Married with an unborn child?....divorce?

she lied and cheeted and was decietful. That is not ok. my wife did the same, i annuled the marriGE ASAP ATA COST OF cost of many thousands of pesos. I GLAD I DID, THENALTER SHE HAD ANOTHER BABY WHILE STILL SINGLE.

If people weren't in such a hurry to jump in the sack and then think they have it made and get comitted then this sort of thing wouldn't be happening. People need to get to know people before they jump in the sack, get comitted, and get married. If this person had done so they wouldn't be in this predicament now.

I think most of these things happen when a man decides to marry someone suddenly. I think if you've been with a person for a longer time, you wouldn't encounter this scenario. However, given the circumstance and let's just say I'm a guy and I did marry someone without knowing that she's pregnant, only to be told after the wedding that she is. I would probably need some time. I mean, if she didn't tell me about her condition, then perhaps she was afraid I will not marry her. But there could also be the possibility that she only got married with me because she didn't want her kid to be born without a father. But the main point here is, she didn't disclose something that should have been open to partners. I honestly would think that I'd go for divorce. Not because I don't love her, but because it's some sort of "trickery" involved. She knew I was going to marry her, but why didn't she tell me the real score so that I would be given a chance to choose? It's sad but I wouldn't want to be mixed to the situation in the future. What if the father would come forward and offer her the world and the kid? She wouldn't have second thoughts with him because he's the one he really loves that's why she got herself pregnant, right? Have a great mylot experience ahead!

That will measure the greatness of love. I want to share my own experience so to prove that love is great. My parents arranged a marriage for me (thu this is not a common tradition here in our country) But my parents and a family friend arrange a marriage for me and their son. The guy loves me, but I don't love him at first- later I admit that I have learned to love him after a year of engagement. (During the year of engagement our wedding was planned while waiting for the new house to finish - that's his parents gift) but like a scene from the movies- months before our wedding date I met someone and fall in love at first sight. (shesshhh- if that was the meaning) I eloped with that guy barely a month before my supposedly wedding. Of course the whole family was shocked- to make the story short, my family found me and took me back. My groom to be kneel down and beg me to marry him- after all what I have done. The most touching part is when he said...I don't care whatever happened and if..if ever you are pregnant- IT DOESN'T MATTER...just marry me. That's one proof that love is immeasurable and Love can face against all the odds. No- I did not marry him and I married the man I eloped with.

That would be really painful to know. And I guess, it takes a real strong man to take such a blow. If the man no longer wish to get married, I think the woman should understand how much pain he has inflicted on him. However, if the man still accepts the woman with all his heart along with the unborn child, I think that the woman should prove herself more that she is worth marrying.

ohh This is really sad. How can the man continue his relation with her. I mean she is not honest in the beginning it self. I don't think i can continue relation with such person.

I'm not a guy but I would divorce her. Why? She lied All that time. it would be different if she had told in the beginning, when she found out. Then her groom would have had the choice but to marry him and Then tell him is so wrong!

As a man, facing this kind of situation, it is really hard to accept it. Definitely, it is unacceptable. She will be left to deal with her affairs in that case although the unborn child is ignorant. Take care, Shavkat.

Annulment. Even if she didn't know she was pregnant when she married, she was cheating before the marriage--so she hadn't changed her behavior. If she DID know she was pregnant and married the other man anyway, she is doubly dishonest, and dishonorable--she cheated (a lie) and then she lied about the results (by marrying without letting him know she was pregnant by another). I personally could never have a relationship with someone who showed that lack of morals.

She should confess her sin to the church and then you forgive her.

hi, most of men never accept it unless the mind of that man is very expanded,especially when the side of the husband is rich,the decision of this still depend upon the person on how can he accept that,but for me of course its a sad moment but we should accept the fact that we are already married and bind.

That would piss me off. I would take her right to a lawyer and file divorce right away. That is a woman trapping some guy because she is pregnant. That is just not right, its just wrong on her part. That is something that should have been told to him before they married. And, lets face it, that means she cheated on him in order to get pregnant.

If you love her then you will marry her, but then again if she is pregnant and not with your child then just how long were you engaged because if it was for a long time then she cheated or was raped and didn't tell you, or if it was a short time I would say you needed to get to know someone better before you marry, but in the end if you love her then you marry her for who she is.

Hi friend, really it is a tough situation. First of all both guy and girl have an open talk before marriage and make a good understanding to start their life in a good manner. Filing divorce for this reason is not a good thing as well as it is really hard to live a life with this kind of untrustworthy person.

There are a lot of "it depends" here. Since you are legally married to the woman, when the child is born, you will be legally the child's father. How do you feel about the child? Will your wife be a good mother. Will she be faithful?

That is a bad situation to be in , and if her belly is still that small it would be a recent pregnancy . I think I would file for the divorce because she was cheating on me not so long ago . It would not be a good spot to be in , one bit .

I had to ask my fiancee about this discussion. My fiancee said that if the girl new that she was pregnate before they got married then yeah there would be a divorce right after getting married. He said that it really wouldnt be the fact of the child it would be the fact that she cheated on him and that she new that she was pregnat before they got married and didnt tell him. Not sure that if she would tell him before they got married if he would try and work things out before getting married or if that would be the end. To me a cheater is always a cheater. Im not going to say that i have never cheated on someone before. But when me and my fiance got together he already new about that and i also told him everything that i thought that he needed to now about me. He is the type of guy that if you do not tell right off the bat everything there is to now and then it comes out later in the relationship then you were trying to hide it from the other person. Hope i helped you out a little anyway. Thanks for the discussion.

Hi Shavkat, if that happens to me I would be very shocked but I wouldn't let my emotion dictate my decision. I will definitely weigh the pros and cons of the situation. And if I love that person enough, I think I will stand by her and raise the child as my own. It really depends on the gravity of the situation.

Seeing as I am a girl I highly doubt this would happen to me. But for the heck of this discussions, if she was going around while we were in a relationship, the relationship is full of lies, what else is she lying about, so the trust is gone, and whether I decide then or later the relationship most likely wouldn't last.

before getting married both sides should be open on what had happen on their past so that no conflict will occur.... both parties should be openly accepted, but if the secrets is just revealed after the marriage the gal should be strong to face the consequences that she had hidden something...what ever the decision of the man, gal should accept it, and understand it.