Have you ever felt you didn't have the strength to endure your current problems?

My friend our life is not that smooth as we think about or wants to be. We have lots of problem in our life. Don't think that rich person does not have the problems and they are the happiest person on this earth. Even they are having the problems in their life. When both the partner, husband and wife, understand each other and ready to share their problem and helps each other to tackle the problems then to some extend it will be sort of relief. So I think you must sit with your husband and jot doing the problems you have, explain him how important they are and need the solution. I am sure your husband will surely come forwards and your problems will be reduce. It is we ladies should take first step to resolve the problems and extend the helping hand to husband which they always expect, but they will never tell this to their wife.

Then i asked them to go for a vacation together and this is where the argument started. The good thing was that they complaint on each-other at one point they asked me for the opinion and all i just said that they both have done mistakes and they both have their reasons to be mad on each other and that is not wrong but what i asked them to think for a second is to sit talk things out tell her what is what and what can be done on that. And i just reminded them about the time like they were soo close to each other. The time when people used to have a glee on their faces when they see them together an a lot of good times they had together. In the end they had tears filling them up. Then i said just leave all the issues behind just remember how much you mean to each-other, fight have arguments but in the end just stop your egos and say sorry with a hug that will cure things do this least for your daughters. That was all i did. Till today they have been very good to each-other my sister is happy and i am very happy seeing them happy. That's all we have in life. My suggestion for you is to use someone who you mutual know speak things out. Remember mutual friends you have with a good heart is something you really need here. Wish you all goodness.

I'm so sorry about your marriage and the prediciment you are in. I've had 2 failed marriages in my life and luckily only had kids with my first husband. My first marriage was horrible even though I had the kids my husband was a jerk and it took me years to figure out that I needed to leave. My kids were 9, 11 and 1 1/2 years old and one hot summer day I took them for a walk....we walked from city city and all I was doing was try to get the guts up to leave him. I was working a part time job at the time and a very little money in the bank that I could get my hands on. That night I told him he had to leave. We were living in his parents apt bldg. so thought he would move downstairs with his parents but no...he went and lived with my parents for 3 months while I was looking for a full time or another job. I found one and told him he could come back and have the apt. I had found one I could afford on my own. Yes, it's hard to work on a failed marriage especially when kids are involved. It takes a toll on you physically and mentally. How is it affecting your daughter? Does she see a lot of fighting going on? IF she does you need to get out now. The whole thing could be bad for her to see. Whatever you do Good Luck!

Hopefully, you have your own savings account--one that he doesn't know about. Squirrel away as much money as you can in that account. Also, as I (and others) have said before, work on building up your skills so that you have the sort of resume that will either entice a company that is offering a full-time position or, at the very least, be able to pick up a second part-time job. Explore your options as well regarding assistance for yourself and your daughter. You should qualify for SNAP. You may qualify for other programs. It really depends on your state. Take advantage of any educational opportunity as well. Another way out of your situation would be to go to college (or grad school if you already hold an undergraduate degree). Choose a school based, in part, on the availability of family housing; some schools are quite friendly to single mothers. That would take care of several issues at once. The primary thing is to realize that you have options. You are not stuck no matter how much you may feel like you are at the moment.

In marriage, it is a tough thing to put all together. If a partner don't participate to blend with the issue in marriage life, then that will be a problem. I believed that if it doesn't work it out at all. Then both parties should know the real score of the realationships.

Hello Dominique, I totally understand your situation as i have a sister with the same problem going in her head. She had been trying all that she could to get a word of appreciation, a sense of responsibility or least some pleasuring words from her husband. And believe me he is far too complicated. Hence she used all aspects to solve her problems but it was not of any help to her. Then i decided to speak with him and find what was the issue. My sister, she has two daughters and you must know how hard it is to have these coming up with daughters aged around 13 and 16 yrs. So i arranged a meet kind of a family meet called him and my sister to my home not telling them that i had something like a problem solving meet. just for a casual dinner. So i tried to be as funny as i could to loosen up the air. Then i started the conversation on their relationship, using my relationship with my newly married wife:). Things like how much i love her, how much she means to me, how hard she works for the family, cares for me and stuffs like that. I saw the sad face on him and her when i was speaking about this.

I'm sorry to hear about your problems. It sounds like you are forming a plan, but the pieces haven't fallen into place yet. I think that as you keep trying to find ways to build up your savings, it will start to work out - it's always hardest at the beginning, but soon it will be boring.

I guess this is not the right time for you to give up. You should do your best to find a job so that you can earn money for you and your daughter. I'd pray for you. I hope you can find a job soon.

Your problem is hard. But find the strength to carry on. Life problems are given to people that can handle them.

Right now I feel like I am not strong enough to deal with things I am going through. Somehow I always end up making it through them, don't ask me how I have no idea. But I have been through MUCH worse so I know I can make it through this. What helps a little is looking back to a really hard time in my life (when I was homeless with my husband and our daughter), worse than my current situation and telling myself you made it through that so you can definitely make it through this! I think you can do this too. I know your going through such hard times but if you have been through anything worse, you should tell yourself the same thing. You are strong and you will make it through. Even if you have to leave him you will find a way to take care of you and your daughter. I know that. I wish you all the strength you need!

I think marriage is built on communication, have you talked with your husband on the current situation? Have you made yourself clear? You should let him know what you actually want, it is importent for both of you. Do you know the reason why he does like to make any ajustments? Don't blame him, he may also has a hard time. I do not know what had happened to you, but I think you should not bear the burden by yourself. It's not your fault, not anyone's fault. Be happy, then good luck will come to you. Bestwishes!

if you cannot endure your current situation, then take courage to make a change. You should make a good resume, including job experience, skills. That is the first step to get a full time job. Once you get a job, you will be able to support your daugher. You can do many things by yourself. believe me, you can make a change if you dare to take one more step. Good luck.

i have had issues in my life when i just want to move to another part of the world where noone knows me i start my life afresh but i think thats not the solution,we must try and be strong and face whats troubling us,try get someone your husband will listen to ,so that he can get the message across to him.try put the savings in a kind of account where there are huge penalties for withdrawing the cash so that it deters you from wanting to use up the savings.if you have time try and go somewhere you can re-strategies your life.