Friendship: still better than a relationship
By Jals14
@Jals14 (42)
Philippines
December 13, 2012 7:47pm CST
Everyone of us have tried falling in love and loving. However, due to thoughtless actions, we tend to forget our best buddies and spend more time with our boyfriend/girlfriend. Is it not that our friends are far more important than boyfriends and girlfriends? Of course it isn't. Friendship is something that will last more than a relationship. On the one hand, our friends will always be there especially when our hearts get broken. They are the people who comfort us and love us regardless. They our our family. Their presence is actually much more reliable than that of our boyfriend's/girlfriend's. On the other hand, our boyfriend/girlfriend will not stay forever. That's why there are break-ups and cool offs. Although you have developed friendship with you special someone, it doesn't guarantee you that both of you will last a lifetime. There comes a time where you have to let the love and even the friendship go to avoid being in emotional pain. I am no expert in this area, but I speak of experience.
5 responses
@emavs9 (63)
• United States
14 Dec 12
I think your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner/wife/husband should firstly be your best friend. That's what I think of when I think of a loved one... a best friend. In my opinion, I want a relationship where someone is not just my boyfriend, but more than that. Why can't a significant other be your best friend and last a lifetime? I have remained so close with three of my ex-boyfriends (two of them I dated for long periods of time) and I am so grateful of that because we now value each other as friends and no more and no less which is perfect. I just don't think you should write off the possibility of a long lasting friendship AND relationship.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
14 Dec 12
Friendship has more possessiveness than relationship. So enjoyments are more and heart touching in friendship. Reverse to it ignorance or departure make more concerns in friendship. Nowadays relationship is more or less formal occurrence.
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
14 Dec 12
I think friendship is not better than relationship, it just depends on the situation you are in. It is normal to have cool-offs or fights in the relationship but that is how we grow individually. How can we find the person we are destined to if we don't try being in relationship. Our friends will be there but there is the difference between our feelings towards our friends and toward our girlfriends/boyfriends. Of course friendship is important but then same with relationship.
@echo060201 (540)
• China
14 Dec 12
yes, breakups make us cry but also can free us and let us move forward to meet the perfect match. we can also get experience from the ended relationship.
