How do u value life? I hav a friend hu recently aborted a child, I feel guilty!

I value life highly, but I would not judge the actions of your friend because I have no knowledge of the circumstances that led her to such a decision. I am sure that many people will happily condemn her actions irrespective of circumstances, but it is too easy to formulate such opinions in the comfort of having no personal involvement. There is a vast difference between making a callous decision because she does not want responsibility and the making of such a decision as a result of traumatic circumstances. I am not suggesting that abortion is right, just that we do not know the reason for her decision.

was it yours?/ no need to feel guilty.. she made the decesion. Im sure she thought about it long and hard before doing it. She must have had good reasons for it.

Why should you feel guilty? It was her choice, and only her choice to make, you cannot make the choice for her. I believe that we should enjoy today and not worry about tomorrow, not to take things or people for granted and count our blessings, no one knows what is around the corner. Enjoy life as much as you can, we only get one shot at life and it's far too short.

Hi, I am against abortion, it is like a murder because it ends a life of a helpless fetus which soon to become a baby if it's mother takes care of it. I hate to hear that some women do this, whatever mistakes they did is their fault not their baby's, they don't seem to care about the life that is growing inside them. But for some reason, I am also trying not to judge and understand this women, because honestly speaking/writing, I myself can never say never.

I do not have a clue why you feel guilty? It is only your opinion that this action was cruel. I suspect that your religious beliefs lead to this opinion. You God is the one to judge and not you. I suspect that the more hardcore religious folk who respond to this will ALSO FORGET - That you do not JUDGE.

Unless the mother to be's life is in danger, there is no reason to kill the unborn baby. Life is precious and I will not take it very easy thing, I make life to shine like precious diamond.

I value life really highly indeed. I think that every pregnancy should result in a live baby. That baby should be loved by his or her own parents. If they don't want him or her then adoption is the best option I think. I have seen a program called I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant. The ladies shown on that program don't have any idea that they are pregnant. They have severe pain and are shocked if they go to hospital and find out they are in labor. Sometimes the lady gives birth at home unaware that she is pregnant. I don't like abortion at all. I let my disabled son be born and I treasure him. It was such a great shame that your old friend aborted her baby. She did a cruel thing and maybe she feels depressed about what she did. In early pregnancy a lady can have mixed emotions. There can be an unplanned but wanted pregnancy. Maybe the boyfriend of your friend put on pressure making her abort her baby possibly.

We often have different values when we are young than we do when we are older. She may not realize how precious a child is or she may have feared that she could not support the child with even enough food. When I was very young a friend of mine got pregnant. We were both 18 and abortion was only legal in a faraway state. She did not want a child and indeed, she was cruel to children unwittingly since she herself was horribly abused all her life by her parents. I did not realize that at that time how precious life was. I believed everything that was said about it being just a collection of cells that had no awareness and that it wasn't really a person until it was born. So I borrowed money and drove her to that state and she killed her child. Here I am 40 years later and I have felt guilty for so many years over my role in ending her child's life. I have changed and seen enough of life that I know that children are our most valuable resource, gifts from God. I did not have this attitude back then. As I said, we all grow and change and that is why we have so many regrets as we age. Studies show that most women regret abortions later and most of them suffer depression. Rather than judge your friend and feel guilty yourself, be there for her if she needs someone to talk to. She's done an awful thing that she can never take back and it will blight her soul and spirit for the rest of her life.

You can't truely feel guilty of something that you didn't do, it is your friend that ended the baby's life, not you, there is nothing much you can possibly do to save that innocent little angel; unless your friend is willing to take your advice and decided to spare the baby's life for once. It is useless for you continue blaming yourself for somethings you never be able to stop and prevent with your limited power. May be your friend doesn't has anymore conscience inside her after knowing the fact she is pregnant, her value on life had changed drastically since then when she is the one is control of another human life, she believe she can do whatever she desire with her own body instead of you. Yes, i value life and respcet life as it is no matter it is belong to a fetus, baby, child or adult. It is somethings i consider as sacred given by God.

To start with, I am pro-choice. I believe a woman has the right to choose. Since you seem to have no idea what thought process she went through, I really can't understand your view. I'm sure she gave a great deal of thought to what to do, and we don't know what her reasoning was. It's not fair to judge others by our own standards, because, as the saying goes, "there but for the grace of God go I". Before you decide that she doesn't value life, you need to walk a mile in her shoes.

It is really sad to know that someone would really go to the extent of ending the life of an innocent child. The child didn't ask to be conceived and I think that it is a selfish act. I am so sorry for what I just said. But I guess, some people would just be doing something stupid just to save her neck. The child should be a symbol of love between man and a woman. And I feel sorry for her that she has to deal with this. And I think that she will carry the guilt all through her life. She should have thought of how she could have given that child a wonderful chance of having a life. A lot of women are trying to conceive themselves but are not lucky enough to even have one child. We only have one life to live. And we should be able to make our lives worthwhile. Our lives can never be regained once we breathe our last breath.

I value life more than anything in this world. And it hurts me so much hearing this, reminds me of a friend who did the same thing. In fact, I have made as well a similar discussion here about a year ago. But we cannot do nothing as this is their life and their decisions. We do not know what they feel when thinking about doing such act or how they felt after doing it.

Well, I guess your friend is Pinay. What I see in the Philippines is that too many people get children eventho they don't have enough money to give their kids everything they need. WHAT is cruel here? Sure, she could/should have taken precautions. Maybe she got news the baby would be suffering a bad disease. Never having the chance to live a dignified life. I'd say: NEVER judge on others unless they don't take their responsibilities.

I do not agree with abortion with no exceptions as I am adopted and living great. If I was aborted instead of given a chance to at least live I would not be here. I don't think your friend is without a conscience though. People make mistakes no matter what the sin is. Some people do not want to raise a child, some people are worried about no money or have no father for the baby. Either way it is wrong in my eyes but I think the best thing to do is be there to support her. Help her avoid poor choices that lead to such drastic measures in the future.

ias paul I dislike abortion and would never have aborted a child but there are two instances when I feel abortion is right mostly to save a woman's life and if she has been raped by a mentally mangled man as the fetus would and usually is malformed. other than =that have the baby and if necessary give it up for adoption as there are so many women who would love to adopt a baby.

so sad. Abortion is not at all acceptable. She have many ways to not to get pregnant. she would have used the facilities.If she really wouldn't want the baby. Life is very precious.

It is a very sensitive issue, taking away the life of an unborn child is a big sin based on religion doctrines. But, it is possible for some country to administer such, if the mother is in danger or the infant is not in capable to live even if it was delivered.

Your friend have a conscience just that she didn't listen to her inner conscience . Maybe she got no heart for the baby , she only thinks of herself , very selfish indeed ! To abort is to kill and it is a sin in God's eyes and punishable by the law. She should have been responsible for the consequences of her actions. Your friend will be Karma. Hope you can talk to her again and guide her and remind her of the moral and spiritual teachings. She got a lost soul. She needs immediate counselling.

I do not agree with abortion with no exceptions as I am adopted and living great. If I was aborted instead of given a chance to at least live I would not be here now. I do not think your friend is without conscience though. People make mistakes no matter what the sin is. Some people do not want to raise a child, some people are worried about having no money while others have no father for the baby. Either way it is wrong in my eyes but I think the best thing to do is be there to support her. Help her avoid poor choices that lead to such drastic measures in the future.