gentleman in all your ways, always try to look good and presentable, be friendly to everyone, and show her how good an employee you are and respectful of others rights, and who knows she might take notice of it and she might change her mind about you just being friends. you must treasure your friendship, because for now it the only way that can bring you close to her. so relax. take your time, keep your distance, but keep her always on your sight as it might give you the good opportunity to be in good terms with her again.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
4 Dec 12
Thnks buddy,
Most of my frens suggested me the same..and now i've started following their advice by keepin the distance..but im scared that she mite or she mite not think about me when im keepin the distance..
just worried about that ..thats why just to be in touch im sendin her these msgs..but now i've started it alternate days..initially i use to send her daily..