BFF vs BF: Where is your side of loyalty?

Well, I'll do everything just for them to be good with each other. Or if my friend wants me to be happy, she must understand me and support me and also love my boyfriend and accept the way I accept her as my friend.Same with my boyfriend. I'll talk with both of them that for them to be able to show that they really care and love me they should be good with each other. Just for me.

its really hard to choose between both of them. surely you don't to loss both or either one of them. first thing u need to know what is the main argument is, so, then u will decide which is good for u. if either one is wrong, u really need good timing to tell one of them

This is very unlikely to happen to me since my best friend is a very understanding person if she ever does get into a fight against my boyfriend, she will understand if I still see him. My boyfriend is the same, he is not the type of person to avoid me from seeing anyone on life. They are both wonderful persons. Anyway, if that ever happens that I have to choose, I will choose no one and do my best to make them be friends again.

I hope that you will always be on the side of truth.

Tell them you like them both therefore you're staying out of it and they can work it out for themselves.

This is such a generic situation that I really don't think that I can answer your question at this time. The reason that I can't say which person that I would side with is because I don't know what this hypothetical fight was about. The only way that I would know which person that I would side with is to know what the disagreement was about and know who was holding what position. I can honestly say that I wouldn't always side with my boyfriend and I wouldn't always side with my best friend.

It depends on the situation. You have to hear both sides of the story. He/She may be your BFF but you should not tolerate his/her actions if he/she is the one at fault. If there's still a chance try to reconcile them since they're both a part of your life. You should always use your head over your heart most of the time.

If one of them is being a total jerk about something, then I would try to show them the error of their ways and help them move past it, but if it is a situation where both of them have some valid points and it is just differing points of view, I would try to mediate and help each of them to understand the other one's viewpoint better and be accepting of each other. After all, these are probably the two people I am closest to in the whole world besides my family, and I am likely to be seeing a lot of them, so I would do as much as possible to keep the peace and make sure we could all have a healthy relationship with each other in the future.

I need to know better what is the root cause of their argument before I can take sides. It is hard to just pick any one of them without realizing what has gone wrong and who really started it.

Try to mediate the situation and if things don't work out then you can still have a relationship with both, and if they both love you, they will be able to still be part of your life without getting you upset.

That would be really hard. But I would not just unfriend someone just because my two friends do not get along. I would just have to split my time with both of them at different times. And if you have to invite them to a birthday party and they both will be there then if they are true fronts they will come and keep the peace. Hope this helps.

It's quite a difficult situation Shavkat :(. It's about the person you've been for a long time and the person you might share with the rest of your life. In this situation wisdom is very important. In situation like this we have to take no sides. We have to listen to both sides and be fair enough. If you really love your bf and your bff you have to do something for them to be okay. And if ever it's impossible I think you can pursue your relationship with both of them and let time make them friends.

I love my best friend more than anything and I would definitely pick her over a guy. In all honesty I have picked her over guys before. The one time I picked a guy over her it was absolutely horrible and I wouldn't do that again.

it would be very hard to decide on whose side are you going to because they are both important aspects of your life. som people might say go on with your bff. he's been with you throughout thick and thin for so long.. but how about your bf? is he isn't your future? isn't with him whom you are gonna spend the rest of your life in the future? then another would say isn't she /he your bff? she/he had been with you ever since even before your bf came. oh my... you'll gonna be crazy with all those thoughts for sure. so better be on both sides. here them both and balance everything. time will come that they gonna be ok. im sure you cant afford to lose any of them right/ so take it slowly.good luck.

it would depend on what i think is the right thing to do. I should really be following what i believe is to be the truth. i am loyal to both and i am not choosing which sides because i got to know the friend earlier than my BF.. or that i will choose my bf because he is indeed my partner, right? i think i would not even want to be on either one of them's side.

ewell since they both are important person for me I try to peace them talking about their good with one another hope that way will bring peace to them and they will close once again

That is really a difficult situation to be in. A real dilemma. On one hand, you have your friend who's been with you for so many years through thick and thin and on the other hand, you have someone you'd probably want to spend the rest of your life with. Perhaps the best thing to do is to talk to both of them separately and ask what they don't like about the other person. I don't think it's best to take sides. Just be neural and try to find a middle ground where you can be with both without having to choose either one. It's difficult but if they're really your friends, they would understand your predicament.

hi, i think for me i will only stay in the middle of both of them,i will not go in the side of my boyfriend nor to my best friend,my loyalty is with them but of course i should only be in between of them,and i will understand them if they will not good in each other.

I won't choose any of them. If they cared about how I felt, they would have stopped arguing for my sake. At least tolerate each other because both of them are important in my life. I can not abandon one relationship for another. I will let such problems they settle themselves. Unless one them is really bad and we need to stay away from then that is another story.

I think we should not focus on the role but need to focus on the reason,as for me,I will support who are more reasonable.