All I want for Christmas...
By ctryhnny
@ctryhnny (3460)
United States
December 16, 2012 6:03pm CST
My son just texted me and asked what I want for Christmas. I told him the truth. I want to be with him and his little family and that would make me happier than anything they could buy and wrap up for me. I'm really sad because my oldest daughter still isn't speaking to me and she won't for a long time. All over a dvd I asked her if I could borrow that she says I "stole" from her. How can you steal from your daughters apt. when your babysitting there 5 days a week? Did she think I wouldn't give it back to her? Of course I asked her and did not just take it. I think she's starting to go through menopause...seriously. She hasn't talked to my son since their Dad passed away a year ago. She used to keep in touch with her sister in CA but doesn't any more. All she wants is her friends and nothing to do with family. I'm just very sad about the whole thing. So I hope I get what I asked for for Christmas!
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17 responses
@marguicha (223851)
• Chile
17 Dec 12
I understand that what we most want for Christmas is to be with our loved ones. I will go to my younger dasughter`s home and I will make diner at my home and my granddaughter will come and get me with the goodies. But I have also seen that some parts of the family are not as close and I know that hurts a lot. There`s nothing we can do though.
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@marguicha (223851)
• Chile
18 Dec 12
Can`t you go there, Marìa? It is easier for one person to travel than to have several come.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
17 Dec 12
Im in the same boat here. as my family has all decided to stay in usa for xmas. They promised all year they would come here , and bring my son . now things have changed.....
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
17 Dec 12
Sounds like a very nice Christmas gift. I am so happy this year that ALL of my kids will be with me on Christmas day. This will make me very happy.
That is really sad about your oldest daughter believing you took a dvd from her home. She apparently forgot that she let you borrow it. I don't think menopause has anything to do with losing one's memory, but okay let's run with it. 
I wish families could be closer, friends are important and some friends are like family too, but family is important. They are with you forever.
I do hope you get what you want for Christmas, it would such a shame if you didn't get to be with your family especially when you want it to work out so badly.
I wish families could be closer, friends are important and some friends are like family too, but family is important. They are with you forever. I do hope you get what you want for Christmas, it would such a shame if you didn't get to be with your family especially when you want it to work out so badly.1 person likes this
@dyjason84 (25)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Let me just share when my mother is in the stage of menopause she felt different. She felt like she's sick but then the diagnoses of doctors was she doesn't have any sickness. But yes the prettiest season is Christmas because this is when many families gather together.
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@dyjason84 (25)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
I dont have an idea =). Good for you but it's not the menopause thing the topic here. The starter get mad =)
@chrystalia (1208)
• Tucson, Arizona
17 Dec 12
Definitely sounds like a mid life crisis going on, to me. With any luck, your son will find a way to get you and his family together for the holidays--as to your daughter,I doubt there is much you can do about the way she is acting--she seems to be in the wrong on this, but unless she sees that herself, it won't change any time soon--which is sad for all of you, she's not just hurting you, after all--she is also hurting herself and other family members.
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
21 Dec 12
For some reason this daughter likes to hurt my. She is the only one of my 3 who is like that. I know my other daughter and son love me and they show it whenever they can. As it stands she is coming over Sun and she surprised the heck out of me by doing this.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
17 Dec 12
Hopefully, you get to spend the day with your son and his family.
Your daughter definitely has some issues going on if that's all it takes to have that huge of a falling out. I've had fallings out with people, but it took more than just one tiny thing--even if a tiny thing was the breaking point, there were numerous other problems leading up to the thing that finally tipped the scale.
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I'm glad that is settled. 
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
17 Dec 12
All I really want for Christmas probaly won't happen. It is very evil and disgusting. I wish my dad would die by Christmas! He is 88 years old and still a pain in my life! He verbally abused me for years and I still struggle with low confidence thaks to him! I know when he is gone,I will have the whole world taken off my shoulders! The root of most of my problems will vainish! I can't wait for this to happen! It is already over due!
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@marguicha (223851)
• Chile
17 Dec 12
How can he still hsve do much power over you at that age? Don`t mind him, dear, andremember that we all should lead happy lives.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
17 Dec 12
sounds good to me.. My son is in the usa and Im here in Mexico city, mexico he calls me on sundays.. today he said mama what do you want for christmas... I said to have you here. i know thats not possible. Made me cry.....
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
17 Dec 12
I read in your other discussion I have previously responded to that you will be spending Christmas with your son and d/i/l and her mum, I really hope your daughter comes round, it sounds a bit trivial if you don't mind me saying on the scale of things? When you hear about the killings in the school and how life can turn bad at any moment it is important to make sure you have no grudges with your nearest and dearest and to appreciate them at every opportunity, because tomorrow may be too late. I hope she finds it in her heart to forgive you, you only get one mum.
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@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Well, I hope that you will we able to get our Christmas wish come true. Truly there is no better gift than have the family all in for the Christmas season. There are so many gifts out there but being with the ones you love is definitely the greatest gift of all. Wish you the best and may your Christmas be wonderful...
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
17 Dec 12
Hi how far from your son do you Live?
if it close by just crash in on them if they do not ask
you to come, if not give them a call and ask what the plans
are and are they able to help you get there
ok have a nice xmas.
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@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
17 Dec 12
I only want to spend holiday and have vacation with my boyfriend We have planned since last year but there always something to do with his job that we have to cancel all our plan, AGAIN. I don't wish for thing,, only a quality time with my love one. Merry Christmas all
We have planned since last year but there always something to do with his job that we have to cancel all our plan, AGAIN. I don't wish for thing,, only a quality time with my love one. Merry Christmas all1 person likes this
@41CombedaleRoad (5955)
• Greece
17 Dec 12
I hope your son gives you that Christmas present and that you have a warm and wonderful day. As for your daughter perhaps after Christmas your son will tell her how much she has missed by being so unkind to her mother.
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@BethelSophia (538)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
I am sorry to hear about this story of you. I understand what you are feeling right now.It's not easy as a mom to experience that for a a mom all we want to do is to be loved and loved our children, our family. I think your daughter has an emotional problem that she's not able to share with you and instead of sharing it, she tried to hide it and acts like what she's acting now. I don't have the right to say anything but I think it's time to go to your daughter and tell her what you want and feel. Ask her also why she's acting that way. Tell her how much you love her, and how much your hurt.
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@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
I'm sorry for that about your daughter. I hope that everything will be settled about her. Maybe you should talk to your daughter and tell her how much you love her. Explain to her everything about the DVD thing. I think she needs to hear more about you as a mother and a family. Just a suggestion.
Have a blessed Christmas to come!
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
17 Dec 12
I think it is more then the Dvd and it could mean she is going through menopause. You have to talk with her. By the way, are you sure that it is only menopause? Is she losing her memory or forgetting simple things? Does she get depressed? I think maybe you should try to get her to see a doctor. Or else she is trying to forget their father passing by emerging herself in fun. She has to face facts and stop blaming everyone for her misfortune.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
18 Dec 12
I am going to be optimistic that this will be a wonderful Christmas and I hope that you will write about it soon.
I sincerely wish that your daughter is receiving some professional and medical assistance for whatever she is going through. Withdrawing is never a healthy option, she needs to be "distracted" with good company of her favorite friends, siblings, favorite activities and most of all, an ever open loving mother you are.
What she is experiencing (if it is accurate) is nothing strange to you and I am sure that you would have something in your past to help her out of her ordeal. However, we should not be careless and ignore the need for the medical professionals.
I wish you all happy holidays ahead.
