What would you have done?
By missybear
@missybear (11391)
United States
December 8, 2012 1:51pm CST
A couple days ago me and my honey went to a concert that we bought tickets for almost 3 month ago, we also had a hotel room for the night so we didn't have to go home afterwards.
I took the next day off from work also so I wouldn't have to worry about getting up early or drinking too much.
My Honey has been having back problems and the day of the concert the pain moved into his hips and he could barely walk but we went on our journey anyways and checked into our room hoping it would get better by the time the concert started.....no such luck
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We went anyways but after standing through the first band he just couldn't do it any longer, he had a very hard time standing and was getting ready to pass out so we left and went to our room.
He wanted me to stay course I really was looking forward to the concert and never been to see this band (he had seen them some years ago).
As much as I wanted to I couldn't have him try to get back to the room by himself while I was having fun watching the concert.
I got to listen to the first song anyways so at least I got a taste of what it would have been like.
What would you have done...stayed or left with your honey that was feeling really miserable?
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We went anyways but after standing through the first band he just couldn't do it any longer, he had a very hard time standing and was getting ready to pass out so we left and went to our room.
He wanted me to stay course I really was looking forward to the concert and never been to see this band (he had seen them some years ago).
As much as I wanted to I couldn't have him try to get back to the room by himself while I was having fun watching the concert.
I got to listen to the first song anyways so at least I got a taste of what it would have been like.
What would you have done...stayed or left with your honey that was feeling really miserable?6 people like this
18 responses
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
9 Dec 12
Hello missy. There is no question about what I would do. I would do as you did. I would not want my friend/partner to go through trying to walk back to a motel with painful hips. I couldn't have much fun if I did allow him to try walking back to the motel room. I have had that kind of pain. I hope he gets some relief soon. after a while it gets hard to handle.
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
9 Dec 12
It's been 4 days now and it doesn't seem to get any better...I see a hospital visit in his future
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@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 13
If I were you, I will definitely leave the concert with my partner and head back to the hotel together. One should be able to weight between concert and safety. You can go to concert again some other time. Yet if your partner did collapse, it will definitely not be good. After all, enjoying the comfy bed it the hotel should be fun as well. A good relax after some job. 
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
16 Dec 12
If the situations were reversed, I would expect and want and need my man to stand by and help me. I would need his loyalty.
So, because that is how my mind works, I would do for him as I expect him to do for me...the golden rule. I'd help him back to the room and assure him I'd rather be with him and so on.
I think being considerate of others whether loved ones or strangers is one of the most important things we can do.
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
16 Dec 12
You right, and I know he would have done the same for me, or i would kick his butt
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I probably would have thought of doing that but our Hotel was 2 casino's over and it would have been quite a walk for him to do by himself
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@stary1 (6612)
• United States
9 Dec 12
missybear
I think you did exactly the right thing in taking your BF back to the Hotel and making sure he got there safely..
However, if I had been the one with the back problem I would have insisted you go back to the concert and enjoy it..no reason both of you miss it..unless of course the Hotel was really far away or you didn't feel safe traveling back to the concert area by yourself...
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
9 Dec 12
He did tell me to go back and I went for 1 song but I just couldn't enjoy myself knowing he was sitting outside feeling miserable.
Our room was in the hotel down the street so he needed help getting there otherwise it would have worked out different.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
9 Dec 12
oh no missybear I bet these tickets were expensive and now you didnt even get to hear and see the performance. Sorry to hear this.
Honestly I dont know what I would have done. If my partner would have been okay with me getting back there after making sure he is in our rooma and comfortably in bed I would probably have taken the chance to.
At least I would tell my husband its all right if he stays there eventhough I cant.
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
9 Dec 12
If our room would have been in the same hotel as the concert we might have done that but our Hotel was a couple blocks down the street so he couldn't walk there by himself, otherwise I might have done that.
The other thing we didn't even think about was that he could have sat at a machine and gamled $20 while I went back for a while...Oh well at least we made it home OK.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
8 Dec 12
Sorry to hear that things had to turn out like this, and I am sure you did what is Best for the both of you. Yes, I am sure it would have been nice to stay there thru the whole concert and enjoy, but at the same time you did what was best and took care of your hunny. If you would have let them try to maneuver back by themselves you would have had no fun as you would have been worried, and hopefully there will come another time where you can be at another concert as well.
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
8 Dec 12
You right, there was no way I could have stayed in there by myself having fun not knowing if he was gonna make it back safe
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@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
8 Dec 12
I would have done the same thing. My fiance had a horrible infection in his right hand and we ended up in the ER because of it. The doctor put my love on IV antibiotics, which took an hour + to administer. I had classes that night and one of them was a preview for a competition that I was looking forward to entering. If my partner and I had presented a great presentation we could have split $1000! Rather than leaving the side of the one I love, I opted to remain and for go the competition. I couldn't have lived with myself if I had left and something happened to him!!!
There will be other concerts, but there is only one person that you love and care for. You did the right thing staying with him and comforting him. I hope Santa is extra nice to you this year!
How is your honey doing now?
How is your honey doing now?1 person likes this
@missybear (11391)
• United States
9 Dec 12
That was really sweet of you to stay with your honey.
Sometimes money isn't everything (It does help though)
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Like you said...there will be other concerts and hopefully for you other chances to enter in the competition.
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Like you said...there will be other concerts and hopefully for you other chances to enter in the competition.1 person likes this
@missybear (11391)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I was a lot sad
but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do
but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do1 person likes this
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I would have done the same thing you did! i would not have been able to enjoy the concert anyway wondering if he made it back to the room safely or not. Plus I could not enjoy it knowing he was in severe pain like that. Hope he is doing better now!
@missybear (11391)
• United States
9 Dec 12
He's about the same and he might need to see a doctor course it's not getting any better, thanks for your responds and concerns
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@allknowing (136072)
• India
9 Dec 12
You did the right thing. Even if you had decided to go back to the concert you would not enjoy there without your loved one!
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I went back to see the first song while he sat outside but like you said I couldn't enjoy it and left
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
My husband's health is definitely more important than any concert. He needs special attention and if I do chose to go on with the concert, how am I sure that he would be fine?
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
9 Dec 12
If our room would have been in the same place at the concert I might have took him upstairs and went back but our room was 2 casinos down from were the concert was so there was no way I could have left him to go back by himself.
@greenthumb018 (595)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
You must really love him. You did the right thing. I don't think I can enjoy watching a concert when I know that my partner is sick. You can see them some other time or year anyways. He'll always remember how you chose to be with him than some band. Sweet!
@missybear (11391)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I know I did the right thing but I did really wanted to see the concert
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Mar 13
hi missy
bear when we really really love someone and are in a spot like you were I think I would have done the exact same as we want to take care of our honeys and we do not want them to get worse so we willingly sacrifice some of our own enjoyment so our honeys w
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bear when we really really love someone and are in a spot like you were I think I would have done the exact same as we want to take care of our honeys and we do not want them to get worse so we willingly sacrifice some of our own enjoyment so our honeys w
done.@missybear (11391)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do even if it hurts....and that one hurt a lot
@missybear (11391)
• United States
8 Dec 12
Pretty much the same, we barely made it home the next day, he had a hard time walking from the bus stop, now he's sitting on a heating-masssage cussion
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
8 Dec 12
I had to, it was sweet of him to tell me I could stay though
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
8 Dec 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i feel extremely bad for your husband's back problem and i hope he will be fine in the coming days. I know u and your husband were so much excited ahead of this concert so much so that u had booked a room and also taken a leave but all i can say is that luck was not on your side and hence u had to miss the major part of the concert.
I think u did the right job of not leaving your hubby in the room and enjoying the concert but many concerts will happen in the future but once a health problem occurs it has to be sorted out.
What say?
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
8 Dec 12
You right,sadly it's the second concert we missed course he got sick, plus I missed one that I was going to see with a girl friend of mine due to bad weather (It was outside).
The good part is the band usually comes to town once a year so we try again next time
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