You Can't Trust Anyone That Doesn't Lie.....

I dated someone once that had the philosophy we should never lie - about anything. Seemed to also have the philosophy that if he considered it to be true, it should be said. I learned very quickly the value of occasionally telling white lies to spare feelings. I believe in telling the truth. I don't think we should go around lying about everything just because it's easier. However, I have definitely developed the opinion that if more potential harm can come from telling a truth than telling a white lie, it's the white lie. I see absolutely no reason in telling the truth if it's not going to benefit anyone substantially and it stands to hurt someone greatly.

Right on there! Lying is part if our culture when telling the truth will hurt or offend. I get into trouble telling the truth, so I generally don't say much. I don't care to dance around the truth with the niceties of saying what someone wants to hear. If I don't feel like playing the game, I tell the truth but say Lord Bless you, or God Love you and then tell the truth. Like, do I look fat? God live ya, but you know you could miss a few meals. I would say it in a joking way and all is fine. I hate lying about Santa. Santa didn't deliver those gifts. I bought them and my name was on the presents. From Mommy. I was heart broken when I learned there was no Santa. My daughter was always told that the gifts were bought by us.

The perils of parenthood. Other than the one about Father Christmas, he does exist you know. Lives next door to the Easter Bunny at the North Pole which is surprisingly temperate. They even have a private golf course! I understand, commiserate and offer no solutions other than ain't life fun!

Yes, sometimes we use a white lie so that someone's feelings will not be hurt. But sometimes we also do that in order to gain favor from another. However, if i am taling to my child or husband i tell them the truth. If they don't look good on this and that i tell them. That way, they can choose other clothes or way that really looks good in them

This is one thing I have to admit that I do even more than what's in your examples. For security purposes, I have told a lot of lies and I also tell them if I don't think that people will be able to be satisfied with me not telling them the answer. It's something that I have come to accept, but I doubt others will think it the same. It's just something we have to do sometimes. The truth does not always "set you free"...sometimes it can get you into more trouble. And to be fair, when I read the title of your post, I immediately thought of religious people. A lot of religious people I know claim that they do not lie and I have a hard time trusting them because while they clearly lie, they don't call it a lie. They invent all kinds of ways to justify it and say it's not a lie. If that's what they need to do, fine with me, but just don't tout your higher morality system to me.

i think that we can't just trust anybody 100%. we don't need to. but we need to have some trusts or else, we won't have any decent relationship towards people. moreover a lover, we still need to trust them but it won't be 100% or we'll be a total fool. that's my opinion though. for not trusting people 100%, we won't be easily manipulated.

I told my kids the truth about santa and all that when they were little I never wanted to lie to them about it. I try to avoid even white lies but at times I make those. When I see a baby that is hideous I dont say oh how cute I just say how sweet or something like that because a baby is sweet it doesnt mean they are cute haha.

I don't know about not trusting them, but I'd certainly think they don't have many friends. I do not fully believe in sugar coating because there are some times when people need to know the truth. I think some people can not improve and better themselves if everyone always lies to them and no one ever points out what is wrong.

ideally you cant trust anyone these days and if they lie along its a big drawback for sure and we must get rid of them easily because its prone to cheating on and the baby is bad

Hello friend ,we can lie with other people in different matters of lie.Lie is the part of our life.Some time people have facing difficult matters of life and hide the real things from other people that why we can lie the other people.This is a social problem and have tried to avoid it.

Lol. So true! Lying is part of our everyday lives. I also don't believe in people who says they never lie and will never lie. Even when we are just a small kid we've learned how to lie already.

Is this where we explain the difference between a "white lie" and "lying through your teeth?" I think there are different types of lies and done for different reasons. I have never known anyone to say "don't you think my baby is so cute?" Well, some may have, and you would have to respond in kind. Really, who are you hurting in this situation? You're protecting the parent and their feelings. Then we have another kind of lie, parents ask the child "did you sneak out your window last night?" (I say this one because my brother use to do it all the time). Well, the child lies to avoid discipline from the parents. Lies are lies and we've all told them. Stealing is stealing and we have all stolen something in our lives. We are all sinners, the bible told me that one. And if anyone says they have never stolen, never lied, then they are well...lying. We grow up though, well most of us and we know it's not right to lie, so we know how important telling the truth is. I sure wouldn't want to trust anyone who was known for lying. So, some may want to stick to their Joe Diffy story, but I think I'll move on. This is a great discussion and you have many valid points. Thanks for posting.

White is fine, but doing this with clear conscience. For the benefit of a lot people, then it is fine. It is true that we cannot trust anybody, the loyalty of a person is not that pure or genuine. It will change for some reasons..

That's really the truth! Nobody in this world doesn't lie. Everybody does... Lying to the purpose of not hurting the feelings of anyone is being human after all. It is not wrong and it is part of our life...

To tell a lie is not always a sin. However the event should have some kind of sound reason.Many great personalities have stuck on to this faith.

Why does this discussion leave me with the feeling you have a teenager at home?

I want to add to what you have posted and let you reconsider: Ugly Baby Would the parents of an "Elephant" or "Ugly" baby ever want to display out that photo around to seek approval or anyone's perception? What do you think they (parents) are doing? Aren't they lying to themselves in the first place? Big Bum Who doesn't have a bum? What is it about inferiority complex? Then, what is it about appreciation? What does beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder? Is that process a lie on the part of the beholder? What's wrong when one chooses to see perfection within imperfections? Children Do you think a parent's hanging of their child's effort to be a lie? Do you think a parent is lying to the child when they are actually praising their children's efforts, expressions and most of all love? I did not remember telling that my child that their drawing which I've collected in my scrapbook that the drawing was "adorable". I can understand what you are driving at but does that mean we should follow the mass and do what people are doing. I am about being resourceful and exercise hesitation wisely to avoid consequences of our own doings. Truth hurts but who doesn't appreciate or want honesty. For me, I always support the principle that if we do not have anything good to say then keep our mouths shut. Saying what's on our minds truthfully is not easy but we have this thing called courage and if we do not even want to take it up, then it will disappear with time. I can assure you this is part and parcel of face this world because when we do not use our courage then we will always cower to our own ugly corner and end in own undoing.

abosolutely, nobody in the world oesnot tell lies, at least on our planet. so to some extent, to tell some white lies is a good thing and can be considerate for others.

You are so right there my friend. I lie 50 times a day when customers ask me how I am I always tell them Im fine... even though I know Im not. have a great weekend there. See you here soon.

Yes people lie often. There are also times when they speak the truth. Whereas whether or not we can trust them, that would be up to each of us to choose :)