Why do people marry even when they don't have money?

maybe the girl is pregnant. Usually this is the reason on sudden marriage. the girl is pregnant.

I think they marry because they love each other and money is not love . Not because she is dont have a lot of money dont mean she should not have love and marriage . Well maybe their love will strengthen them and make they realize they need a job . The other story you mention is just plain rush , they want to get marry just so he wont lose her but well not all person will wait around forever so he do have a point .I just wish them luck and hope things will turn around for them . I have faith in them because people constantly say I am too young to get married but you can only understand when its happening to you and you love someone and just want to be with them forever .

You are very sensible and 100% correct. Both of these marriages are probably doomed.

Guess it's for love. I totally agree with you about the financial aspect, but then I know about couples who didn't have much money to start their wedded life together, yet are rich now. To marry you don't need much, unless you're planning on a big wedding reception. You need to pay for the license, the minister(?) or judge, and in some countries, medical tests. It wouldn't be right to expect or ask someone else to shoulder the expenses for their wedding. Your cousin & future wife should show responsibility for embarking on this chapter of their lives. As for your bf's friend, he should show the same sense of responsibility if he's at all serious about marrying his girlfriend. Has he even proposed yet? What if his gf says no? Personally, I think it's even more irresponsible for adults to have kids they can't support. If you don't have money to marry, you shouldn't have children (which are sure to follow).

Well, in these days marriage has turned into ancient history and there aren't many people who get married. In the case of your cousin I think they're rushing a bit. They can get financial help from your uncle and it's normal for a parent to support their child in the biggest day of her life, but what if is under the form of a loan? Have they ever thought how they will return that loan? In my country it's common that parents on both sides cover the wedding expenses and the young couple does not have to return the money to their parents, but it's in my country, I don't know about yours. Anyway, in the time of crisis they can just live together without getting married (if your society is open to that kind of living with the significant other) until they have the financial ground to do so, especially if she's not pregnant yet. On the other case - the reason for rushing for marriage (oh, someone else will steal her from me!) is stupid and humiliating for the girl. No other comment.

I agree in a way. Marriage is something that should not be rushed or just thrown around like a ball just like love shouldn't. But, sometimes when you love someone you cant help those feelings. Me and my kids dad are getting married by the end of the year and we are not financially all the way together but we want to atleast get the marriage license before the end of the year and do the wedding later. Marring someone just because you dont want no one else to have them isnt a good reason at all though.

Tis is the reason why me and my wife got married a title bit late. We saved enough money first to insure that we will not be asking anyone for financial support during our wedding. I am proud to say that our wedding was a success without asking anyone for any monetary support even from our parents. Well, I think there are those that are not mature enough to know what marriage is all about as well as e responsibly that comes along with it. There are also those that rely to their parents for support. Regardless of what, I think it is more fulfilling to be able to stand up on our own when it comes to marriage.

That should have been the most ideal set-up Aja. We should only marry when we are financially capable to raise a family. However, today people marry for the wrong reasons so much so that even with the lack of money, they would still push through with it. It could be because the girl may be pregnant and so the reason for the rush.

In a lot of place where people live people want big weddings which does coast a lot of money. Many people and families don't want there children or themselves to have a small wedding or to even if they have it where they live a civil marriage which is done by the court or justice of the peace. When me and my husband got married we went to the court and got married that way which is a civil wedding and all we paid for was our marriage liences.

That's new getting married but no budget for such occasion. I do think they need to think over marrying without asking financial support. I can't imagine if they have their own children.

If one is going to marry one should really be prepared emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually, and financially. Marriage is something serious and a big responsibility because each partner has commitment with each other. Have a nice day!

I agree with you. Marriage is not supposed to be rush. I grew up with divorce parents and my parents got married at the right age, around 28 with them having a job. But it still didn't work out. I know that not all young people divorced, some marriage survived although they married young especially if they have moral and financial support from their parents. But why would you let your parents support you financially even if it's only for a while when you can get married at the right time when you're already financially stable. marrying because you don't want to lose the other person is equally insane as if the person really love you, she will wait for the right time. Don't trapped someone into marriage. I', glad you're thinking the right way and I hope everything will be okay with your cousin.

Marriage is not something to play with and I think it's a serious matter when 2 people decide it's time. They should just not draw other people into their plans. Do they want to impress people with a huge function? I think that is so stupid since you mentioned they do not have the funds. If they then must get married, why not just invite their parents?

Money have nothing to do with marriage. Love means feeling and if they really love each other they can marry. Money means financial, which you have to take care of yourself and family. You can marry without or little money, if you really like someone.

I have known people who have hurriedly married but these are due to the woman being pregnant already. :D Sometimes those who get married and are not really prepared could only be one of these both, first, they are too young and in love to be told not to be married... and then there is the second type or partners who are already "running out of time! hahaha :D i mean they are in a hurry to be married because they are already of age and they need to start a family already. hehe

In your first situation, I do not think its good to marry a man without money. That man should have job first before it settle for marriage. They are eager to be married. So, I would not agree first for their marriage. In your second situation, I am not still agree for both marriage of your boyfriend's friend. It is too much young for a young girl to be married and no job at all. This situation is not good.

Marriage is not a game. If they would get into that they should have prepared ahead. Then it's up to the nearest family members if they will give support financially. Young men or women should not rush marrying for in the end they will only suffer the consequences when they enter marriage without preparing for it. Well, anyway, there are some who succeed even they settle in their early years.

That is an issue for me too. The reason why I don't have plans until now to marry is because I know starting a family is not free. It comes with a lot of expenses. Right now, my money is just enough for myself. How can I afford to have another one to share my money or even be able to raise a family? My parents just start their marriage with no jobs, they just get married. So we had a very difficult life because they seem to just want to jump into it while leaving the money issue by God's mercy. In my own frame of mind I don't know why they have such a great courage to start a family when they don't experience working or being employed? But then, when they started to have children they are forced to work and look for jobs to sustain us. Lots of couples are irresponsible. They produce lots of babies but has no stable job? Where are they getting the money to pay for the milk and diapers?

I agree with you on this. Couples needs to make sure whether they're really ready for another level, which is marrying. If two person decides it's time for them to build a family of their own. They need to consider a lot of things... like what you said, money, food, shelter are to be considered. It is so difficult now to start a family if only one is working especially if salary isn't enough to raise a family. No one can live in the world with only love especially at this time now. Although I still think that couples can still go ahead with their plan even with less money/income as long as they can both get married without asking anyone, relatives, friends to support their wedding. It is their wedding and they suppose to be spending for it. If they don't have money for the wedding, I guess they can delay it or they can do a very simple one.

We will should marry when we have everything fully.both of good work ,finance.wedding not enough for me. We will must arrive at the third party to is will born, that a child. We will must fully can give them everything for good them growth will in the future.