HELP! How to tell her "No thanks, I'm married".

I am a woman... Women knows how to get what they (need?) want. Perhaps this lady thinks that you like what she say when she becomes 'too friendly'? I think you already saw the red lights... Eventually you will have to decide if YOU are going to cross the invisible line... You should not say 'how should I tell her no, thanks...?' Underline it to her that you are married sir, and protect your wife and your marriage. Last question: can another colleague not see her for the business?

I would ask someone else at work to do business with her, instead of you. If she is not being professional, then I would back away. Really, you do not need to do business with your former girlfriend. Trust me, you don't. I would also wear a wedding band, if she gets too friendly, take out your cell phone and start phoning your wife and get distracted with your wife. She will get the message, if you give her the message loud and clear. But she will also get the message to be friendly, if you are friendly with her. If I were you, I would not continue to do business with your ex-girlfriend.

Never ride on her shoes. I mean, don't take her seriously- stay as formal as you are. If you think she's being too friendly- do not entertain her way of treatment or else she might think you are also "sport" to play the game.

If this is happening on a regular basis then you are giving off some signals that encourage her. If you feel embarrassed about it then she has crossed that 'invisible line' and it is time you told her so. All you have to say is 'I am not interested' or 'I am only interested in my wife' nothing too difficult about that. Ask youself why you have been so slow to say this, is it because you enjoy her being 'friendly' in the old way she did when you were close?

im pretty sure you two have always conversation,so in this way tell her about your wife.tell her how you really love your wife or kids if you have one.this will make her too freindly with you..and just pretend to ask her how about you,do you love your wife and kids?you are a block,right?i know,you know how to deal with it..

just mention about your wife, make it looks like you mention it accidently. You can also show your wedding rings. But make sure you did it at a glance. Tell how you love your wife and again, make it as though you did it without purpose

It is hard to find such things with whom you'd 'no lines drawn' in the past... So don't get into that.. Just tell her that you got married... Tell her with the purpose of making it known to her... She'll get the message.. Her reaction is unpredictable though... Oh, if you're okay and if you find she's okay too, why not have some fun with her??? ;-) Good Luck!

She's an Ex,and You're now Married...She has to be aware of your ring if you're wearing it, and if you've stayed on friendly terms since breaking up,She must be aware you got Married..You can still be on friendly terms,but you can't give her openings that She'd perceive as flirtation so she can act on them.how do you know? You were with this Woman in the past.If there's anything happening between you now that you wouldn't want to have to confess to your wife later,You'll know what that is when you're in the situation..

hi Valentinesdiner Perhaps gently remind her you are married and you really love your wife and if this does not stop; the too friendlies then tell her hey knock it off, we are just friends and I am happily married,okay?That should do it.I mean theres subtle then theres forthright and sometimes subtle does not quite do it so be forthright. and do not add and abet her either as she could get the wrong message.friend not girl friend remember.

You say, you are married. So how do you feel about her being around? Do you feel uncomfortable or you just see her like any other friend? If you'd say that you just see her as a friend and you feel that she might be crossing the line, then I guess you just need to remind her that what has happened between the two of you before can never happen again. And that you choose to remain civil with each other so she needs to respect that and know her limitations.

Have another option , temptation is just around the corner. Anticipate things to happen , prevention is better than cure. You both are just human being , so you can't really tell if you will be that firm and strong always.

Is it so difficult telling the truth, that you are married? By letting her behave the way she does you simply prolong this torment. ...unless you like it and do it deliberately. It's all up to you. In the end you are in between.

yah I know this is really a problem which creates embarrassing situations. However I would recommend as a friend, frankly tell her in details about your marriage, lovely wife and request her not to try for the previous relations once again, which will help both of you to maintain your own relation without any hassle.