What do you do when the he/she makes you cry?

Tear drops in the eye - tears in the eyes
Philippines
December 10, 2012 6:37am CST
What do you do when the one who can make you stop crying is the one who is making you cry?..Does anyone have any experience to have someone whom you can called as your crying shoulder? He/she might just be a friend, bestfriend, boyfriend, girlfiend, sister, brother, relative, or even a pet(for pet lovers this could be applicable). That one could wipe away every tears you have, can lessen the pain and burden you are suffering, but suddenly it turns out one day that the same person who used to make you stop crying is now the person who is making you cry for a lot of reasons. Have you experienced this situation too?
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11 responses
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
10 Dec 12
I am sure many must have experienced such things in their life, may not exactly the way you have put up but may be other way like criticizing on your back or telling something or giviving wrong imformation about you to some body. Such incidence do happen not mostly in the family members but it is very much common in the office or between the friends. We keep faith on some friends or office colleagues and share our good and bad things that had happen in our life, some we cry also for the incidence that have happen in our life. We open our heart with them just to released the pain from our heart, but we get more shock when we realized the same person acting other way behind us.
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• Philippines
10 Dec 12
yes it is, maybe its because of the trust we pit on those people. We trust them so much that we share everything to them, all the pain and heartaches. It is just sad to know that sometimes we don't realize that the more we give our trust, the more that person could hurt us. Betrayal of trust is one of the most painful part of it.
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
*I mean "give" not "pit".. on those people.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 12
hi krystal! she is my best friend, we have been from since i move to that school, and meet her. she is the first person want to be my friend. we start to be so close. i always share everything with her. even when was sad, she always there. because one man, i made her cry. i'm really bad, make someone that willing to be share with me, cry. uwaaa... i took the man that she admired most. but, because of it, my relationship with the guy also not long.huhu.. i deserved it
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• Philippines
10 Dec 12
oh I see, but thanks for sharing, sometimes love could really hurt. It could hurt you or you could hurt others because of love. Its not wrong to love, and its not your fault that you love that man, the only mistake maybe is that you could not help your self to hurt your best-friend. Whatever it is, I hope that you have already ask for forgiveness from your best-friend, and both of you are in good terms now.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 12
yes, we still be friend. now she already in a relationship. it just me still busy with my life.
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• India
10 Dec 12
I think every one here faced this situation. Because every one will love some one. If their dear ones do something which hurts them. Deffinetly it hurts more. In my life i used to take every thing to my heart and used to cry even for a small thing did by partner which hurts me.
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• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Perhaps most people we love are those that could make us cry, for some reason that we love them dearly that if they do something we don't want to happen, it affects us deeply and we tend to get hurt.
• China
11 Dec 12
Actually I do not have such experience,the one who can be my crying shoulder usually we never make me cry. But actually may be I should not join this discussion,because as a boy I seldom cry and do not willing cry in front of people.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 12
...but sometimes it's fine to cry whether you are a girl or boy, it could lessen the pain in your heart especially if you have someone to cry on. Have a great day.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
I always cried , always but no shoulder to cry on ! No one is there for me to listen for my sobs nor was there any one to wipe those tears. It's okay this is life.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 12
What can I say? well I am pretty sure you are a strong person, being self dependent and not depending on others makes you a mature thinker and more tough especially in times of difficulty in life. I am proud of you that you could carry all the pain all by yourself. Always stay strong.
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
I cry a lot, because of my man. He is the reason why i cry, whenever i'm angry with him, he had done things that i don't like, i cried. But when he comes, and hugs me, ask sorry and show fondness, the tears in my eyes disappear!!! what a wonderful love is... i Love my man so much..
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• Philippines
11 Dec 12
Good to hear from you kennethfher14 that you are in love with your man. It is really a wonderful feeling to have someone at your side to cry and lean on.
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Talk to that person about what he/she has done or doing that made you cry. The person who makes you cry sometimes is the only person that could comfort you as well.
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• Philippines
10 Dec 12
indeed, sometimes for some reason he/she makes you cry but in the end, he/she will also be the one to wipe your tears away.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
hi, yes,it happened to me when i was in a relationship with my ex lived in partner,there were times that he made me cry alone at home,and when that happen to me during that time i cried to my eldest sister,i opened it to her,i loved so much my ex partner but that is life and i need to be strong.
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@natliegleb (5175)
• India
11 Dec 12
we need to console here and make here feel comfortable and cozy,mainly happy
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• Greece
10 Dec 12
This question must surely bring up the subject of self dependence. Depending emotionally on someone else to wipe away the tears is putting a burden on them. Of course if it easier to go to someone who loves you and makes you feel loved when you are feeling low, but the mature thing is to reach the point when you can sort yourself out without the need to run to someone else. Loved ones will sometimes make us cry. When someone hurts us we need to know why we feel that way. We must be honest with ourselves, we may have needed that comment or situation that hurt us in order for us to change our attitudes. Sometimes the comfort we seek is not what we need, instead we need to use our heads and honestly analyse the situation. If we are at fault then we will learn to change our ways, if the other person is wrong then we will be all the better for forgiving them rather than indulging in too much self pity.
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Very well said Madam, I have nothing to say about this. These are all true, the more you depend on others, the more likely you get hurt.
@betty1989 (751)
• China
10 Dec 12
yes, my boyfriend is the person whi can make me cry and can also make me stop crying. It is so magical that in the world he can do this to me. Sometimes, he may make me angry and I cry. Sometimes, when I cry for others, he can come to corfort me and make me laugh in seconds. I am fortune enough to have such person. have a nice day.
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• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Good to know, at least you have someone like your boyfriend whom you could cry and laugh on. May your relationship will go stronger as days goes on.