What do you think of Partners who fight in the public?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30183)
Philippines
December 10, 2012 9:37pm CST
Have you ever witnessed a couple fighting on the public for everyone to see? I just cannot think why these couples would not even try to conceal their anger for each other and have the issue be settled in private? I have been in fights but even i am unable to show these with my close friends, what morre with people i do not know in the public?!
This discussion was due to this instance where we were at the mall, my friends and i are in line waiting for our turn to buy cinema tickets. There were a lot of people in the area and suddenly there was this woman shouting "Why are you hurting me?!!!" She was shouting so loudly we can easily find where they were. The woman was really shouting so loudly and at the same time, she was pulling her boyfriend's hands towards herself. so we were like thinking this woman was shouting the man was hurting her but she was the one physically abusing the boyfriend. The boyfriend just had his head bowed down because of shame.
All of the sudden the woman shouted "Guard!!!!!" and so they drew more attention to themselves. a couple of security guards did come and ushered them out of the area... and well.. everyone was talking about how scandalous this woman was!!!
If you are the woman, would you even dare cause such a scene in the public, leaving no shame for you and your partner?!
What do you think of these people who likes causing scenes, or being scandalous in public places?
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21 responses
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
My husband and I sometimes argue when we are out but we don't cause any scene to get the public's attention. I guess people won't notice that we are fighting. LOL. Maybe they could only find out when they see my teary eyes. LOL. I don't like people shouting at each other, drawing attention from the crowd, etc. They don't have any manners anymore. Hope they will settle it in private.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
I would have such a time and would be angry at my bf too, but i have never caused a scene myself, and i would not even speak to him. haha So i guess some people are just different in dealing with the release of their anger. I can tolerate as much as I can, i am patient bt my response with anger was to release it whilst i cry.. and not when i shout at my bf, or shout in public pretending to be hurt. he he :D
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
I guess we can control ourselves unlike other people. They love getting attention and they feel more confident to fight with their partners if someone is watching them. LOL. Oh, my. They're embarrassing.
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 12
That are very nice. And yes, it's embarrassing for the couple who fights and people would feel uncomfortable.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Dec 12
That's crazy that I read this tonight because there was a couple fighting in walmart tonight. They were so loud and screaming at each other over a pair of shoes! I was thinking to myself really, over shoes??
I do not like to argue in public with my husband. I think it is embarrassing to be honest with you. I feel like hiding when I am embarrassed like that!
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
11 Dec 12
Fighting over shoes 
Oh my they would have been more thoughtful .This is really sad. yes of course we just cannot fight in public just for shoes. Its very embarrassing indeed.
Oh my they would have been more thoughtful .This is really sad. yes of course we just cannot fight in public just for shoes. Its very embarrassing indeed.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
11 Dec 12
Well if I am the wife and my husband wanted to buy the same shoes I am buying for himself, I will really create big fight... 
My goodness, why on earth will my husband wanted to wear, stilettos??? and why is he also fitting the shoes... I am fitting. grrrrrr... Now I know why my other pair of shoes have broken heels.
My goodness, why on earth will my husband wanted to wear, stilettos??? and why is he also fitting the shoes... I am fitting. grrrrrr... Now I know why my other pair of shoes have broken heels.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Dec 12
I hate it when I see couples fighting in public. public. I have never aired a quarrel with my hubby and actually we seldom had
a real quarrel to begin with. People who do that have no real compassion for other people at all. Perja[s they want to get people on their side. Who really knows?
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
hi there hatley, i have someone lost focus on what i was doing when in public and something like this - a fight gets my attention. i do not care what other people do, so long as i do not get affected.. and that people act appropriately and according to where they are, right?
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
12 Dec 12
I think if they do it more than once they should take a break . I hate to see couple that fight in front of children and in their yard for everyone to see . The woman you are talking about sound like a crazy woman that want to just publicly embarrassed her boyfriend .
I think those kinda people really have no shame
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
thanks for your response silverfox. oh they really should try to consider where their relationship is going if they are already fighting in public. sometimes people are just people and we do things we can be sorry days later, or maybe minutes later.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
This is really embarrassing.
Although there are instances that we must consider why a woman or a man create a scene in public.
Like one incident wherein the legal wife saw her husband with another girl.
We cannot blame the woman/wife for creating a scandalous scene.
but for other incident...it's so embarrassing and attention catcher...
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
it is embarrassing, sometimes though we have to admit that our partners and us, we won't be able to contain our feelings anymore and would somehow show our feelings through our facial reactions, and body gestures.. maybe what we can do is to just try hard to contain them until we are left with our partners in private before we talk about it again, right?
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
11 Dec 12
This is very embarrassing and I think this should be a "no-never" incident that can happen between couples. Whatever the reason is, these couples have their own private place to where to settle everything. Fights can never be avoided in a relationship but making scenes and disturbing other people because of that, most especially in public, i just I think not a mature way of fixing things up.
These couples may need counselling.
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
11 Dec 12
Haha Right!
In the first place you do not need to shout at your spouse when you are trying to settle things because it will only worsen the situation. Well, this is what my parents taught me 
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
hehe right, i guess the woman was just trying to draw attention to her. some people have such bad habit of wanting to be the center of attention, too bad for her boyfriend/partner that she has had this done to him in public.. it is really humiliating.. we can see from where we are how the boyfriend's head was bowed down in shame already and this woman was still nagging at him and pushing him but was shouting the HE was the one hurting her.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
11 Dec 12
I think that it is awful to fight in public as it attracts people's attention to this kind of shameful behavior. I never allow this kind of thing happen to my wife and me. In fact, my wife and I both keep a low profile in our life. We don't like to be noticed. Thanks for the discussion, chiyosan. Take care.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
thanks so much william, its really just about how couples are to each other and that is what they reflect back for people to see. I think though that the couple in this discussion of mine is just out of it, especially the woman who seemed too strong for the guy.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
You bet! the one we witnessed is funny for us.. especially like we were joking with each other about what we heard and often would shout jokingly "Guard!" when a friend is like doing some naughty stuffs, but between the couple.. i bet this experience of theirs is traumatizing to the guy, especially as he really seemed helpless and was being bullied by his girlfriend in front of the people... He was even accused of hurting his girlfriend physically.
@jswindell10 (417)
• United States
11 Dec 12
There is a couple that moved next door to me that does this often and they get on my nerves!
Funny, I was just thinking that the next time this happens, I'm going to play my heavy metal to drown them out. Motely Crue, Van Halen...
While some things cannot be avoided, it seems the "lady" had some deep-seated issues. This couple also tells really embarrassing information for the whole neighborhood to hear.
One time, they argued for over two hours because the male called her a name and she hit him and he returned it. It was tempting to tell the landlord but I'm trying to get out of this apartment as quickly and quietly as possible.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
haha sometimes we have got to do what e have to do. if it needs for you to play that music out loud so they can get a taste of their own noise then so be it. i think that should at least teach them when to actually raise those voice. It really is inappropriate for people to be causing a scene in public, or disturbing others by what we do. its not fair to put in such an awkward situation and witness what they are doing to each other - probably the woman here needs or wants people to sympathize with her and thus she is calling out to the guards as if telling them he is hurting me see? oh such a cheap act.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
11 Dec 12
Ohhh I also notice this some couples start quarrel in public place or on road. They not notice the public are watching them. If I will fight with my danger and sweet hubby on public place then next they will give me divorce hahhah....because he not like loud voice on public place. He is shy and his voice is also soft so not like loud voice specially in public place. I not understand why the couple not solve their problem in home.
because he not like loud voice on public place. He is shy and his voice is also soft so not like loud voice specially in public place. I not understand why the couple not solve their problem in home. 1 person likes this
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
Ah right, there are a lot of places not public where a couple can talk things over, in their car before they go out (parked, and not in traffic of course) or at their own place. They should leave out being at the mall with kids and a lot of people to watch them fight or shout at each other and make a scene...
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
For me its not an appropriate place for discussions. Addressing personal issues in a public place would only bring more shame and scandal. However, i would say there are certain times too that we cant hold back our emotions and we acted unprofessionally specially when infidelity or adultery is caught in the act. We can confront in public but in a professional suttle way. But like i said, we all forget ethics if we are cloth with angry and hatred. The best thing to do is to contain self emotions and if possible think the effect or outcome prior to performing act.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
It is never going to be a good place to be raising your voice in public places, especially when you are arguing with someone - regardless if you are lovers, siblings, or family. the point was we should be able to contain our anger, as you have said so yourself. It is rather not the best place to be doing something like that, i am sure everyone was talking about them and even if we won't remember their faces after all, the memory of the experience would still remain.
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 12
Personally, i don't like couples fight in public. Especially those teenagers who didn't even married yet but fight like it's the biggest problem they ever had. Even if it is a married couple, i think they should handle their problem as adult and keep their calm until they are at home or somewhere people won't see them. Yes, they put the shame on them and their partner because sometimes their partner are trying to keep them calm and people are watching. It's humiliating.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
Yes, that is really quite not appropriate for people to be fighting in public. It is really humiliating, i do agree with you on this one. For someone to be doing this, airing your dirty laundry in public... its really shameless of those to be doing such...
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
11 Dec 12
Actually regarding to your description,I really can not say they are partners.
Partners should care about each other and should tolerate each other,and face the reality together.
Someone will fight in the public is not a really partner.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
Well, they are not living upt to the expectations of those with a good and healthy relationship. I doubt if they were still able to patch things up after that episode at the mall with hundreds of people seeing them and being dragged out of the place as well. That i think is really something the woman should be able to justifiy why she acted out in such a way... It sure is humiliating for her "partner".
@greenthumb018 (595)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
No I will not cause such a scene. I don't want to speak finished words but I am not just the type of person who shouts when angry. I'm more silent when I'm angry and that's what drives my partner crazy. I do not see the need for shouting for I will just tire myself and be speaking words that I will regret in the end because the brain doesn't function clearly because of the anger. I saw a person who is like that and I guess that people react differently when they're angry.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
this is really too much for us, especially if e are not the type that would be broadcasting anything we do. there are just those types of people that would make a scene and thus cauuse scandals in public. such people probably need a lot of attention and thus it is normal for them and it does not bother them at all to cause such.
@sajujohn (1005)
• India
11 Dec 12
ohh...that was really absurd. what was the need for that? It's obvious that relationships will have it's own problems. In my opinion it is not a good practice to outcast it before the public. If there is some problem between them it has to solved with in the walls and not infront of the mass..
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
That's awful behaviour.
Even if I was hurting so much I wouldn't dare show it to the world. If I have some lover's quarrel with my boyfriend I want it to be just between us somewhere private. It's embarrassing to do it in public.
That girl is out of control. Plus, no sense of decorum either. 
It will only make her awful in the eyes of other people, no matter how much pain she felt.
It will only make her awful in the eyes of other people, no matter how much pain she felt. 1 person likes this
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
It was indeed an awful behavior. =( it was not her best behaviour and we were all thinking about how the man would become as he was embarassed by the girl friend he has. Its just that sometimes we all should be able to contain ourselves, no matter what we are feeling... hurt, or feeling deceived, and all. I mean perhaps this woman just lacked whatever it is that is required of us to act appropriately.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
11 Dec 12
This is really sad. I don't like such people who create scenes in public.The women would have sorted out her problem at house or in any private area. People sometimes juts loose their senses .
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
that's right prashu. This woman was even shouting and calling out to a guard as if to ask them to detain her boyfriend for hurting him in public (this we did not see happening in the public though) the boyfriend was just walking beside this woman who kept on pulling the guy's arm.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
there are just some people i guess that are very okay with creating a scene for everyone to see! oh sometimes they love the attention or maybe intentionally doing that so that they get noticed... probably which is why they do this, their partners aren't giving them the attention they need...? i just do not understand why people would d that, though. private affairs are not to be made public.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 12
i don't think i can do such thing in public.
look like she just want to get people attention. haha.. cheap publicity
i rather not to do such thing. it really embarrassed ourselves also our partner too..
i seem like this but to so brutal like u see. i just notice the girl really angry with her boyfriend, she just making face and ignored her boyfriend,and pinch her boyfriend
i rather not to do such thing. it really embarrassed ourselves also our partner too..
i seem like this but to so brutal like u see. i just notice the girl really angry with her boyfriend, she just making face and ignored her boyfriend,and pinch her boyfriend
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
hehe we all have our likes, dislikes and when emotions go up too high, it depends on our control if we would be able to control or not.. or just let the steam off by that time... =) im glad you are not like this couple/person i have witnessed at the mall.. we have got at least one person that is not in such a mood... to make everyone watch them and lose valuable quality time with the people they are with in public. causing such a scene is not at all pleasant.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
yeah i guess it was due to their emotions and that they are unable to contain themselves already too... =( sometimes when we let our anger get to us, we would not even notice who sees our anger... but then the one who is able to conceal his true feelings will almost always win any battle. one who loses anger is the first one to lose face.
