Did you ever feel irritated to someone without knowing why?
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (140102)
Philippines
December 3, 2012 3:54am CST
In every walks of our lives, we tend to interact with different individuals in the society. Sometimes I feel so irritated to someone, even without knowing why. Basically, I am not acquainted to this person but I just feel don't like to open any spiel to have a conversation. I was thinking, could it be how he or she carries herself in my presence? Did you ever feel the same thing?
6 people like this
46 responses
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
3 Dec 12
First impressions, intuition or gut instinct..I have felt them all. Sometimes I think it's the 'natural occuring karma' someone carries around with them. Maybe they say something that just doesn't sit right with you or they behave in a certain way, in your gut you have this "feeling." Generally our "gut instincts" are never wrong, but then there are times where you just second guess yourself. I think the best thing to do is give a person two chances, because sometimes when we just a 'first impression' do-over.
1 person likes this
@Pegasus72 (1898)
•
3 Dec 12
That is a hard one, not that I know of. Have I been upset with someone? I sure have and most of the time it is something I think I could be doing better, but hey each person has their own path to get to where they want to be, some just choose the harder path, some go back and forth between the easy and hard path, and some jut take the express route.
@aireanna18 (1914)
• United States
3 Dec 12
Pegasus that is true that everyone seems to travel different roads although the various roads all seem to get us to similar destinations in life.
I generally find that if I am upset with someone there is a reason. I may not realize it at that particular moment, but later the reason will occur to me. It could have been something the other person did or it could be a particular situation. Generally, the issue that we react to is seldom the reason for our annoyance with people. I know there are times that I have snapped at people, and it had to do with a combination of their current act and bottled up feelings of anger about something that they had previously done.
@Pegasus72 (1898)
•
3 Dec 12
I snap at people sometimes when it is bottled up feelings, which makes me feel lousy later, I think everyone has those moments too. I have an issue with a friend that need to take up with her, even her family has come to me to help her out. Wish me luck.
1 person likes this
@Pegasus72 (1898)
•
3 Dec 12
I had to laugh I guess some people are mad a lot then. Thankfull I am not one of those.
1 person likes this
@vamsimajeti (934)
• India
3 Dec 12
I too sometimes feel irritated to someone without specific reason. Maybe it depends on your first impression of that person
@aireanna18 (1914)
• United States
3 Dec 12
Perhaps this is true as I seem to be getting very irritated by my neighbors and I have never met them. My impression of them is not good. I mean when I hear crying and screaming children outside ildrenbecause the parents are coming home with them after 11 PM at night it hard to think positively. I mean why would you stay out that late when you have little children. The worse part is that the kids will be crying or screaming and the parents do nothing. You can hear it all through the walls.
@allknowing (137552)
• India
3 Dec 12
There used to be this lady who had a fixed grin on her face and that used to irritate me. She did me no wrong, nor did we speak to each other but somehow I used to get upset just looking at her. These sort of things are very common!
@aireanna18 (1914)
• United States
3 Dec 12
For me it is the eye roll, it just totally irritates me.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
hahaha! I used to have a classmate back in highschool who was 4 feet tall but seemed like she had a built in boombox in her body. Her voice was so loud that you would be surprised where it comes from with her frail body.Just hearing her non-stop loud chattering irritated me so much.
@aireanna18 (1914)
• United States
3 Dec 12
Sometimes it is just my mood. It is like I do not feel like to talking to people. Sometimes too it can just be that you feel the person is intrusive. I recall once that a co-worker was talking about her family; then asked about mine. The timing of the discussion I really did not feel like it was appropriate to open up. Professionally, I had my reasons. Plus, I felt the questions were a tad intrusive I was just trying to do my job; then you are asking me about my personal life. I answered the first question in a very short brief way that I tried to make it clear I was not wanting to converse though at the same time I was trying to be polite by giving a response since the coworker had asked the question. When she asked a follow-up question, I just stated that family was not really a favorite subject of mine to discuss. I tried to just be vague about it, but at the same time make it clear that I truly had no desire to discuss my personal life.
@aireanna18 (1914)
• United States
3 Dec 12
Definitely and I think it comes down to sometimes we just need to have boundaries. Not everything in my personal life is appropriate in my professional life. I mean you need to maintain a certain image at work.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
Hello Shavkat.
Yeah, there are instances that I just feel irritated to a certain person without knowing why. Sometimes, I just don't feel the person. Sometimes, its the first impression that I just don't like the person.
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Yep. That happens to me regularly every month.. when I have my period.
Then there are those certain people who I has really bad vibes coming off of them, or maybe our vibes are just not in agreement.
It's just a case to case basis and Im sure as you have mentioned, what happens to you is quite different from my experience.
However it happens, its just up to us on how we handle that feeling of irritation. Do we snap at other people? Growl at them just because we feel irritated and they didnt do anything offensive? However and whatever it is, it pays to stay positive.^_^
Take care!^_^
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
5 Dec 12
When I quickly get irritated with someone, after careful review, I can usually say that it is because they invaded my space, either with their presence or their speech.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
6 Dec 12
Hi shavkat: Yes and it's probably because some people have a personality that shocks with my own personality. I don't like aggressive people in my life, people that want to impose their ideas over the others.
ALVARO
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
hi,
i think it usually happen to me especially when i have a moody feeling,i just don't know why i feel irritated to that person though he don't do anything nothing to me,and because of my mood and he was the person i have seen maybe it will make me more irritated.
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
5 Dec 12
Yes it has happened with me to, some person have a repulsive look, seeing them makes one upset too, normally i avoid such persons here in my city and state.
Thanks for sharing
@kristian2012 (84)
•
15 Dec 12
i think we have the same experience. i have met some people whom i don't want to be with. and worst is, there are people whom, i don't even want to see their faces. it makes me feel so irritated that if i don't have to be very patient and considerate, we'll get into trouble.
anyway, there nothing we can do about it.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
5 Dec 12
Hi!
I do feel that way at times without knowing the reason why. And i try to figure it out myself but then i realize i am too late..
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
4 Dec 12
Sometimes we see other people's characteristics and behaviours that remind of someone we know or used to know that we didn't like, or they conjure up a bad experience we have had. They may remind us of our past ex's, old flames or bad acquaintances. Them talking may remind us of people we have known in the past. It maybe just a stranger but something they do or say may evoke unpleasant memories for us.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
4 Dec 12
I am like that too! I dont know why either and it makes me feel bad to even feel like this. Its not fair to just not like someone and you dont even know them. But I think that it must be something that we pick up on through our senses.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
4 Dec 12
I Am a person of first impressions if I don't take to a person right away it will stay that way! I would be nice and polite and behave sociably but that would be all.
@goldenteardrops (747)
• United States
4 Dec 12
yes I have and yet sometimes I just want to walk away and they keep coming at ya..alot of times tho it was mainly because of the way they acted or maybe said something and sometimes it is just I do not know why but there is something wrong like you sense a badness about them..
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Dec 12
Hi,
I do feel this way to a friend, everytime she goes to our place I'm the first person she looks for and she thinks I'm her bestfriend, she's a really nice person and I can't understand why she irritates me. I keep on guessing why, maybe because she's clingy, too nice, she acts like a mother to me? I don't know. It makes me feel like a mean, terrible and a fake friend to her. What makes it harder is, my mother likes her, everytime I try to hide my mother repremands me all the time, so I had no choice but to face her. I can't afford to hurt her feelings though, especially when there is no reason, that's why I just ride with the flow. I tell no one who knows us both. I'm afraid they will think I'm such a bad person.