The moment I give up on him....
By akhaniemar
@akhaniemar (122)
Philippines
December 10, 2012 11:08am CST
It's really true that the reason why women fall in love with the wrong guys is because the wrong guys say the right things... and so I fall for him. We go along so well, he had so many plans for our future. Months have passed with all the good memories we've shared and cherished together. And then all of a sudden he left me. He left without a word... and so I concluded that we're through. I moved on with my life and I really have the hard time dealing with the pain. But then, I learn to accept that it will eventually happen, it's just that I haven't saw it coming. It never enters my mind to communicate with him because I know for a fact that if he really wants me in his life, he will find a way to put me back there. I never waited for him and I entertained other guys. But then, after 3 months, he send me a message asking me to give him time to explain what happened then. He said he wanted to see me again. I don't want to give myself false hope. Though I admit that I still feel something for him, my heart belongs to someone else already. I've given up on him, but then, I wasn't the first to give up... he did! and as far as I know, he was the one who gave me something to hope for between us, but then those plans and promises vanished and he left me hanging on to something I thought was there.... his LOVE.
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5 responses
@mhaiXCs10s (619)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Hi, sweetie! You are not a loving a wrong man... Actually, you are loving the right man in the wrong situation I think. Maybe, you need to let him explain but as you are saying you are now in a relationship. But my question is, do you really love this new man in your life? If you will say 'yes' I will ask you this next question, do you still feel something with your ex? Whatever your answer will be then I just want you to realize some facts. Everyone has their reason and everyone has the right to explain their sides. As of him, let him explain and if you really love this man you are with now then tell it to him and let him go and so the feelings too. Loving is really a beautiful thing that can brings us happiness or agony. He had hurt you then but it is up to you if you will allow him to hurt you more. Happiness is a choice, search your heart and find out what's the answer. Happy mylotting!
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
In my point of view, i somehow agree mhaiXCs10s that there is no such thing as wrong guy or wrong girl or perhaps wrong love. Because at the onsent what we feel for the person that we love is true and real irregardless of what is the outcome at the end of the road you both travelled. To be fair with Love, at the onset it is correct but its in the cultivation process that somehow makes it wrong. To love and be love in return is real and on how to nourish it is the great challenge of all. Its a love at a wrong time.
As for you my friend, if you will see your self that you wont be wondering for the rest of your life deciding not to hear his explanation then dont. But if you feel that there is still a missing piece of yourself that tells you so to hear him not because to rekindle back your past but to give peace a chance as to why he left you then give a time for him to explanation. After all you are entitled to know the truth to pacify the pain you have felt before and move on peacefully to close the book.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
20 Apr 13
Thanks for sharing in details, i was in your country for few months, many men are like that they are fond of multiple relation ship,probably they get some wild fun in hurting others
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 13
Love is a very simple thing that many people made it complicated. There might be a reason behind why he left you in the first place. Since that he wants to meet you and talk about it, there should be no harm to understand what happened. Of course, I am not asking you to be with him again, I just hope that you can gain some knowledge of what happened and you can still remain as friends. The past is past and since your heart belong to someone else now, there is no need of turning back. 
@gpldeguzman (168)
• Qatar
6 Jan 13
I can relate to your story although mine is not completely the same with yours. It is just that there are things that we wanted to happen but it is not meant to.We thought that by having the man we love is the greatest thing that ever happen to us but it ended the other way around, simply because some good things never last.
@kennethfherl14 (70)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
you are doing the right thing girl... Why would accept him again after all he left you? If he really wants you to be back. Put him into challenge. Oh, wait, you have your new lover right? What was your feeling for him? Are you happy with him? Is he the one who relieve the pain of your heart when you're broke? If yes, don't ever leave him. Don't entertain your ex. He is just a waste. If he really loves you, he already took care for you and your relationship even before you were together, right?
If i were you, I will kill that feelings for him. Forgive him but not love him anymore.
