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I don't think so. Even if they admit that i was a mistake. i will forgive them, but I am not sure if i would want to see them both again. i can forgive but certainly I can not forget. I don't like to tolerate such action.

I will feel much hurtful to it. As you not only lose a husband, but also a best friend. It is just like the double disaster because you will never think that your best friend will betray you like that. This is terrible. In this aspect, I am very mean and I don't think I can forgive and forget it.

I am sorry to say I would most likely have to walk away from both people. That is a level of betrayal that is just too hard to move past and still remain in either relationship. For my own sanity I would have to forgive them but then I would forget them as well. Then again I am known for my ability to walk away from people in order to get away from such issues.

For sure I will forgive them- who am I not to forgive them anyway. But to accept them back in my life is another thing. What they've done is enough to know what kind of people they are. Trust and honesty is my policy when it comes to every relationship (love and friendship) I am not perfect, but I am not a saint nor the worst. I admit my faults and suffer the consequences- that's why I always think twice before doing something or indulging myself in any situation. I know I don't have any right to judge anyone- not my husband or my bestfriend. But this kind of betrayal is beyond my imagination. I will give them freedom and walk away without a heavy heart- that's how open-minded I am.

It is difficult to forgive the two most important person that have betrayed you. I think it is the most painful thing that one can experience. All along you thought that they are the people that will help you through thick and then, and yet they would be the cause of your misery. I might forgive them in due time, but to forget? I don't think I can.

Well, i won't be sure about my reaction. But i do forgive them since they realize that it was a mistake but things will never be the same, so it's better to separate from each other because knowing that our partner once cheated, there is no guarantee they will stop doing it. Of course everyone deserve a second chance, but well forgiving is enough. That's my opinions.

Some relations are very much vulnerable. If both of them truly realize that it was a mistake then one chance should be given I feel. Otherwise losing two people in life is a big loss. But it is easier said then done.I can only pray for the person who undergoes this kind of crisis in life.

As many are saying forgiving is acceptable norm but forgetting is not. I might forgive them but for the same treatment as before it cannot be restored already. That is grievous betrayal of trust that you could not just easily forget and restore the friendship you have made. So I guess you might say you forgive them for their misdeeds but then you cannot accept them as friend and a partner anymore. Trust is to be earned and could not easily be restored as easy as it is asking for forgiveness.

I suspect I would feel betrayed, by both of them. Its kind of hard to know, though, because while I have best friends, I don't have a partner...

Best friends were partner and can commit mistakes in such affair or other relationships. Sometimes best friends (boy and girl) can be true love becomes married in the future. That is still a normal.

I would forgive them, although it may be hard, but I always make it a point to forgive the both of them. But to forget is something that would be impossible and I would always remember what they did to me. The act in itself would break the friendship first of all, I could never be friends with that person again and if I found some small reason to be her friend still, it would never be the same. The same with my husband I know that I would never trust him again and I'd either want a separation to figure out what I wanted to do, to see if the relationship could be mended and if not then I would end it. Because I know I would never forget and I'd always remember.

That would be awful. I'm not sure that I would be able to forgive them. It would take a long time for me to decide on that. I know I wouldn't talk with them for awhile.

When such things happen,see whether the strength in your relationship can withstand this deceit.If you can forgive both of them and once again continue relationship with your husband you are welcome,but keep your best friend at arm's length,for she cheated you on the sly and is not entitled to be called again your best friend.A best friend never cheats you under any circumstances.

If he/she is really my best friend,and really realized it was a mistake.And apologized to me.I think i can forgive him/her.And tell him/her don't do it next time.

Hello my friend Shavkat Ji, Well, it is very difficult situation, under normal conditions, a big NO, but conditions may compel to forgive. May God bless You and have a great time

I honestly think that I would be able to forgive as opposed to going through the rest of my life both losing my husband and my best friend. The thing is, however, that I wouldn't be able to forget about what had happened and from that point on, I do have to say that I would have a real problem with trust toward both my best friend and my husband for the rest of my life. I know that I'm probably alone in my opinion, but I think that you are only granted with a hand full of people in your life that will make a difference to you and for that reason, you should keep those people close to you.

Hi Shavkat: I don't know about my wife but I am pretty sure that I could not forgive so easily a "friend" that betrays me this way. I mean, if he is my friend, he should know that he is playing with me. I can't trust in someone that don't cares about hurting me this way. I can't see a person that do this to me as a friend any more. ALVARO

I always believe that once a cheater will always be a cheater. I can't say that I will forgive them, probably in time. But I probably wouldn't want to hear anything about them for sometimes.