BESTFRIENDS FOREVER: how long forevr will last?
By imjamie
@jamieclavero (187)
Philippines
December 11, 2012 3:39am CST
i had a best friend once. i had him since my grade school years. although he is a guy and i am a girl we used to understand each other really well. we had been together in a hundred ups and down. it was really funny how our old classmates used to teased us. funny thing they even though we would end up as couple and get married someday. but that will never happen because we are just like real brothers and sisters. he was there in my every hearth breaks. when he had his first breakup with her long time girlfriend, i had been at his side. we used to love mountain trekking together whenever we had problems. but things change recently. i had work, he is still studying. we seldom seen each other for a while. he had been sarcastic during some of our conversation. we had been bestfriends for so many years but this time, i could no longer understand him. well i guest people really change.
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15 responses
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
12 Dec 12
Great post indeed. I often wonder the real meaning of 'forever' in 'best friend forever'
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@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
29 Aug 15
@nitinnair89 yes! i have.. if u noticed, i wrote this 3 yrs ago. the friend that i mentioned here is still my bestfriend :) we've been friends for more than a decade.
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
29 Aug 15
a lifetime of friendship. no endings. a pure eternity :)
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
Nothing is permanent in this world but change . A changes with time and space. Best friends will be there forever for life. You may have chosen path differently but the love for your friendship is still there. Some might be changing between you and he but your memories will never change and it will be there for the rest of your life. You may not be in constant contact with him but that doesn't mean , friendship no longer there . It is forever there , deep buried in each of your heart. Don't worry if he change a bit , anyways it is not about the friendship , it is other aspect of his life and you will be the first to be happy if that changes is for his growth. Remember , friends are gift from God ! Let us treasure them.
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@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
I totally agree with you Angelpink! People may change but good memories will never fade. I have friends since kindergarten and we still keep in touch with one another even though we're across the seas. It still feels like we are very close especially these days with the presence of internet and mobile phones which has made communicating with our friends and love ones who far away from us easier.
@anil78650 (177)
• India
13 Dec 12
Hi.... yes peoples really change. Sometime because of the situations they have and sometime because of some person.... just like you said you were always stay together back then.... even if it rain or snow, good or bad, u were with him, and also when he first broke up with a girl you were there with him. I can say that you both had each others back.....but now I think this time when he don't find around in his bad situation so he try to make himself on his own...... I think that the situation that change him...... just let him what he is..........he is still ur old best buddy na....... :)
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
THANK YOU for your great advice as well as for reading my post
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
12 Dec 12
well i seriously believe that after a period of time even how funny it might be ,serious affair can go a long way without breakup and sustained relationship forever
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
11 Dec 12
I don't believe in the concept of best friends forever, because people come and go, jobs come and go, and people do change. People always change, they grow, they meet other people with whom they have more in common with or they just simply get bored or boring. Some people will use you until they get what they want and then they are onto their next conquest. The only person you can change is yourself, don't worry about what you did right or wrong, because a true friend would be there for you forever (it doesn't exist), not just when it's convenient for them. Nothing lasts forever.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
You're right, nothing lasts forever and people do come and go. But I still believe that there is someone out there who can be a true friend. I don't want to be a pessimist when it comes to the concept of "friendship". Not every one is opportunist.
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
hi.. i agree with the both of you in some ways because i do believe that the only constant thing in this world is change. thank you for reading my post.. i really appreciate your opinions.
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
11 Dec 12
It is too soon to think that your friend has changed and the friendship is on the way out. You have known him for too many years, he is like family to you. Perhaps he was having a bad day or maybe he is having a period of bad days, so you should step back a little and give him time. As we grow older we get responsibilities and personal relationships sometimes suffer because of this but one like you have described is a lifetime relationship. Give him the benefit of the doubt,let a little time pass and then try again.
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
thank you for the great piece of advice as well as for your time reading my post. i'll try my best to make our friendship last longer. maybe we are just too bothered to understand each other
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
14 Dec 12
There seems to be something under the surface here that only your friend knows. Ask him direct about the problem. If he wants to discontinue your friendship, at least you'll know.
@lindsiko (355)
• United States
12 Dec 12
I had a best friend growing up who was similar to yours. All through elementary school our teachers, classmates, and families thought that we'd grow up and get married. Through high school and college we drifted apart and went our separate ways. I think this is pretty normal because as we grow, we are constantly developing new ideas and reinventing ourselves.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Dec 12
Yes people change and time changes things as well. Life sometimes get in the way of friendships too.
My best friend and I were friends since we were little but now that we have our children and live far apart its hard to be as close as we were. Things get in the way and money becomes an issue of seeing each other.
It really stinks when this happens but its quite common...
@dreamie_belle (94)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
I don't know if I am just overly sensitive but I can sense that maybe he's feeling a little insecurity or inferiority because you're already working and he's still studying. And that probably contributed to his change in attitude towards you? But it can also be not. He's just probably changed. Many people really change with time. Some for the better while others for the worse. But whatever it is, I think it's best if you try to bring it up with him. He may not be aware of it so it'll help him realize about it.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
Hi Jaimee. I used to have a best friend, too, whom I had shared my ups and downs for more than ten years before our seemingly best-friend-relationship turned sour. Just like your friend,she,also, suddenly became sarcastic during some of our conversations.I noticed this when she started working.Perhaps,she found new people who are more interesting than I was. Her house was just a stone throw away from my house but I had not a chance to speak with her before she left for another country, which I heard from my mom. Her mom and my mom, although not as chummy as we (I and my best friend) used to be are in speaking terms,yes, they chitchat but they are not buddies.
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
Reading this made me walk down memory lane once again. Sadly, I lost my best friend from my childhood years so I guess forever is just like a few years time. We shared good times together and those are something I cannot forget. But, unlike you, my best friend was a girl too. I know some friendships of the opposite sexes are not destined to last for so many reasons. Eventually, they get to a point where they get aware about each other physically and emotionally that, that platonic relationship they claim to have gets out of hand. So maybe, there must be something going on with your best friend that you don't know about especially that you said, you are both busy. If it's not something emotional, in the end he'll get through it and maybe he'll be nice to you once again.
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
thank you. i really appreciate your advice. maybe someday, when we are no longer too busy, we can have a nice chat together,or maybe be friends again.
@bittu27 (86)
• India
11 Dec 12
The world is changing each and every second. Everything is changing with time and so all living creatures in this world is changing with this changing world. u have to change to cope up with the present generation or u will fall back just like me. a boy and a girl can never be best friends for a long time, it has to get seperated one day. i have got a best friend whose name is - Indranil, and we are friends since 2004, he is really a nice boy and we will remain friends forever, no matter if everything in this world gets changed.
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
hello.. i am hoping for the best for you and your bestfriend.. be strong.
@mhean30 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
11 Dec 12
i miss my best friend too. I remember when we are High school that was the time I think and tell to my self that this is the person who will be my best friend forever. When I went for vacation to my country she visited me at our house and spend so much time talking. When you are far away with each other something might had happen on her happiest and loneliest moment and you are not there still I am communicating with here through chats and Facebook. Hope to see her next year and made some quality time together.
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
hi. thank you for giving some of your time reading my post.i really appreciate it.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
11 Dec 12
Hi friend, good to hear about your long time friend, you re right, it is really hard to judge people, since they will change based on the situation. But don't miss this kind of long term friendship, it is really hard to get such kind of good friends.
